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14th July 2007 #1
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age difference
hi all.i am a 51 year old man,i am getting married to a 20 year old fillipino girl in 5 weeks time.i have been talking to people and they all say that she is just want to get to another country.they say why does she not get a boy of her own age,and that a girl of her age could not love someone of my age.i have ben there twice now.i have all my plane tickets bought.they have got me thinking.they say they have never heard of a marrage between two people with our age difference working.can anyone advise me.also is there any married couples here with a big age difference.i dont know what to do.hope you can help me.
noel
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14th July 2007 #2
Just use your instinct...you're much older than her and the most experienced one...we can always say age really doesn't matter when it comes to love or relationship as long you don't feel being use and you see also some effort from the girl to make your relationship work out...anyway we filipina don't really look on the age of the man as long as we find a good and responsible one and willing to take a chance...
Filipina a born survivor!
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14th July 2007 #3
Hi yah noel I can relate to you problem because hubby is twice my age and our relationship is so far so good.we`ve known each other for almost 3 years now and we`ve been married for almost a year now.you know what dont listen to what other people say,listen to your heart what matters most is as long as you love each other age doesnt matter reallywe encounter people along the street turning their heads in us but we dont give a damnas long as we love each other we dont mind other people.its really true that other people might think that way but let them feel how lucky you are to have a young gal with you if you think your girl loves you genuinely then go for it let the whole world know that you love each other.good luck pal
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15th July 2007 #5
Hi Dene,
Does she fits Jane Eyre's role? If your answer is yes, then put all your worries behind and go get your happiness...
I would just like to give you some reflections you should dedicate a more serious thinking, because this is what you and your future wife will deal with once you are married as a couple.
The age gap:
You are 51 and she is twenty, no one can command a heart when you are trully in love with a person but the age really matters, ten years age difference is not the same as twenty. It involves the maturity level of a person, do you remember yourself at the age of twenty? and your maturity level at that age? Does your wife can cope with a more higher maturity level of conversation? Will she feel comfortable if you take her in your group of friends of your age? She will be on her 30's in ten years and you are in your 60's can you imagine you and her after that lenght of time? Put another ten years and she will be 40 and you 70, is she ready to get all through this whatever happens? You will tell me, you are all what she wants and that is your happiness to be together and you are right but what about dealing with this things in our everyday life, to live with this things in our everyday reality? Is she mentally prepared for that? You have already reached a certain maturity and your future wife is just on the beginning of her way knowing and learning what is this world we are living in.
The risk:
Since she is at the Lolita's age, her maturity level is not yet well shaped. You know it by yourself all the risk that you are going through by getting married with someone younger than you and that risk involved your long term happiness.
You have to consider a lot of things because you know that this will not be easy, if you both feel that you are all ready to go through all this come what may it is your own choice and no one can understand yourself more than you. Try to detached yourself from what you feel and seek answers for all your doubts with a calm mind....remember, this is a lifetime happiness your happiness and hers.
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15th July 2007 #8
MMmmm.Love conquers allLove can move mountainsBut this applies to true love I am not in the position to judge you and your relationship with young fiancee'. But the way I feel it, you're are NOT even sure to yourself about pursuing your plan to marry this girl. The fact that you log in to this forum,post a message, and seek help are evidence enough that you have DOUBTS with whatever is now going on to your life. I know it's lonely being alone. But read between these lines... Everybody needs someone to love...and BE LOVED.
Just thought this might help. In the end it's still you, who can really help yourself. Your decision is at your own risk. Follow your heart but don't forget your brain. Have a nice day!
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15th July 2007 #9
age shouldn't be a problem, but like any relationship, whats more important does she feel the same way about you, as you do about her
secret of success
by Professor Charles Hill of Whittier College in Los Angeles. He analysed the relationships of 231 couples from a Boston college over a period of 25 years, and found five basic, almost simplistic, rules for achieving marital success. They are:
– Don't pick up people from bars
– Don't date anyone much prettier or uglier than yourself
– Choose someone your own age
– Try to go for someone of roughly the same intelligence
– Have sex often with this one partner
Professor Hill claims that those who followed these rules appeared most likely to have high self-esteem and a good and stable relationship, long-term.
