Guys...I suggest you bear this in mind

[grahamw48]

There are lots of lovely genuine and sweet Filipinas out there, but have your eyes open before your wallet, and take off the Rose-coloured spectacles or beer goggles would be my advice, when you're chatting online.

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[Ako Si Jamie]

[stevewool]

nice one Graham,i know of 2 ladies who does something like this, but they get a regular income by chatting to the japanese i am told, must admit though, they are very beautiful and if they fluttered there eyebrows at me well thats a different story

[joebloggs]

just seen this while watching your clip Graham

[grahamw48]

just seen this while watching your clip Graham

Reminds me of the old Philippines 'Mail Order Bride' days.

...Have just put my car up for sale.

[Tawi2]

JB,those viet girls are in a way luckier than some of their countrywomen,there are kidnap gangs in vietnam,Lao,Burma who kidnap women for sale in china where the old one child policy has created a discrepancy in the sex ratio,quite a large discrepancy as most chinese couples want a son,so where do they guys get a wife from BUY ONE Yup,kidnap is alive and well and bringing wives to a slave-market near you (if your chinese that is).
Graham I went into one of those Bride-arranging offices when I was about 19 with a 40+ year old british guy,it was like a littlewoods catalogue Shameful admission but as a small boy I would look at the ladies underwear section in my mums catalogue and ogle The mail order bride catalogue had the same effect to a testosterone filled youth,but my try-before-I-buy plea of number 17 &43 &117 fell on deaf ears They are probably all old lolas nowadays and living in Hicksville or sheffield or sandstone minnessotta.

[stevewool]

,it was like a littlewoods catalogue Shameful admission but as a small boy I would look at the ladies underwear section in my mums catalogue and ogle

and here is me thinking i was the only one, my mum had granthams too, double the pleasure

[jake]

,it was like a littlewoods catalogue Shameful admission but as a small boy I would look at the ladies underwear section in my mums catalogue and ogle



and here is me thinking i was the only one, my mum had granthams too, double the pleasure

Me too
Progressed in my teens to Dads collection

[grahamw48]

Why do you think I went to the Phils in the first place ?

Ended up marrying one I found for myself in the end though.

[Tawi2]

Why do you think I went to the Phils in the first place ?

I thought you just took a wrong turn at Hong Kong like me

[Tawi2]

and here is me thinking i was the only one

For all of these years I have hidden that shameful admission,you have just liberated me Steve

[grahamw48]

Blinkin pervs.

[Michael Parnham]

Wow, how interesting my eyes are open at last!

[WhiteBloodAda]

I really must be naive! People actually fall for this???

[Slip]

I really must be naive! People actually fall for this???

I would never send money within minutes of chatting.

I actually made a point of telling my girlfriend I have no money, she's still talking to me some 3 months later. So if it is a scam it's not my money (or lack off) she is after.

[WhiteBloodAda]

I would never send money within minutes of chatting.

I actually made a point of telling my girlfriend I have no money, she's still talking to me some 3 months later. So if it is a scam it's not my money (or lack off) she is after.

You actually made a point in talking about money? I have a lot to learn in the world still it would seem!

[Slip]

You actually made a point in talking about money? I have a lot to learn in the world still it would seem!

We were talking about things in general and she said she wished I could fly over and see her. I said I would love to if I had the money. But seeing 10 months before I had been abroad for a month and then in September I had a complete bathroom refit and a new boiler that I had lspent my savings and it would take me a few years to save up again.

But also partly I wanted to test the waters so I didn't get conned. This internet dating is all new to me and I am very cautious still to this day. I don't care how much time and effort I have put into it, I will try my hardest to not get conned. I don't believe I am being conned, but my guard is up just incase.

For the record, she has never asked me for money and I do think she is genuine. It's not fair to tar all Filipino women with the same brush just because of a few.

[grahamw48]

It's not fair to tar all Filipino women with the same brush just because of a few.

Agree.

