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16th February 2014 #92
I can probably say that your woman wanted assurance, and was also under pressure of what she's been seeing or probably people kept on asking or already judging your relationship, since you are in long distance relationship, waiting for the right time is very not ideal but I will say that you made the right decision to know yourself what you really want first and not went to the flow of pressure. I hope you're not feeling bad, you just made it for yourself and I will not judge that as selfishness.
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16th February 2014 #94
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I agree Jen.
..and good post Nigel !
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16th February 2014 #96
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We never sent on a monthly basis Michael. .The wife was being touched every now and then out of the blue.
I remember one occasion the mother in law said she needed rotting teeth removing etc. Of course, we wasn't going to let that situation continue so funds was sent for extraction and denture replacement.
That was in a November.
Then Christmas came. .as always, I sent money under my own steam without prompt.
It came to light in the February the urgently required money sent for the teeth extraction and replacement was spent elsewhere.
Wife didn't have a problem with that so, we just picked some more off the money tree
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16th February 2014 #97
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No they didn't. ..no evidence was asked or provided. They took her word. As soon as one night is spent in a refuge, she's in.
The case worker didn't make life easy for her while in there. ..They know who's telling lies. Im afraid an abused battered woman have a certain something about them. They can not be thrown out. .normally the fakes leave of their own accord. They underestimated my wife. She's always been strong and confident.
The Judge threw the case out.
The council was still committed to rehousing no matter what the legal findings are.
Don't know what you are insinuating Joe . Past wives were willing to stand up for me in court. They included my grown up kids and my neighbours. I'm no brute so you can clear that nonsense from your head.
It was nothing to do with ILR or even British Citizenship. It was pure and simply to get rehoused. She didn't want me near my boys ..she didn't want my boys near my family. I was now dispensable, redundant to her needs.
If I'd left my house which is what she wanted..( gave me 3 months of hell ) then she would of copped the lot.
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16th February 2014 #98
Fair comment, until my wife found work I gave her a monthly allowance which I told her she was free to do what she wanted with so she sent so much home and used the rest for herself.
Now she's working I think she finally feels more proud that she can support them also our family, every penny counts.
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16th February 2014 #99
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16th February 2014 #100
sorry i was talking in general about DV and not about you,
EVIDENCE NEEDED FOR THE APPLICATION
http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/si...settlement.pdf
but since you've posted thisNo they didn't. ..no evidence was asked or provided. They took her word. As soon as one night is spent in a refuge, she's in.
councils have a legal obligation to house parents with children.
as forDon't know what you are insinuating Joe
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16th February 2014 #101
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You quoted my post. I stated that the bolded out bits happened to me.
'They' The local housing authority. She's as British as you and I Joe. She has British passport.
Yes, they have a responsibility to house homeless mothers and children. Unfortunately Joe it was on the basis of lies.
8 months ago she walked out of a good loving family home taking my babies with her.
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16th February 2014 #102
when my ex walked into a womans shelter after we had separated years before, i was not allowed to know where my daughter was living and was not allowed to collect her from there even though the ex went in there from another partner she was living with, if the man had done something wrong then so be it, but its very hard proving you are the innocent partner in any of this
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16th February 2014 #104
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A lot of emotional stuff here guys...been through the same thing myself.
Let's not wind each other up, eh. It's not nice...especially when only the people involved know the true situation.
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It was the same for me Steve. .when she blagged her way into that refuge I wasn't allowed anywhere near....wasn't allowed to see my boys. ..wasn't allowed to even try and find them.
It's different now. .she's been rehoused. I have legal rights to know where my boys are living. Unfortunately she's not going to tell me. The county court is going to have to extract it. Once again
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Just received my first negative rep ..cheers. Unfortunately they left no calling card.
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Hey! Don't be silly I'd forgotten about it until you mentioned it.
I've got a lot more serious things going on in my life without worrying about trivialities like negative rep. In fact it made me laugh. Nobody cared enough b4. .I'm grateful
I expect it was my darling wife anyway
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Thanks, that's right, I just don't want to go with the flow of pressure, and want to know its right for me, not just convenient for someone else. But, I do feel bad for her, I know how hard things are. But again, I mustn't let sympathy be a reason for ignoring my feelings. If I did allow sympathy to get the better of me, I would one day end up being full of resentment...
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16th February 2014 #116
This thread has become all mixed up
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Sipping Tanduay, listening to LOUD reggae music, dancing, and dreaming of my beautiful girl. Life is ok.
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18th February 2014 #120
Wow that was an interesting read some interesting points.
I think some people don't understand the closeness of the Filipino family. We marry these lovely ladies and expect them to give up their life and family and travel half way across the world to be with us. Surely it's not unreasonable for them to want to help their family or "share their blessings" as my wife says.
I have a 93yo mother who I would do anything for. Fortunately she doesn't need money so I am able to give her something far more valuable to her, my time. If she needed money I would give it as I would to any of my family if they were in desperate need. My wife actually looks forward to the time we spend with my mum and to see her doing a few chores or massaging my mums legs is to understand that my wife considers she married into our family. You can see in my mums face the delight she gets whenever we visit.
Which brings us to the lovely Filipino family that I married into. Sadly we are unable to give them as much of our time as we would like but fortunately we are able to help in other ways. My wife works hard and earns a good wage and I am fortunate that as both my girls are now working I have more disposable income than I've had for a long time. So we send a monthly allowance which includes the cost of schooling 2 boys within the house and they also understand that money is no object in the event of a medical emergency. We also have a few people that we help out occasionally but I must say this is more my doing than my wifes.
Marriage is about partnership it's about our wives accepting our values and in turn we have to accept theirs and if we can't do that then there are bound to be problems.
I'm not a religious person in any way but I always feel good about helping others out and besides you may as well spend it because you cant take it with you
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