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15th July 2007 #10
Professor Hill was later discovered beheaded in his freezer with his wife watching Deal or No Deal while whistling Dixie
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I always think that if i am a much older man and i have a wife MUCH younger and we have kids, then there will be young children who will watch me vegetate and grow old and die off, they won't get the best of me. . . . and i always wonder how a young girl could possibly find a man double her age sexually attractive. I really don't mean to offend anyone here, coz i also believe that LOVE CONQUERS all . . .
anyway, please take in the spirit intended!
tom
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15th July 2007 #12
Wise words but what happens if your a taxi driver
I think opposite do attarct but things will change over the years, and more importantly once your Wife is in the UK. Will she want to go out lots is she in to sporting or engertic actvities and are you?
Like others mention will you have seperate friends? Some of my wifes friends in the UK are only 18/19, while im 32 luckily we get on and her best mate is in my age group, she also likes to go out clubbing so if i don't want to go as i have seen that and been there, i know she with some one sensible. Also some of my mates still want to go out so i dont look to outta place if we are in some trendy place up town.
But if thats not really your cup of tea it could be a huge strain on the relationship.
All this depends on the two indivuals but i knew my Wife liked to go out clubbing in Manila and was part of what we have in common ie musical tastes etc.
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15th July 2007 #13
I do believe your opinion about this topic.but how would a young girl go for a guy same as her age when at the end their relationship will not work out.I find older man mature enough and also they have lots of experiences in life which young man dont.I find young man but not all just some of them is irresponsible.why theres a lot of teenage girls end up pregnant now simply because young men dont take any responsibilities.I find young men to be more outgoing and happy go lucky for short they`re not thinking of their future again its not in general.As far as I know my relationship with my hubby is so far so good its a matter of keeping it spark always.I dont care what people would say about our age differences as long as I know deep inside my heart I love him dearly.
to loved and beloved is the greatest joy on earth...
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15th July 2007 #14Keith Driscoll - Administrator
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16th July 2007 #16
That explains my missus being 10 years older then
I was after her moneyKeith Driscoll - Administrator
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interestingly, just before work i am reading this and watching Trisha . . .
and the topic is "My Thai Bride is 40 years younger than me" and then they called the thai chick and it sounded like she's a "working girl", after the guy telling the audience that she's a virgin lol!
There was a guy in the audience married to a filipina who gave some advice -- pretty much "go to the girl's country" LOL!
anyway .. . .
better get back to Trisha
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16th July 2007 #18
how i miss trisha !!!, before work !!!, ive been at work since 8:30 !!! , dont finish til 5:30 and people thought the sweat shops of manchester were gone 100 years ago :o(
i missed, i think it was not trisha but that other tw!t, the jeremy kyle show ? the guy i'm wating for someone to knock out :o), a while a go he had the filipina woman gina french who killed/murdered her british husband, and my wife watched it and told me he was giving her a very hard time...
if you have'nt heard of gina french, All Gina wanted was to help support her family and protect them from the elements with a house made of stone. Her dream took her from the Philippine mountains, through the dancing bars of Manila, to the jetset worlds of New York and Brunei. But then, Gina married a British man, and soon she found herself stranded in the seemingly cold and hostile world of the north of England, trapped with a small child and a man who seemed determined to hurt them both in every way he could. "For a House Made of Stone" is a uniquely inspiring story of survival and hope.
*** no need to buy her book, read about her amazing life here :o) ***
http://www.gazettelive.co.uk/news/ne...name_page.html
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16th July 2007 #19
Sorry...
30 years gap........ What do you really have in common..?
Latest headbanging music (if you can call it that)???
Disco dancing?
Glass of port and and a lump of stilton while watching a repeat of Inspector Morse???
Reading books like Harry Potter, Famous Five, Noddy, Paddington Bear Adventures?
Good luck and God Bless.
I think I am making myself unpopular, here....
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in that case i need someone who is MINUS 5 years old ... . hahahah!
nope, i'm loving the 5and a half year age gap between me and mar
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16th July 2007 #22
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makes more sense as you get older... I've said this before - that my uncle married an 18yr yr old when he was 48 - and their daughter was at the wedding
sure it works for some, not for me though. depends on the girl & the guy - just like every over relationship.
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you dirty dirty minded man Keith! lol!
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28th July 2007 #26
for danehazel...i think age doesnt matter as long as you love the person...if you love each other go for it!no to worry...
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Hi Denehazel,
Just to let you know that my wife, Hanna, is 23 and I am 53.
We get on brilliantly together - I think it is possibly because she has an old head on young shoulders - and I am just a big kid!!!!
Alan.
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28th July 2007 #28
'We dance in a circle and suppose, while the secret sits in the middle and knows'
R.F.
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not fair - that's italian!
wots that in english??
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Grazie molto per i vostri buoni desideri.
Alan
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