Family values

[stevewool]

You hear about the loving family we support ourselves and muck in together, THE FAMILY VALUES, its called, but does it exist,
Have you got a story that its alive and kicking or a story about its dead and long gone,

[Tawi2]

Different for everyone,some families are fragmented and fractured,some are tight and cohesive,you can choose your friends but not your family

[marksroomspain]

Lucky myself as well as my lovely lady and our little boy we have my father living with us who turns 80 in 2 weeks and would have it no other way also extremely close to my sister who comes down each morning before work. My brother on the other hand we are worlds apart and don't bother with each other...

[Tawi2]

Pinoy families are much the same but the politics and dynamics within each group are even more bizarre at times,whatever anyone tells you about pinoy family values I have seen enough families in the PI to realise thats not true for all

[stevewool]

Pinoy families are much the same but the politics and dynamics within each group are even more bizarre at times,whatever anyone tells you about pinoy family values I have seen enough families in the PI to realise thats not true for all

indeed

[Terpe]

Pinoy families are much the same but the politics and dynamics within each group are even more bizarre at times,whatever anyone tells you about pinoy family values I have seen enough families in the PI to realise thats not true for all

Double indeed.

I've come to the conclusion that the Pinoy family values 'glue' is largely myth.

[Tawi2]

Double indeed.

I've come to the conclusion that the Pinoy family values 'glue' is largely myth.

It is,I have a book-full of personal experiences and observations to back up the pinoy-families-aint-that-perfect argument

[stevewool]

It is,I have a book-full of personal experiences and observations to back up the pinoy-families-aint-that-perfect argument

No family is perfect but its when they think they are, thats when the problems start

[Michael Parnham]

No family is perfect but its when they think they are, thats when the problems start

I can never remember my mother ever saying she loved me or giving me a hug, never knew she was my mother until I was about 9 or 10 years old, but it never bothered me because I never new any different, it bothers me now though!

[stevewool]

Most probably it was there a few years back but time moves on and we all want the best for our children so who then comes first the children or your Parents,
If only it could be a case of giving and sharing to both, rather then forgetting and hopefully someone else can sort it out , whats the saying bury your head in sand

[Terpe]

As for me, I've always believed that we owe our children everything, but they owe us nothing.

As a kid I knew we had a large large family and I also knew my mum and dad held reasons not to be close.
I later discovered that they both found it difficult to give in to the constant requests for emergency help. We didn't have much of anything really but it didn't deter the leaches from taking whatever they could get a away with.

[Arthur Little]

As for me, I've always believed that we owe our children everything, but they owe us nothing.

Yep, me 'n' all!

[Ako Si Jamie]

As for me, I've always believed that we owe our children everything, but they owe us nothing.

Proves what a decent fella you are Peter . Pity the selfish religious loons I got lumbered with didn't share the same sentiments. They even had the brass neck to admit I was only brought into this world to look after them when they're older. I may well have done if they hadn't put their buddy in the sky before me and my sister leaving us without any emotional support for our entire childhoods .

[stevewool]

Thats a good word Leaches, I shall have to remember that one rather than the Evil one

[Arthur Little]

... but it didn't deter the leaches from taking whatever they could get away with.

Thats a good word Leaches, I shall have to remember that one ...

... leach ... ... isn't it 'leech' for the parasite?

... not trying to be pedantic here ... ... it's just I once knew folks called Leach.

Oops, - my mistake - their name was spelt Leitch.

[grahamw48]

My own siblings and mum here in UK are pretty close, though all physically living in different towns. Plenty of mutual respect and affection.

[Arthur Little]

Family values, IMO, are paramount to a civilised Society.

Now I've no wish to stir up a hornet's nest ... but I've said it before - and I'll say it again - I peronally feel standards have dropped since mothers with pre-school-age children started going out to work en masse.

[London_Manila]

You hear about the loving family we support ourselves and muck in together, THE FAMILY VALUES, its called, but does it exist,
Have you got a story that its alive and kicking or a story about its dead and long gone,

Family values in the Philippines seems to center around financial gain

Allow me to widen the debate further on financial matters in the Philippines
I have yet to meet anybody in the Philippines who has a clue about money or how to spend it
Here in the UK we are brought up to believe that saving some money for emergencies is prudent
That just does not happen in the Phills whatever money they have they will spend and only start to think about money when all their money has run out

Is this just different cultural behaviour or do we put it down to a lack of education on financial matters ?

[Ako Si Jamie]

Family values in the Philippines seems to center around financial gain

Allow me to widen the debate further on financial matters in the Philippines
I have yet to meet anybody in the Philippines who has a clue about money or how to spend it
Here in the UK we are brought up to believe that saving some money for emergencies is prudent
That just does not happen in the Phills whatever money they have they will spend and only start to think about money when all their money has run out

Is this just different cultural behaviour or do we put it down to a lack of education on financial matters ?

My friend who has been going to the Philippines for the past thirty years or so says exactly the same. Maybe they don't save their money because they don't want to part with what they saved when a family crisis arises.

[London_Manila]

My friend who has been going to the Philippines for the past thirty years or so says exactly the same. Maybe they don't save their money because they don't want to part with what they saved when a family crisis arises.

Yes maybe and if other members of their family find out that they have some savings then for sure they would have a great idea on how to spend it.......

I have seen some unbelievable situations over there regarding money.....
The rents due at the end of next week but this person thinks it fine to blow their last 2000 pesos on a night out with friends

[Michael Parnham]

Yes maybe and if other members of their family find out that they have some savings then for sure they would have a great idea on how to spend it.......

I have seen some unbelievable situations over there regarding money.....
The rents due at the end of next week but this person thinks it fine to blow their last 2000 pesos on a night out with friends

Very common in Philippines!

[London_Manila]

Very common in Philippines!

There seems no sense at all behind their spending habits and if anything they seem hellbent on making themselves poorer

If you try and point out that their spending habits maybe not such a great idea they just don't get it at all......
The attitude seems to be "oh well tonight i will be happy spending this money and having a great time with my friends and next week i will be depressed about having no money to pay the rent"

[grahamw48]

Similar experience for me Tawi, and I'm also like you are with your son. I try not to embarrass him too much now he's 21 and a very fit bodybuilder.

[stevewool]

The best thing my mum and dad gave me was common sense. It was bread into me, and I still use it and that's what a lot of people in this world are missing

[Ako Si Jamie]

The best thing my mum and dad gave me was common sense. It was bread into me, and I still use it and that's what a lot of people in this world are missing

That's the yeast they could do!

[London_Manila]

The best thing my mum and dad gave me was common sense. It was bread into me, and I still use it and that's what a lot of people in this world are missing

From what i have seen in the UK is = you are either good with money or not

Maybe it is taught in childhood but you cant change someone who is unwise on their spending habits and is normally broke....

[grahamw48]

They certainly seem happier and more sociable than most of the miserable buggers in this rich country.

[Ako Si Jamie]

They certainly seem happier and more sociable than most of the miserable buggers in this rich country.

That's true!

[London_Manila]

They certainly seem happier and more sociable than most of the miserable buggers in this rich country.

Us miserable buggers are too busy counting our money to be worried about happiness

[grahamw48]

If I stop wearing jeans I'll finally have become my dad.

They are practical, above all.