[Lancashirelad]

We were talking about things in general and she said she wished I could fly over and see her. I said I would love too if I had the money. But seeing 10 months before I had been abroad for a month and then in September I had a complete bathroom refit and a new boiler that I had lspent my savings and it would take me a few years to save up again.

But also partly I wanted to test the waters so I didn't get conned. This internet dating is all new to me and I am very cautious still to this day. I don't care how much time and effort I have put into it, I will try my hardest to not get conned. I don't believe I am being conned, but my guard is up just incase.

For the record, she has never asked me for money and I do think she is genuine. It's not fair to tar all Filipino women with the same brush just because of a few.

I also think its unfair of a guy to string a girl along for many months or years if he truly has no money. Flights to and from the Phillipines are expensive as also are visa's, cfo, ielts ect ect, and of course there is the minimum earnings requirements now for fiancee/Spouse visas. If men arent financially capable of of progressing a relationship beyond an online relationship, they should think seriously about filling a ladies head and heart with dreams of life abroad with her new boyfriend.

[grahamw48]

I really must be naive! People actually fall for this???

THOUSANDS.

There are lots of lonely or lustful men (or both) out there.... all over the world.

[WhiteBloodAda]

Well obviously with any stereotypes, it's never the case for everyone. Having never been in a situation where I've searched for someone online (I did meet Ruby online, but she lived up the road) I can't really comment on this situation truly. I never even used, or watched anyone on a webcam until she had gone home and we had to use Skype to see eachother

[stevewool]

best thing i ever did, go online and just chat, when you are alone and i mean alone , once the door is shut alone i mean its great to have someone just to talk too, i made some very good friends who like me just wanted to talk, 2 are married themselves now and 1 is living the good life in the USA she still says hi if we are on facebook together, Emma knows all about it too,

[Tawi2]

Money...money...money,reminds me of the old Angeles mantra,money down before panties down (I never did find out what that meant ).

[joebloggs]

scammers, users or abusers what ever you want to call them, some could ask you for money within mins, some could take weeks or months to gain your trust before they indirectly ask you , some people on this forum have even married scammers. so there is no typical scammer.

[Ako Si Jamie]

scammers, users or abusers what ever you want to call them, some could ask you for money within mins, some could take weeks or months to gain your trust before they indirectly ask you , some people on this forum have even married scammers. so there is no typical scammer.

Everyone who enters this process should note this piece of advice. Just because she's never asked for money, doesn't mean she won't. In my case it was two years down the line but it was infrequent small amounts. By the third year BOOM it escalated and so did the amounts.

[Michael Parnham]

Everyone who enters this process should note this piece of advice. Just because she's never asked for money, doesn't mean she won't. In my case it was two years down the line but it was infrequent small amounts. By the third year BOOM it escalated and so did the amounts.

I think also that in some cases if you spoil your lady it can after a while become expected, just be sensible!

[Ako Si Jamie]

I think also that in some cases if you spoil your lady it can after a while become expected, just be sensible!

The first time I spoilt Maria was three years down the line when I bought her a top in a mall in Dagupan. Set me back 350 pesos.

Seriously though, I think spoiling women in the early stages is not a good tactic. Learnt this from an early age and found to my annoyance that most were unappreciative. Best way is to keep your bucks in your pocket and let one's personality do the talking.

[stevewool]

I think also that in some cases if you spoil your lady it can after a while become expected, just be sensible!

It is always nice to spoil someone even yourself sometimes but its good to say no too, just wait a while, then they may forget they wanted it

[bhem_bhem]

that's why i paid my own visa and flight to avoid trust/money issues.

i've met a filipina and she told me that she's not happy with her partner. she said he verbally abused her and nearly hit her. But then i don't know the real story as i've just met her partner once so i'm trying not to get involve them 2.

[Terpe]

Slip,
Do you have the financial means to either be with her in Pinas
or
sponsor her to be in UK with you.

No offence, just a simple question

Oh, and do consider the ongoing cost of visa's for 5 years in UK

I'm not really asking you to answer, just putting some considerations to you that have a major human impact