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2nd November 2016 #31
Hi Steve! i am doing fine thank you and in the process of getting all my docs sorted for my ILR appln soon. hopefully i can book my appt with PEO next week (fingers crossed). just feeling nervous though
if its a success then that's the time i can really plan on what to do with my life so really i hope it will be granted
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2nd November 2016 #32
i remember clearly, as soon as keith posted our wedding pics, friend requests from my kin started pouring in on his FB page. told him who to accept or not with a specific instruction that if they ask him for help or loan to tell me first and i will deal with them. don't want to give them the impression that they can go straight to him if they need help just because he's now a family. i do sympathize with Terpe and really commend him & the wife for helping her family. i would do the same thing too but only for someone who rightly deserve it so
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2nd November 2016 #33
Hi Terpe! i take my hats off to you & your wife for going out of your way to help him out. not many would do the same thing as they will look after their family's welfare first. taking medicine course doesn't come cheap plus it take so many years to finish and with his job to boot it will not be easy for him. i understand that he has a job now good enough to support his own family so maybe the thought of taking medicine comes into mind because he knows that you can/will support him? both your intentions are good (you & the nephew) but can you both cope in the end?
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3rd November 2016 #34
Seeing as you have already started down the road then see it through. I do not wish to criticise folks but we all see plenty of good causes amongst our Fils families and I guess if it no real hardship to you then keep going for it. Problems will only start for you and your own relationship when your money begins to run out. You are just a vehicle for them. Like a hire car you are there to be used and abused. Nephews, Neices, brothers, sisters, cousins. So many worthy causes.
I often wondered to myself what kind of person you need to be to live in the Fil as the husband of a Filipina and I think you need to be a bit of a B #####D because if you are a nice guy they will just chew you up and spit you out. That is why I can never contemplate living there.
From my own personal experience of helping out I would say dont bother helping the men help the girls instead because they are more mature and likely to sincerly appreciate what you do.
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3rd November 2016 #35
Keith and I don't send money to my family in the Philippines. They have more money than us..haha
My mum even told me to use my credit card to buy things I want and she would pay the bill!
We do send some gifts sometimes during special occasions if we can afford it.
-=rayna.keith=-
...When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible...
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4th November 2016 #36
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What an odd statement to make. I wonder where that came from and why.
You know nothing about us and nothing about our relationship.
Well as for me, I'm the husband of a Filipina. I also live in the Philippines. Never considered myself to a B #####D
Neither has my wife, her family, friends or those that know us. We believe we fit into what could be termed 'normal'
We all have different experiences and very different frames of reference.
Yours is not just different from mine but poles apart.
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4th November 2016 #37
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8th November 2016 #38
Lucky for you
That is a good situation to be in. But probably very much in the minority amongst the members here. When we visit the Fil I wish I could use my mother in laws credit card
I am sorry Terpe as I do not mean to criticise or pass comment on anybody in particular. We are all in different situations and like you say my statements are experiences taken from my own frame of reference which is poles apart from yours.
I helped one of my wifes brothers sons through college because he was a sensible kid. No smoking drinking gambling womanising. He had a steady girlfriend. Once he graduated he got a job in the middle east. Two year contract. Before he went his girlfriend became pregnant. He came back a year later to see his son and before he went back she was pregnant again. He was good at his job and he got another contract. But then he met a Filipina over there, married her and got her pregnant. As a side note the Filipina is Muslim so he had to converted to Islam to marry her.
So now his ex girlfriend has two of his kids and they are all staying with my wifes brothers family who are struggling to support themselves let alone them as well. But they do it because that is the Filipino way and it is to be very much admired. The guy sends very little if any help back home to them because he now has his own family living with him to support.
I feel so sorry for that girl as her future is now ruined. Who will want her with no prospects and two of somebody elses kids?.........I thought when I was helping him through college I was doing something good and that one day they could be a happy successful family. But when I look back at it what I did was to play my own part in ruining that girls future. If I had not helped him maybe they would still be together.
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8th November 2016 #39I thought when I was helping him through college I was doing something good and that one day they could be a happy successful family. But when I look back at it what I did was to play my own part in ruining that girls future. If I had not helped him maybe they would still be together.
Your fault??
Give yourself a large slap around the chops man!!!
Thats like saying that whilst filling up your car with petrol,this young fella came up and begged you for a fiver for enough gas for him to get home...
You give the poor little numpty a fiver.
On his way home he got into a fatal pile up and was splattered all over the M1...
What an absolute do gooder slaughtering twot you turned out to be!!!!
Give it a rest...Please!
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