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    First argument and source of friction in the UK!

    Pia and I met online on 30th August 2005. things progressed rapidly and swimmingly for a couple of months until I made a foolish decision which resulted in us not communicating for several months. It was not a fall-out at all just a foolish decision on my part.

    Anyway, eventually He intervened and we met in person August 2006 and have never looked back.

    The surprising thing is that Pia and i have never once had an argument or cross word with each other or a disagreement. the most we have had were the following three things:
    1. I told her I could not pursue our relationship for reasons I was too weak to contest
    2. I was insecure and lied about something I could easily have told her


    Anyway, I soon cracked under the weight of the first decision and the way she handled the second left me in awe and confirmed her status as a biblical woman who can change her husband's heart through her conduct and not angry words.

    We will fight at some point, its inevitable and we wonder what it is likely to be over the first time...money, kids, family remittances. The way we handle that initial fight will be a key determinant of how we will handle things in the future I guess.

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    What were your first arguments/disagreements about when you were apart and what is the primary cause of friction now that you are living together in the UK? The TV remote control?
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    So, maybe it should be "Her time is always the right time!"


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    Quote Originally Posted by aposhark View Post
    So, maybe it should be "Her time is always the right time!"
    Or sup to me, sup to you, as someone previously posted!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Piamed View Post
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    What were your first arguments/disagreements about when you were apart and what is the primary cause of friction now that you are living together in the UK?
    I'm never serious long enough to argue!
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    No arguments, only a couple of misunderstandings, which resulted in a bit of Tampo.
    But that was soon sorted.


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    Somehow, I don't find that too hard to believe boss!

    I think also, that I just don't see the need and hate arguing. Pia too!
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    Hardly ever argue, how can you argue with someone who just goes quiet? seriously the only friction we have had either in Hong Kong, Palawan or more recently here in the UK is when I suggest doing something, going somewhere etc and nothing is said in support or against so we go ahead. A few days/weeks/months later the subject will come up and Ligaya will say she did not really enjoy the event and was not really fussed in the first place or whatever and when asked why she did not say at the time she will say well you seemed to want to go and I want you to be happy, nice but half the time I arranged the outing FOR HER!!. I always encourage her to make her opinions known but often she does not, this may because she was a girl at home on the farm with four brothers or becasue she worked for several EMPLOYERS in Hong Kong and Singapore where the last thing she would be asked for was her opinion. She is becoming slowly more forthright and I love it. She is very intelligent and has tons of common sense. I VALUE her opinion and I think marriage works best as a true partnership.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scott&ligaya View Post
    Hardly ever argue, how can you argue with someone who just goes quiet? seriously the only friction we have had either in Hong Kong, Palawan or more recently here in the UK is when I suggest doing something, going somewhere etc and nothing is said in support or against so we go ahead. A few days/weeks/months later the subject will come up and Ligaya will say she did not really enjoy the event and was not really fussed in the first place or whatever and when asked why she did not say at the time she will say well you seemed to want to go and I want you to be happy, nice but half the time I arranged the outing FOR HER!!. I always encourage her to make her opinions known but often she does not, this may because she was a girl at home on the farm with four brothers or becasue she worked for several EMPLOYERS in Hong Kong and Singapore where the last thing she would be asked for was her opinion. She is becoming slowly more forthright and I love it. She is very intelligent and has tons of common sense. I VALUE her opinion and I think marriage works best as a true partnership.
    Great reply. Ligaya sounds really loving and sweet. I know what you mean. I think it was joebloggs that posted the 'Sup to you, Sup to me' thread. Not sure if you've seen it. Pia and I are always teasing each other about it. When I sometimes ask her things she says 'Sup to you but when I'm there, sup to me, so good luck'.

    Like you, I also value my wife's accommodating, caring and tolerant nature but I also love and respect her smartness and do consider her opinion and view on all things (except the red sofa and red car honey ain't happnin'). As far as i'm concerned cars only come in 2 colours, black and silver!
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    sorry in answer to the first bit of your question our first arguement was over which exit in Central was the most conveniant for the Mandarin Oriental when it was rainingl!!................ she was right and I got wet she did not and was very smug.
    Live your life for a reason and don't worry be happy

    if you don't know where you are going then any road will do!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by scott&ligaya View Post
    sorry in answer to the first bit of your question our first arguement was over which exit in Central was the most conveniant for the Mandarin Oriental when it was rainingl!!................ she was right and I got wet she did not and was very smug.
    I suspect Pia would have been right too!
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    We never argue, she just calls me Bobo, or Gago, at the end of every phrase, or at the end of every phrase, she tells me to Shat up ! Bobo !

    We always argue over her remittances to her siblings, school fees for neices, Mama's broken roof, the vet bill for the family carabou, the tyres for her brothers motor cycle, the monthly sack of Thai fragrant rice, the frequent urgent life threatening requests, Hospital bills for the Lola,

    And a partridge in a pear tree !.

    Mabuhay !"


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    Quote Originally Posted by ginapeterb View Post
    We never argue, she just calls me Bobo, or Gago, at the end of every phrase, or at the end of every phrase, she tells me to Shat up ! Bobo !
    LOL, I love that, 'shat up!'. How Freudian too.

