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17th July 2013 #31
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18th July 2013 #32
Marriage is sacred. We all have differences but because of love we tend to find ways to resolve the issue and not running away from it.
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Hi Pat,
I suggest that if ever you will visit or stay here in the Philippines, you might be interested to attend a pre-cana seminar being handled by CEFAM at Ateneo. It can really help you a lot with regards to your relationship with your lovely girlfriend. It helped me and my fiancee on how we deal with our differences (cultural, emotional and spiritual). It'll explain the 'Authentic Love' and the 5 Languages of Love. hehe. it made feel like its First Love. ^_^
AJA!
“I am seeking, I am thriving, I am in it with all my heart.” - Vincent van Gogh
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20th July 2013 #33
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That sounds like a great idea. Thanks my friend.
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20th July 2013 #34
Some great advice already given but do of course keep your eyes and ears open. Is the family fully open and all the members apparent to you?
Are there any ticking time bombs waiting for you?
Sorry to sound clinical but it's worth thinking about and just noting anything which doesnt seem right. Many pinay just like people from all over the world are just looking for friendship and love but there are many examples both of users of this forum and elsewhere who have been sucked in on a long term scam.
She needs to get though university how did.her age.group peers in her family fund university?
Is there a house in good repair?
Are there any family members who have serious health issues?
Just ask how did you meet?
Why did she click with you and not someone else?
Does she mention other suitors?
Have you told her your situation and it might be worth a few times indicating your not a rich man the best relationships even between pinay and westerns have love at the centre not money, looks or visa status.
I know of very pretty, intelligent young girls be loyal to guys much older who are not well off, not good looking living in not the best house in the uk in happy long term relationships.
I know of many pinay who are loyal and loving whatever happens to the man they love. Hoping this is the case for you :-D
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21st July 2013 #35
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Yes, I can vouch for that. ...I also agree on Arthur's initial post as well. ..no good me subscribing my opinion, I'm currently going through the bitter and twisted stages. ...the bright light is that she don't wanna leave the Philippines. Always a good sign unless you plan on building a multimillion peso gaff then that wld throw a different complexion on matters. You are right, if the relationship goes pear shaped you do indeed lose everything. ....the only women I trust with my life are my Mother and Daughter. ..so don't mind me
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21st July 2013 #36
i cant add much more to this thread , many before have given very good advice, but in the end its what you feel that counts,
Just remember you are only here the once so enjoy it all
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21st July 2013 #37
Hi Bikerpat, My summing up of everything I have read so far is, you seem to have found a very genuine loving and caring young lady and my advice would be to go ahead with whatever plan you have for your future together. I will say, that I wish you and your lady all the best for the future and you can get all the help you need with anything you need to know from the members of this forum as you go along!
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21st July 2013 #38
Do your due diligence but if it works out & checks out then go for it. Life is too short.
But as others have said - do leave yourself a fall back position ( property etc in Ireland ) if everything does go pear shaped.
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21st July 2013 #39
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Highlander is right. ..you need a back up plan if only for peace of mind and a good night's sleep. ......I certainly wouldn't tempt fate, at least not again.
I agree with life bein too short and going for it etc. ..surely their has to be a balance between calculated risk and mindless stupidity, something I've been reminded of on a daily basis. I sure as hell wouldn't want other forum members to go through the same excrement as I am presently bein dragged through.
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22nd July 2013 #40
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Hi all,
Too many to reply to individually.
I love the honesty and openess of the members on this forum and I am not offended in any way by any comments or flattered by the positive comments (although I like them better).
I have know my g/f for 3 years. I know the family. I was just speaking with my g/f today and it's so uplifting listening to her and her excitment about out future plans.
She and her family know all about the crap I'm curently going through with a Thai woman I brought over from Wales and who after getting her Irish passport scarpered off to live with her sister in the West of Ireland. Initially the Thai woman was great but didn't stick around.
So because of that I am on full alert but there is no comparison between the two women.
