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    What to do should I wait and believe Him

    I am Filpina 34 years old a single mom, I work in a school as School admin creating new courses so most of the time my job requires research. I was Chef before here in the Philippines and also in Singapore for a long time. While I was doing a research for my thesis in my MBA, i was curious about this dating website and to tell you honestly majority of it are all scam they would they are single but they are not. Finally I met this guy he is from England he is a good looking guy,46 years old, single dad and he said he got a divorce from his wife long time ago. So we exchange email address so we can chat, he calls me once in a while and while in our conversation he told me he loved me and he wants me to go in England to have vacation, he told me he is going to get a working visa for me which will cost me 2, 500 pounds. My reaction was really wow! Although we are not rich and I am not after for money, it really will cost a lot. I was really expecting him to shoulder since he invited me there, the question is why a working visa? he told me he needs me there to take care his house and his son for me that is fine with me. I told him to go here instead and meet my family personally and if your intentions are really pure, you will meet me first here in Philippines. I told him I can drive you around Manila and some tourist spots and you can stay also our house. He told me he is busy and would take months before he can get here because of his job because he is waiting for the approval of his project. That is fine with me I can wait for him, anyway I am really eager to finish my MBA so I can get promotion and teach in a university here.
    Please need you advice! Should I believe him or just let go? Is he telling the truth? I am not after for his money, I am perfectly fine with what I have, all my life I am really a workaholic that is why i stay single for the longest time.


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    Sounds to me he is looking for a domestic worker, not a relationship. If he cared for you, he would travel to see you. I would move on. But I could be wrong, it just sounds a bit strange to me.

    On a side note, I think the chances of you coming to the Uk as a domestic worker are pretty much zero if that is his intention.
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    well if i was him i would vist you first and if i was you i would tell his to get lost, asking you to pay for the visa and like any true person you would expect him to see you and your family even before you ever leaving your country, its easy to say those magic words , i love you , but its better to mean them


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    Sorry friend but get real.

    Anyone should be able to see it's a scam from a mile off.

    Delete his details, block him and move on.

    Better luck next time.


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    Hi skinicuk,

    Do not send any money.

    I'm sorry to say that johncar54 may be correct. I think you already know that.

    Seems this man is trying to steal money from you. He absolutely cannot obtain any visa for you at all.
    Look here for details about visa for work.

    I suggest you cut all contact now .


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    I agree with the previous posters, do not send him any money, it sounds like a scam


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    Thank you very much.... for all your suggestion.

    I will definitely do that......getting rid of him is better than loosing a lot money.


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    Quote Originally Posted by skinicuk View Post
    Thank you very much.... for all your suggestion.

    I will definitely do that......getting rid of him is better than loosing a lot money.
    It's the right thing to do

    If you're keen on meeting a westerner, there are lot's of genuine guys over here, none of whom would ever ask you for a cent, and would make considerable financial sacrifices to go over to the Philippines to meet you


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    SCAM SCAM SCAM

    You'll probably find that he's not even English, or even living in the UK.

    I'll hazard a guess at West African.

    Have you actually seen him ?
    No man is an island, but Barry is


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bluebirdjones View Post
    SCAM SCAM SCAM

    You'll probably find that he's not even English, or even living in the UK.

    I'll hazard a guess at West African.

    Have you actually seen him ?
    Most scams like this originate out of Nigeria, and as Bluebird has stated, there is a high probabilty this person is of West African origin. Did he have an English or Nigerian (African) accent when you spoke on the phone?


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    I talk to him on the phone he has an English accent. No I have not seen him on cam he only send pictures, he had a lot of excuses. I have his celphone number and address at home he said he is from Romford.

    Thank you Englishman2010 for the advice, its really a wake up call.


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    thank you englishman2010 its a wake up call.....


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    Quote Originally Posted by skinicuk View Post
    thank you englishman2010 its a wake up call.....
    Just as well you were sensible enough to ask questions first and haven't lost anything other than the time you've wasted on this loser of a guy


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    yeah englishman2010 actually lost of sleep ehehheheh!


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    Quote Originally Posted by skinicuk View Post
    yeah englishman2010 actually lost of sleep ehehheheh!
    I'm sure you'll catch up....most Filipina's I know are like cats, they sleep for 23 hours a day


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    thats really true I agree englishman2010.....


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    Scumbag alert !

    You will know someone's intentions are real when they are knocking on your door.

    Up to that point it's all daydreams.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    Scumbag alert !

    You will know someone's intentions are real when they are knocking on your door.

    Up to that point it's all daydreams.
    Absolutely If they can't be bothered to make the effort/financial sacrifice to jump on a plane to Manila, they aren't serious. I know it's tough economically in the UK right now and money is tight for everyone, but if they genuinely can't afford the £500 or so a flight costs, then the relationship has little chance of surviving without a face to face meeting.


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    walk away quickly from this man


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    As everyone has said, best off blocking and or deleting all this guys details. A pure grade A scumbag

    Hopefully you will find someone soon who actually wants to spend the rest of their life with you and not to take advantage of your obvious kind nature
    It's been emontional


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    Quote Originally Posted by subseastu View Post
    As everyone has said, best off blocking and or deleting all this guys details. A pure grade A scumbag

    Hopefully you will find someone soon who actually wants to spend the rest of their life with you and not to take advantage of your obvious kind nature
    Thank you for your advice.....

    I am really praying to find the right guy......God is kind and he will give me more what I have expected.


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    Seems like a right git to me you are worth more than that. Tell him to go to hell.


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    'git' means 'bad person'....in case any of our Filipina friends were wondering.


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    Thanks for that Graham.


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    Sorry to butt in, just that they may have problems with our slang.


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    No problem Graham your right..


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    Quote Originally Posted by skinicuk View Post
    Thank you for your advice.....

    I am really praying to find the right guy......
    ... and you WILL! However, for NOW, just be glad to be "shot" of that waster, take your time - be more choosy - and a belated to the friendly, online filipino/uk community.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Arthur Little View Post
    ... and you WILL! However, for NOW, just be glad to be "shot" of that waster, take your time - be more choosy - and a belated to the friendly, online filipino/uk community.
    Back on form Arthur well done


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