    We always argue over her remittances to her siblings, school fees for neices, Mama's broken roof, the vet bill for the family carabou, the tyres for her brothers motor cycle, the monthly sack of Thai fragrant rice, the frequent urgent life threatening requests, Hospital bills for the Lola,

    And a partridge in a pear tree !.

    Mabuhay !"
    Thanks for this Pete! I imagine Pia and I have this to come but will work it out as everyone else seems to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aromulus View Post
    No arguments, only a couple of misunderstandings, which resulted in a bit of Tampo.
    But that was soon sorted.
    That's the beauty of love and maturity combined with a unified commitment to your marriage! Not sure why your post has only just appeared, God bless you both!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ginapeterb View Post
    We never argue, she just calls me Bobo, or Gago, at the end of every phrase, or at the end of every phrase, she tells me to Shat up ! Bobo !

    We always argue over her remittances to her siblings, school fees for neices, Mama's broken roof, the vet bill for the family carabou, the tyres for her brothers motor cycle, the monthly sack of Thai fragrant rice, the frequent urgent life threatening requests, Hospital bills for the Lola,

    And a partridge in a pear tree !.

    Mabuhay !"



    anyways, my hubby and I so far never argue..maybe because he's used to my sulking and pouting moment...he he he


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    Quote Originally Posted by kimmi View Post


    anyways, my hubby and I so far never argue..maybe because he's used to my sulking and pouting moment...he he he
    I'm sure he loves even that about you!
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    are u used to it now, Kuya Toks?


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    Pete, please enlighten me as to the meaning of these endearments:

    Bobo =

    Gago =

    Mabuhay! =


    Salamat, aposhark


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    [QUOTE=aposhark;67432]Pete, please enlighten me as to the meaning of these endearments:

    Bobo = Illiterate

    Gago = kind of swear word

    Mabuhay! = More Power



    Hope it helps..


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    Quote Originally Posted by kimmi View Post
    are u used to it now, Kuya Toks?
    Not had it yet but I'm sure I will love it so long as she is not unhappy for too long. making up will be great!
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    [QUOTE=kimmi;67433]
    Quote Originally Posted by aposhark View Post
    Pete, please enlighten me as to the meaning of these endearments:

    Bobo = Illiterate

    Gago = kind of swear word

    Mabuhay! = More Power



    Hope it helps..
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    Quote Originally Posted by aposhark View Post
    Pete, please enlighten me as to the meaning of these endearments:

    Bobo =

    Gago =

    Mabuhay! =


    Salamat, aposhark
    Shat = past tense of going for a number 2 but not intended in that use!
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    thanks for helping translating it Kuya Toks in a nice way..he he he


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    Quote Originally Posted by kimmi View Post
    thanks for helping translating it Kuya Toks in a nice way..he he he
    Walang anuman amiga (rough translation: you are welcome).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Piamed View Post
    Walang anuman amiga (rough translation: you are welcome).


    and how about the translation of amiga??he he he

    and btw, Ive noticed u keep on changing ur pics huh..


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    The question
    What were your first arguments/disagreements about when you were apart and what is the primary cause of friction now that you are living together in the UK? The TV remote control?[/quote]


    When hubby is seated at the passenger seat teaching me to drive, he critisize most of the way I drive, he is worst than a grumpy driving examiner.

    So I said sod off, I prefer my ADI, he just have to pay £22.00 per hour lesson.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ginapeterb View Post
    We never argue, she just calls me Bobo, or Gago, at the end of every phrase, or at the end of every phrase, she tells me to Shat up ! Bobo ! [/B]
    The more I read this, the more it creases me up.
    I think because those words are heading my way


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    to argue i would have to speak to her

    we never argue, i've had a couple of things thrown at me, not bad for nearly 8yrs, but not been hit once yet


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    Quote Originally Posted by joebloggs View Post
    ..... i've had a couple of things thrown at me, not bad for nearly 8yrs, but not been hit once yet
    More of a miracle considering the size of your head
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    my gf is like a ticking time bomb and im only the one playing,instead of being in a quiet sulk its only a matter of time before she explodes and tells me what she thinks(which strangly is what i prefer,than keeping quiet).

    as lovely as she is,i have to admit for the first time in my life im under the thumb everytime we argue,as its me who always saying sorry!

    you havent had a arguement yet? i wouldnt like to say the amount of times we argue on yahoo,this is over such nonsense i cant even remember what started any of them,at least my gf as the spirit to speak up and tell me how she feeling but i think really she just cant control her anger lol.


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    Quote Originally Posted by bornatbirth View Post
    my gf is like a ticking time bomb and im only the one playing,instead of being in a quiet sulk its only a matter of time before she explodes and tells me what she thinks(which strangly is what i prefer,than keeping quiet).

    as lovely as she is,i have to admit for the first time in my life im under the thumb everytime we argue,as its me who always saying sorry!

    you havent had a arguement yet? i wouldnt like to say the amount of times we argue on yahoo,this is over such nonsense i cant even remember what started any of them,at least my gf as the spirit to speak up and tell me how she feeling but i think really she just cant control her anger lol.
    I am always supprised by my girls regular blowups but there is now a pattern developing conected to her period so its making me anticipate and be prepared to be extra patient at the build up to the full moon


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