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    Jello. ..as a couple have just said ' this is typical Filipina behaviour' I beg to differ. ..more than likely the behaviour of someone with a personality disorder. My advice is to run. ..skip the dumping bit. ..change your phone numbers and set up new email accounts.
    Good luck

    Steve R....I sent you a rep for your last post here. ..unfortunately the rep was sent before I cld complete my comment

    I'm really happy to see all is working out for you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by gWaPito View Post
    My advice is to run. ..skip the dumping bit. ..change your phone numbers and set up new email accounts.
    Good luck
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    Quote Originally Posted by gWaPito View Post
    Jello. ..as a couple have just said ' this is typical Filipina behaviour' I beg to differ. ..more than likely the behaviour of someone with a personality disorder. My advice is to run. ..skip the dumping bit. ..change your phone numbers and set up new email accounts.
    Good luck

    Steve R....I sent you a rep for your last post here. ..unfortunately the rep was sent before I cld complete my comment

    I'm really happy to see all is working out for you.
    Good advice

    From this guys postings its easy to see that his young lady is just acting like a spoilt brat
    Using her temper tantrums to try and control him with added silly remarks
    Why should he hang around for more abuse and i am sure it would not be so difficult to find a replacement


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    the first issue is about the money for the university few days or weeks after she was too demanding and easily became insensitive... isn't it because you didn't give what she wants? if you have given her favor do you think she wont just react that way? yes she is childish but sometimes a university student can be very mature esp if she undergoes difficulties in life. I could see that your gf is a working student usually working students are the most mature young people here in PI. You could just end up into saying I need to think for this relationship but don't you also thought of understanding him because she might be undergoing difficulties, you can tell that because u have met her here, having arguments sometimes would be a better way to get to know each other I have proven that to my husband we have sometimes petty arguments but I tell you from there we become more mature and see our weak points, or consider your age gap, language barriers. We Filipinos knows English (of course not everybody) but it doesn't mean we could have the same level as the native speakers do (English men) How can you establish a relationship if you would easily give up? maybe its just a matter of how to deal with different culture and background. You like other race so be prepared teach her how to be mature, to be sensitive rather than being tactless Or when things wont really work out with you and her next time try not to get a college level, lol at least somebody who has a career or whoever they are as long as you feel she is the one, fight for it!


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    Quote Originally Posted by beejudge73 View Post
    the first issue is about the money for the university few days or weeks after she was too demanding and easily became insensitive... isn't it because you didn't give what she wants? if you have given her favor do you think she wont just react that way? yes she is childish but sometimes a university student can be very mature esp if she undergoes difficulties in life. I could see that your gf is a working student usually working students are the most mature young people here in PI. You could just end up into saying I need to think for this relationship but don't you also thought of understanding him because she might be undergoing difficulties, you can tell that because u have met her here, having arguments sometimes would be a better way to get to know each other I have proven that to my husband we have sometimes petty arguments but I tell you from there we become more mature and see our weak points, or consider your age gap, language barriers. We Filipinos knows English (of course not everybody) but it doesn't mean we could have the same level as the native speakers do (English men) How can you establish a relationship if you would easily give up? maybe its just a matter of how to deal with different culture and background. You like other race so be prepared teach her how to be mature, to be sensitive rather than being tactless Or when things wont really work out with you and her next time try not to get a college level, lol at least somebody who has a career or whoever they are as long as you feel she is the one, fight for it!
    Hi Beejudge..Welcome to the friendly FilipinoUk forum.

    Unfortunately I'm taking issue with your post. ;-)

    You say it's acceptable for his girlfriend to be like she is because he didn't give into her demand.

    You also say she is probably like she is because of life's difficulties. ..Hello! ..we have difficulties here as well. ..that doesn't turn the majority into nutters.

    You state that the boyfriend should adapt to the culture of the girlfriend. .I beg to differ. ..they should both adapt to each others culture. ..you see, it's not all about the gf...it's a two way street.

    Mutual respect to be shown by both parties. You mention arguments make couples stronger, absolutely. .I totally agree but, it can also hasten the demise of a relationship built upon a halo halo.

    Perhaps the boyfriend should of gone for a girlfriend in a higher social bracket, the trouble being, those types are somewhat thin on the ground.

    Even so, I'm sending you a rep for your honest contribution.

    Cheers
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    Quote Originally Posted by gWaPito View Post
    Hi Beejudge..Welcome to the friendly FilipinoUk forum.

