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4th April 2012 #1
What do you think of a guy who is afraid to be married?
Im really thinking why some guy in the right age, right status and promise a lot of things to a woman like it is so serious but doesn't want to get married ..
How will a woman know if this guy wants to be with her for the rest of her life or just enjoyed her company now cause she is still a beautiful young woman?
this is really a confusion to me, for all i know i've met a couple of guys and they skip out when they heard about the marriage thing
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4th April 2012 #2
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Commitment? Making a decision? Being Responsible? All seems too difficult for some people.
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The million dollar question, Vische. My wife's sister has just split up irreversibly after barely a year or so of marriage. I have seen their wedding pictures. She will have had no idea how short her marriage was due to last....and she had known the man she had married for years.
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How will a woman know if this guy wants to be with her for the rest of her life or just enjoyed her company now cause she is still a beautiful young woman?
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4th April 2012 #5
There are women like that too, it is just hard finding a partner with the same ideas of commitment
The more you put into a good relationship the more better it is for both.
Mick
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4th April 2012 #6
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Already married ?
I had no SERIOUS desire to get married right up to meeting the ex when I was 38....and actually wish I'd remained single now.
Some people are happy being single.
You need to to do some serious talking (not nagging) and hopefully you'll receive an honest answer from the guy.
Each person will have their own reasons. We can only guess, which isn't really helpful.
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I envy you guys cause all of you seem to be very serious when you search for your partners here in the Philippines, guess im out of range with luck with guys hahahaha
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Vische, it's an age old question with no 'simple fix'.
But it seems to me you already know and understand the issues. You already display most of the qualities and wisdom in identification of the solutions.
But........
Maybe your confusion is really a question about commitment in finally deciding the way?
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4th April 2012 #15
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If your partner doesn't even want to share his past with you, why would you be thinking about a serious relationship with him, let alone marriage ?
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4th April 2012 #16
hmmm,,,that reminded me of my ex....It is only now that I recall we never talk about marriage after 4 yrs of relationship ....He just kept saying we will be together soon...that he will save for us to be together
I finally realized he is one of those British guys who just doesn't embrace commitment!
My friends say that he must have preferred the local girl (an English woman) over me not because he can no longer afford me but because he didn't want to miss his daily dose
I felt bad because I really thought he is real but I guess I fell into the wrong guy. Glad now that we are done.
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4th April 2012 #17
over the years i have seen friends who have lived together for 4 or 5 yrs, and quite happy, even had children, then they decided to get married, after being married for 1 year they break up,
does being married put pressure on that relationship
at the end of the day it is the relationship that matters that is what bonds 2 people together not a piece of paper to say they are married,
i think in general marrage seems to be more important to the woman,
in my opinion nothing past or present should be hidden the book must be open and the pages seen,
nothing hidden, no lies,
only truth trust and love can join two people as one
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4th April 2012 #19
Well, these guys, how long was it before you started dropping hints about being married?
Maybe they are at a certain age where they think no way to marriage.
Maybe they are in their 30's, 40's etc, and are not married - and this just shows what sort of guys they are - guys who do not want to get married.
Maybe they have come out of a messy divorce, and just like someone who has been bitten by a dog isn't going to want to visit a kennel?
As for the thing about people living together happily for years, get married then split..........it's so strange. We all know people that has happened to, including my best friend. Madness!
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5th April 2012 #20
Thank you guys for your wonderful insights, i guess that thing about the past is what i want to uncover since i already told all about my past then if it does not work then i say its not gonna work, like the saying says 'it needs two to tango' not only one
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What if they had been a mass murderer or a rapist....or just STILL MARRIED ?
Secrets or an unknown past in a relationship are never a good starting point IMO.
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5th April 2012 #24
well there is that,, but surely there must be certain things you might just prefer to keep to yourself that only you know,, where do you draw the line,
personally i dont think there should be anything hidden,, but isnt it down to choice , after all the past is past, its what is now that matters most
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5th April 2012 #27
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...and some of us have a longer past than others.
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5th April 2012 #28
They might be at the right age & status in life & are good in making promises but they aren't ready for commitment. Some have bad past experiences, some still enjoyed the single lifestyle, some are not matured enough to tell the truth that marriage is not in their list yet, financially not stable to give their future wife a comfortable life...
It's not easy to tell. Different individuals. Some are full of surprises some are just boring ooopsss. Some are not good in showing off the love they had for a lady, some are too much showy...it's only u who can tell. Actions speaks louder than words. It's not that the lady is still young & beautiful. You can tell by his actions if he's for real. Don't be blinded by gifts coz some are good at it. It all comes along everyday that you are together. That's why dating is important coz it's how u get to know each other. There are signs.
Don't be confuse. It just gives u a stress. Enjoy your life being single. It will just come along. Instead go out with family & friends, have a healthy lifestyle & keep smiling...one day that smile will capture a true man's heart. Having a relationship it's not that easy. It's always a two way not one way. If you are looking for a marriage type of man, don't waste your time to a man who can't give you what u are looking for. Marriage is not only the answer to every relationship. It takes time, it's reality & not a game. If there are signs that he's not right for you then he's not the one that you are looking for in a husband. Take your time. Just enjoy being single. It will be worst when u are trap in a marriage & found out too late that a man you married is a person that will just break your heart. Marriage is not always a bed of roses, there are also thorns. Keep smiling chick!If you can't say something nice. SHUT UP!. Simple.
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5th April 2012 #29
if a man truly loves you he would marry you...no buts no ifs
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