There seems no issues with her family and I have clearly stated I am not a rich man, am retired on pension and will not be coming to Phils to support anyone but my g/f. I organised a meeting to clear this fact plus other matters so we're all in the clear before this goes any further. And I have not received any negative reaction from the family.
I speak regularly with an aunt of hers and some of her friends and they all they me she is madly in love with me and misses me everytime.
My g/f in Phils has no wish to leave the Philippines, she is very mature for her age. Has never tried to scam me and anytime we have been together she never drags me into shops to get me to spend etc.... She does not smoke, drinks very litte and only with me, eats shag all when we go out, and is so gentle and sweet to be around. Sometimes I don't even think she's in the room. She's very affectionate and as she says to me, I'm her teacher. When I met her first I was her first man and she said that her desire to meet me was built up over the 6 months we were chatting online. She admits to having many suitors back in her town and even in the jobs she worked in but she refused and still refuses them all. I have put an engagement ring on her finger and I think word is out that she's taken. Even when we're out guys look at her and she gets very uncomfortable and sometimes switches chairs so that she is not being stared at.
My mind is made up on her. My gut tells me go for it or I'll regret not doing this for the rest of my life. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without her. She has all the things I ever dreamed about in a woman.
However my plan will be to come to Phils, travel around until we find a suitable place to live, that we both like. Work off a budget that reasonable, save money but I will have funds back in Ireland that will be staying in Ireland.
I have other option in SEA should things not work out and I can always come back here if I wish.
But I have to admit it folks, I have fallen for my Filipina g/f and I hope our plans come through.
Thanks for taking the time to read my ramblings. Appreciate it very much and again feel free to write back.
Love you guys,
Pat
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22nd July 2013 #41
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Nice post Pat
We all wish you well.
Hope you'll continue to stay around, share you experiences, join the banter and humour and hopefully pick up some genuine help from a broad range of experience here.
Some here will be following the same path as you.
The Philippines is a marvelous, wonderful country and the people are the best in the world. So polite and hospitable and always willing to help.
The Philippines is pretty much the same as any other country, keep your wits about you, use good common sense, stay out of known trouble areas and you'll be OK.
Most of the negative moaning and complaining you'll hear is from people who were mostly unprepared for a move to another country and culture. They likely didn't do their homework.
Make no mistake the Philippines is different. Not bad, but different.
Many become upset because the Philippines isn't western enough. Not like UK
If you're looking for a life-copy of a Euro Zone country the you'll not find anything like that in the Philippines.
Better to stay in Ireland.
What I hope you'll discover is wonderful experience. A great country with great people who mostly have their own unique way of doing stuff. Read the forum, ask questions, search past postings and you'll gain a lot and minimise any unpleasant surprises.
It's a wise strategy to rent at first until you both find a place you're comfortable with.
I wish you good luck.
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23rd July 2013 #42
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Thanks Terpe,
That is so kind of you. I have been travelling to SEA since 1992 and have always felt I 'belong' in that region. So I have no hang-ups about living there especialy with the lovely g/f I have.
It'll take a bit of time to settle etc... but I'm leaving myself covered by keeping monies back in Ireland.
When I've been to Philipinnes or Thailand or Cambodia I have never had a problem in 21 years and I always seem to get on with people in both cities and rural places. I travel with a smile and I love meeting people. I'm no fool and will be careful of course and having her ladyship along will be of great help. She's a smart woman for her age and as she says I', your asawa and it's now my job to watch over you.
Am going to give it a try and thank you again for your words of encouragement.
Of course I'll keep in touch with this forum and would love to meet any of the forum people who live in Phils.
Regards,
Pat
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23rd July 2013 #43
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You'll be just fine mate
It's funny what you said, I too always felt more comfortable and more at home in Asia.
We'll both be fine I feel
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So are you out there now bikerpat?
Would be interesting to see how you got on 3 years later
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29th November 2015 #45
All the best to both of you Pat
Make the most of life.
Mick.
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29th November 2015 #46
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Yeah would be lovely to know how these two guys got on.
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29th February 2016 #47
If you're looking for somewhere for her to study, check out Dumaguete as it's known as a university town.
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