Help understanding my gf and also am i being naive?

[London_Manila]

Surely he should act like a mas kuripot just to see if she is just after one thing
I employ this tactic and it works a treat...........

Last point i like to wear the trousers in a relationship and i dont like being henpecked

[Steve.r]

Last point i like to wear the trousers in a relationship and i dont like being henpecked

Unless he likes to be a doormat of course.

For those giving advice to 'go for it' come on.... we have all heard and witnessed the horror stories, let's advise caution here please..

[filbrit]

Unless he likes to be a doormat of course.

For those giving advice to 'go for it' come on.... we have all heard and witnessed the horror stories, let's advise caution here please..

I only read the last comments. I agree with Steve. Be cautious but don't give up on her too easily. Give it more time. Tell her what you exactly feel about how she has been acting and see what she's going to say. Observe if she will change. If she needs you more than doing things for her like a simple resume and loves you genuinely, she should not feel bad of what you will say. Understanding, honesty, transparency and communication are very important. Keep your eyes open for the early signs than regret things later.

When I was still chatting with my ex bf (husband now, lol), I never asked for financial help. He is a very nice guy and has done it voluntarily. I could have asked him but I did not. Not because I was trying to make a good impression, I thought it would be too much to ask. Beside I needed a man for love and not for money.

[malditako]

Surely he should act like a mas kuripot just to see if she is just after one thing
I employ this tactic and it works a treat...........

Last point i like to wear the trousers in a relationship and i dont like being henpecked

i tell u what filipina ladies are always impress with a guy who's ready to spend on them no matter if you are a foreigner or just simply a filipino guy. We do love "galante" men than kuripot ones. Trust me its a fact .

[London_Manila]

i tell u what filipina ladies are always impress with a guy who's ready to spend on them no matter if you are a foreigner or just simply a filipino guy. We do love "galante" men than kuripot ones. Trust me its a fact .

Yes i realize that but what happens when the money runs out

I think spending too much pera on any gf is only going to lead to problems later on

[gWaPito]

Yes i realize that but what happens when the money runs out

I think spending too much pera on any gf is only going to lead to problems later on

Excellent post LM....wise words indeed.
I've sent you a rep for this.

[London_Manila]

Excellent post LM....wise words indeed.
I've sent you a rep for this.

I have seen some guys throwing money at their gf's and buying them anything that they ask for
When the money dries up these guys wonder why the gf walks away

You cant buy true love but that don't stop some people trying..........

[gWaPito]

I have seen some guys throwing money at their gf's and buying them anything that they ask for
When the money dries up these guys wonder why the gf walks away

You cant buy true love but that don't stop some people trying..........

Thanks LM,
Forgive me here but, slightly off topic. .the the Filipino partner doesn't always wait until the money runs out before they depart.
For example, they come over here thinking life's in the west going to be a whole lot better than in The Philippines in most cases, things are but, a few can't make that adjustment. .the realisation that the money is actually worked hard for. ..they witness first hand what the husband/wife has to do, to make things happen.
A very small minority can't stomach it. Some realise it was a whole bunch easier staying at home in The Philippines, in the warm sunshine, thinking about one's naval, while waiting for the next 10 digit text message.

It's a shame the 2 countries couldn't get together and work out a way of better of familiarisation before the partner makes that life changing step.

This is not a broad brush statement. ..many integrate successfully.

I would also suggest, the guys and girls over here just to take care on who they choose to date. ..just like Jelo.

Cheers
Mark

[London_Manila]

Thanks LM,
Forgive me here but, slightly off topic. .the the Filipino partner doesn't always wait until the money runs out before they depart.
For example, they come over here thinking life's in the west going to be a whole lot better than in The Philippines in most cases, things are but, a few can't make that adjustment. .the realisation that the money is actually worked hard for. ..they witness first hand what the husband/wife has to do, to make things happen.
A very small minority can't stomach it. Some realise it was a whole bunch easier staying at home in The Philippines, in the warm sunshine, thinking about one's naval, while waiting for the next 10 digit text message.

It's a shame the 2 countries couldn't get together and work out a way of better of familiarisation before the partner makes that life changing step.

This is not a broad brush statement. ..many integrate successfully.

I would also suggest, the guys and girls over here just to take care on who they choose to date. ..just like Jelo.

Cheers
Mark

Every person i meet in the Philippines wants to leave the philippines
I stated this before and was flamed for saying it
apparently some uncle somewhere is happy to stay there......
anyway i always tell them that things are not so bad in the philippines and life in the west is no cakewalk
some of them have rich distant relatives in some far away land who has made pot fulls of money
its not like that for everyone i tell them
Most are very shocked when i inform them that i work 13 days out of 14
I get the impression that some people in the Phills think that life in the west is like an episode of the American sitcom "friends" where nobody goes to work and everyone sits around laughing and joking all day
i think this is very much a case of the grass is always greener on the other side

Yes i know there is a lot of poverty in the Philippines and finding work is not easy either
But living your life on some crime ridden English council estate is not so great as well

[malditako]

sometimes we have to take risk into a relationship and we learn from our own mistake rather than comparing and listening to from others stories and experiences. Everything differs . If my man would say i do my resume on that day i would expect it and if it does not done i would get upset and moaning all day i guess lol.

[bhem_bhem]

Surely he should act like a mas kuripot just to see if she is just after one thing
I employ this tactic and it works a treat...........

when i met my hubby, he made me believe that he is skint so every time we go out i pay the hotel, half of the food and even half of the petrol. only when i applied for my visa that i found out he's not really skint, he's just tight bugger but he has changed now that we are married (which is good)..

[Arthur Little]

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tight bugger but he has changed now that we are married (which is good)..

... yes, it's NOW that matters, !

[grahamw48]

when i met my hubby, he made me believe that he is skint so every time we go out i pay the hotel, half of the food and even half of the petrol. only when i applied for my visa that i found out he's not really skint, he's just tight bugger but he has changed now that we are married (which is good)..

Hey !
Don't be giving away my secrets !

[bhem_bhem]

Hey !
Don't be giving away my secrets !

uh uh, too late..

[Ako Si Jamie]

when i met my hubby, he made me believe that he is skint so every time we go out i pay the hotel, half of the food and even half of the petrol. only when i applied for my visa that i found out he's not really skint, he's just tight bugger but he has changed now that we are married (which is good)..

He wasn't being tight just safeguarding himself, making sure you wanted him for him and not for what he could provide.

Very wise man.

[bhem_bhem]

He wasn't being tight just safeguarding himself, making sure you wanted him for him and not for what he could provide.

Very wise man.

he didn't do it to test me, it was actually me who test him.

you see, i'm kinda weird woman, i like scaring a man off instead of impressing him. my hubby has no idea of the reputation of asians so i told him that some asians are desperate to stay here that they pretend they love their boyfriend to lure him to marry her ( i told him this few days after he found out that my visa is about to expire and i'm struggling to get a new one). i intentionally scare him by saying that i have massive loan from the bank and that i have a big family who needs supporting which will be a responsibility of my future husband..

i always do this to men who shows interest at me and guess what all of them run miles away from me except my hubby.

my hubby told me that it did scare him but somehow he felt that he can trust me so he still marries me..