    Unfortunately I'm taking issue with your post. ;-)

    You say it's acceptable for his girlfriend to be like she is because he didn't give into her demand.

    You also say she is probably like she is because of life's difficulties. ..Hello! ..we have difficulties here as well. ..that doesn't turn the majority into nutters.

    You state that the boyfriend should adapt to the culture of the girlfriend. .I beg to differ. ..they should both adapt to each others culture. ..you see, it's not all about the gf...it's a two way street.

    Mutual respect to be shown by both parties. You mention arguments make couples stronger, absolutely. .I totally agree but, it can also hasten the demise of a relationship built upon a halo halo.

    Perhaps the boyfriend should of gone for a girlfriend in a higher social bracket, the trouble being, those types are somewhat thin on the ground.

    Even so, I'm sending you a rep for your honest contribution.

    Cheers
    Mark
    thank you for welcoming me Mark! oh I stand corrected my statement was a bit confusing.. what I was trying to say was MAYBE the gf behaved that way because her demands wasn't given! which absolutely unbecoming! Therefore I say its not acceptable to be like what she is.

    "life's difficulties" all people of all races undergo life's difficulties what i am trying to emphasize is before he will think of ending up maybe he has to weigh things first or talk why she acted that way. the girl could do as well if the guy is acting the same. Communication!

    i would say the same as you said, Both! that is why is said deal with different culture. I mean is both will do. This time he is confused, so he must consider taking a look at this end.

    by the way , I am not in the side of the girl what the girl had shown was pretty much unbecoming but again I cant judge her at the end of the day its still the guy who will make a decision.
    and agree with you.."mutual respect to be shown by both parties"

    I appreciate your reply Mark

    Cheers!


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    Beejudge73....I appreciate the appreciation. That's sure been in short supply. Thanks


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    Quote Originally Posted by beejudge73 View Post
    thank you for welcoming me Mark! oh I stand corrected my statement was a bit confusing.. what I was trying to say was MAYBE the gf behaved that way because her demands wasn't given! which absolutely unbecoming! Therefore I say its not acceptable to be like what she is.

    "life's difficulties" all people of all races undergo life's difficulties what i am trying to emphasize is before he will think of ending up maybe he has to weigh things first or talk why she acted that way. the girl could do as well if the guy is acting the same. Communication!

    i would say the same as you said, Both! that is why is said deal with different culture. I mean is both will do. This time he is confused, so he must consider taking a look at this end.

    by the way , I am not in the side of the girl what the girl had shown was pretty much unbecoming but again I cant judge her at the end of the day its still the guy who will make a decision.
    and agree with you.."mutual respect to be shown by both parties"

    I appreciate your reply Mark

    Cheers!
    I agree with you Beejudge, also Jello hasn't said any more recently, where is he?


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    Quote Originally Posted by beejudge73 View Post
    thank you for welcoming me Mark! oh I stand corrected my statement was a bit confusing.. what I was trying to say was MAYBE the gf behaved that way because her demands wasn't given! which absolutely unbecoming! Therefore I say its not acceptable to be like what she is.

    "life's difficulties" all people of all races undergo life's difficulties what i am trying to emphasize is before he will think of ending up maybe he has to weigh things first or talk why she acted that way. the girl could do as well if the guy is acting the same. Communication!

    i would say the same as you said, Both! that is why is said deal with different culture. I mean is both will do. This time he is confused, so he must consider taking a look at this end.

    by the way , I am not in the side of the girl what the girl had shown was pretty much unbecoming but again I cant judge her at the end of the day its still the guy who will make a decision.
    and agree with you.."mutual respect to be shown by both parties"

    I appreciate your reply Mark

    Cheers!
    Its hard to teach someone mutual respect when they are so isip bata (childish)


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    Quote Originally Posted by London_Manila View Post
    Its hard to teach someone mutual respect when they are so isip bata (childish)
    Like good manners, it's comes from within. ..an instinctive reaction.


