Desperately Seeking Help for my Brother

[Rosie1958]

Hi Junior02

I'm glad to hear that you daughter has recovered, that must have been a very worrying time for you. Thanks for asking about my brother, he hasn't shown any signs of recovery so far. After nearly 5 weeks, he is still unable to speak, eat, sit up, stand, is incontinent and is often completely vacant. On a good day, he will manage a smile if he recognises anyone. Sadly, his 6 year old son went to visit this weekend and he didn't recognise him at all.

My brother lives in Malaysia and he is not part of the Philippines ex-pat community, he has a few business contacts there but that's it. The embassy will not assist with any financial help and all that I can do is try to support/ obtain settlement visas for his partner and son hoping that they will view it with compassion. I have to remain optimistic .......... it's my brothers only hope as without his partner, there will not be anyone to care for him.

[junior02]

Hi Junior02

I'm glad to hear that you daughter has recovered, that must have been a very worrying time for you. Thanks for asking about my brother, he hasn't shown any signs of recovery so far. After nearly 5 weeks, he is still unable to speak, eat, sit up, stand, is incontinent and is often completely vacant. On a good day, he will manage a smile if he recognises anyone. Sadly, his 6 year old son went to visit this weekend and he didn't recognise him at all.

My brother lives in Malaysia and he is not part of the Philippines ex-pat community, he has a few business contacts there but that's it. The embassy will not assist with any financial help and all that I can do is try to support/ obtain settlement visas for his partner and son hoping that they will view it with compassion. I have to remain optimistic .......... it's my brothers only hope as without his partner, there will not be anyone to care for him.

hi rosie i hope that your brother dose get better and im sure he will, and i do no what you are going through, and thanks for the kind words regarding my daughter, and like i said to you b4 your brother is in good hands in rp hospitals. has your brother got any american friends ther in philippines or malaysia with contacts in guam?

[Rosie1958]

Hi

I realise that Guam is only about 1500 miles away from Philippines and that it is "occupied" by the US military. Not sure of the relevance of Guam but there is one American that I know of in the Philippines. Please can you clarify?

The doctors in the Philippines do not appear to have any experience of my brother's illness which is why I am very keen to get him back to the UK and they are fully supporting this.

[junior02]

Hi

I realise that Guam is only about 1500 miles away from Philippines and that it is "occupied" by the US military. Not sure of the relevance of Guam but there is one American that I know of in the Philippines. Please can you clarify?

The doctors in the Philippines do not appear to have any experience of my brother's illness which is why I am very keen to get him back to the UK and they are fully supporting this.

hi rosie has your brother been in the armed forces?

[Rosie1958]

Hi ......... No, he hasn't?

[junior02]

Hi ......... No, he hasn't?

i cannot give you info if your brother hasnt been in forces. but if your not happy with the healthcare in rp for your brother, then guam has hospitals that are us standerd, the same as on mainland us, thats if your brother can fly, with airline doctors and the hospitals agreement. but he will need a nurse to travel with him and it will cost a far bit, but much cheaper than flight to uk.they have top class hospitals on guam. i will be going to rp this month and will be visiting friends in guam, if thats any help to you...

[kevinbrown10]

In the period of recovery patient needs more care. Today, there are several options are available for that in the form of Home Care.
In home care you can see two categories one is full time and other one is part time. Those that do not need medical attention 24 hour can choose part time home care as an option. In this option, caregiver is hired to visit for a few hours each morning. Decides what needs to be done and then leaves the patient to his own routine. . In full time homecare nurses are hired to work full day, they leave in night and return back to the next morning. By this option patient never feel alone and the privacy of patient never get disturbed.

[Arthur Little]

In the period of recovery patient needs more care. Today, there are several options are available for that in the form of Home Care.
In home care you can see two categories one is full time and other one is part time. Those that do not need medical attention 24 hour can choose part time home care as an option. In this option, caregiver is hired to visit for a few hours each morning. Decides what needs to be done and then leaves the patient to his own routine. . In full time homecare nurses are hired to work full day, they leave in night and return back to the next morning. By this option patient never feel alone and the privacy of patient never get disturbed.

... thanks, Kevin for posting this information.

[Rosie1958]

Thanks Rosie for another heartwarming update.
BTW, how are his wife and son managing with their new life here in UK??

Thanks Terpe, my brother’s partner and his son have settled in well in the UK. She is working part-time and enjoys her job but is homesick for her family. My 7 year old nephew loves school and is doing very well. His accent is changing and he sounds just like a little English boy. It has been an extremely difficult time for them both but they are now very excited and looking forward to going back to the Philippines for Christmas and will be there for a month.

I look like that normally

Poor Rayna!!!!

its realy good to read how your brother is progressing, god bless

Imagine, thank you for your kind comments and god bless you too

In the period of recovery patient needs more care. Today, there are several options are available for that in the form of Home Care.
In home care you can see two categories one is full time and other one is part time. Those that do not need medical attention 24 hour can choose part time home care as an option. In this option, caregiver is hired to visit for a few hours each morning. Decides what needs to be done and then leaves the patient to his own routine. . In full time homecare nurses are hired to work full day, they leave in night and return back to the next morning. By this option patient never feel alone and the privacy of patient never get disturbed.

Thank you Kevin for sharing that information. It is now a year to this very day since my brother first went missing and was found in the Philippines suffering from damage to his brain. He has made some very good progress but he is still not at a stage where he is able to do much for himself and needs constant supervision and help. He has double incontinence, forgets what he is doing, wanders off and cannot be left alone. He is currently too much for his Filipina partner to handle at home in the tiny house being rented, although the house could of course be changed but finances will not stretch to much. There are all sorts of social, financial and medical complications and at present, he has regular assessments to determine whether continuous care funding is still appropriate. I don’t really know where to turn next as I am not receiving any support ........... I will however, request a meeting with the nursing home manager soon and will consider options. (The advice when I met her last was to stay put.) In the meantime, I just need the care to continue for him and pray that the damage will continue to heal with time.