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    Quote Originally Posted by beejudge73 View Post
    the first issue is about the money for the university few days or weeks after she was too demanding and easily became insensitive... isn't it because you didn't give what she wants? if you have given her favor do you think she wont just react that way? yes she is childish but sometimes a university student can be very mature esp if she undergoes difficulties in life. I could see that your gf is a working student usually working students are the most mature young people here in PI. You could just end up into saying I need to think for this relationship but don't you also thought of understanding him because she might be undergoing difficulties, you can tell that because u have met her here, having arguments sometimes would be a better way to get to know each other I have proven that to my husband we have sometimes petty arguments but I tell you from there we become more mature and see our weak points, or consider your age gap, language barriers. We Filipinos knows English (of course not everybody) but it doesn't mean we could have the same level as the native speakers do (English men) How can you establish a relationship if you would easily give up? maybe its just a matter of how to deal with different culture and background. You like other race so be prepared teach her how to be mature, to be sensitive rather than being tactless Or when things wont really work out with you and her next time try not to get a college level, lol at least somebody who has a career or whoever they are as long as you feel she is the one, fight for it!
    I feel she is not worth all the hassle and i am sure there are better woman around who know how to behave


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    Have you shown him the letter from the Bailiffs yet...and that big mansion you've had built in the Phils ?


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    I remember the first pinay I dated back in 2005. She was 27 but acted like a teenager and was very insecure. She kept on saying ''Do you still like me?" all the time even though I had only known her a week or so.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jamieXXXmaria View Post
    I remember the first pinay I dated back in 2005. She was 27 but acted like a teenager and was very insecure. She kept on saying ''Do you still like me?" all the time even though I had only known her a week or so.
    You saw the red flags nice and early. .


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    Quote Originally Posted by gWaPito View Post
    You saw the red flags nice and early. .
    Couldn't miss them. Nice enough girl but I wouldn't be able to handle that all the time. Maturity is near the top of my trait list when it comes to women.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jamieXXXmaria View Post
    Couldn't miss them. Nice enough girl but I wouldn't be able to handle that all the time. Maturity is near the top of my trait list when it comes to women.
    Mine was long legs and boobs...everything else was secondary. ..as they say. ..in for a penny, in for a pound


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    Quote Originally Posted by gWaPito View Post
    Mine was long legs and boobs...everything else was secondary. ..as they say. ..in for a penny, in for a pound
    A woman's exterior was the thing that attracted me most as a youngster then I realised over time, the interior was more important and that physical features are just a bonus.


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    These days I'm grateful if they're under 50 and will give me a second look.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    These days I'm grateful if they're under 50 and will give me a second look.
    Gonna be my route in 10 years time Graham


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    Oh that's good then, I must still be young in my ways.

    Hey...it's hard enough getting worked up about a woman when you're old...gotta have something tasty to look at to set the old wheels in motion.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    Oh that's good then, I must still be young in my ways.

    Hey...it's hard enough getting worked up about a woman when you're old...gotta have something tasty to look at to set the old wheels in motion.




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    JEEZUZ !!!

    Don't do that !

    Gave me the fright of my life !


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    Not pleasant viewing I must admit.


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    My little sweetheart will do fine for me...even at the ripe old age of 27.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    My little sweetheart will do fine for me...even at the ripe old age of 27.

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    Is that your lady from Pangasinan?


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    Yeah...got to go and chat to her now, so catch you later.


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    Will do.


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    What happen to Jellodude???
    I hope he's all right
    ....update us soon mate
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    Quote Originally Posted by sars_notd_virus View Post
    What happen to Jellodude???
    I hope he's all right
    ....update us soon mate
    Sorry i have not been around. My laptop is broke right now so im using my phone for the internet.

    Ok we managed to speak on the phone (skype) and she says she was feeling insecure and because of the long distance between us. I have to say i have had previous girlfriends who were totally batshit nuts so these kinds of antics dont really phase me. I have to remember that we have been communicating mainly via txt by yahoo messenger (my laptop broke atm) so misunderstandings happen. Also we get on great in person. Once i get sorted financially i am planning to visit her for longer in PI later this year (max of 21 days without visa i think yeah)

    Also she does have troubles that make her life hard (family stuff) she shares with me. I know i said before she asked me to help her with money for college but she was desperate as she isnt sure she will be able to continue her studies. She has to pay her fees for the next semester which starts very soon. I have asked her to try negotiate paying in installments. So i will find out next week how that goes. She told me the other day she was txted by a professor at her college asking her where she was and she wasnt sure how to answer because she doesnt want to disclose the money problems she has in paying fees (feeling ashamed). So possibly it was last week her fees were due and college started last week. AMA College in Dasmarinas.

    As always i am careful but i trust her. I will find out the latest when she comes back from a trip she took this weekend (to a spiritual youth camp thing in Zambales)


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    Thanks for the update Jello,

    Photos of the camping will help you to know if she is being honest about her trip.

    Small step only though ok
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