is it HARD to say SORRY???...

[bher]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

[stevewool]

yes and no , and this is a man saying this, we all like to think we know lots and are very realy wrong , but sometimes we are , we try to laugh our way out of a problem and sometimes we are digging a bigger hole to get out, i find it hard to say sorry if i had a bad day and just come home and i snap at emma, but after a few mins i do always go to her and say sorry,

[bher]

yes and no , and this is a man saying this, we all like to think we know lots and are very realy wrong , but sometimes we are , we try to laugh our way out of a problem and sometimes we are digging a bigger hole to get out, i find it hard to say sorry if i had a bad day and just come home and i snap at emma, but after a few mins i do always go to her and say sorry,

yess steve we are all like that in some ways..we want that all we think are good and right without even thinking others esp with their feelings... i'll ask u, if u had a little mistake and ate emma didnt like/she didnt agree bout it, but u think u are right' wat will u do?..

[Arthur Little]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

Not really, Bher ... I have this somewhat annoying [to others!] habit of using the word - without even thinking about it, sometimes; I'm sure we all do!

[bher]

Not really, Bher ... I have this somewhat annoying [to others!] habit of using the word - without even thinking about it, sometimes; I'm sure we all do!

but admit it sir arthur that most men rarely say sorry?.. their ego is one of the reasons.. people always say MEN are still MEN..

[stevewool]

but admit it sir arthur that most men rarely say sorry?.. their ego is one of the reasons.. people always say MEN are still MEN..

thats is wrong,if i am wrong i say it, i am not to proud to admit i am wrong, but very rare may i add

[Arthur Little]

... , if i am wrong i say it, i am not to proud to admit i am wrong ... xxgrinning--00xx3:

... me too!!

[bher]

good boy sir arthur ...

[JimOttley]

Not really, Bher ... I have this somewhat annoying [to others!] habit of using the word - without even thinking about it, sometimes; I'm sure we all do!

Yes I have that habit too Arthur, my ex partner Shona hated that, one of the reasons she dumped me 25 year ago

If you make a mistake and realise it you should have no difficulty in saying sorry, the problem is in recognising that you are at fault in the first place, I think that is where most guys trip up.

[stevewool]

naughty of you arthur saying sorry before you do something wrong,

[Arthur Little]

naughty of you arthur saying sorry before you do something wrong,

"Confession time", Steve ... and I'm not even a Catholic!

[Arthur Little]

For instance ... how many of us have, on the odd occasion, bumped into a lamp'post and found ourselves saying: "Sorry"?!

[stevewool]

never ever said sorry its usualy something hell

[stevewool]

saying sorry and meaning it too, i think everyone should accept this, and laugh about it together later, now if emma did not let it drop after saying this , i would just stick out my tonge and blow a raspberry at her till she laughs and if that did not work i would go to the pub alone

[bher]

they do accept but the thing is they jst don't show or tell their partners ok its my fault.. yeah jst laugh aftr or all night but with most of women those kind of situation/misunderstanding remains and still in our minds bout wat happend even aftr few hrs or minutes..

[stevewool]

see bher you have 2 men here that will and do say sorry when we are wrong , i told you we should have married

[bher]

yess we should lol.. ate emma will gonna kill me hahah... u steve and sir arthur good boy lol.. thats wat men have to do when they know its thier fault...

[Arthur Little]

... sorry, Bher ... you were saying ... ?

[bher]

... sorry, Bher ... you were saying ... ?

hahaha... sir never mind lol...

[Terpe]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

I needed to think a little bit before I gave my own view.
On balance I probably agree.
Why?
Don't know.
But... I know that if my wife says I did something wrong, I initially try to use all kind of 'weasel words' to give reasons why I did something. What I mean is that some other reason caused me to get it wrong rather than me so ... no 'Sorry I made a mistake'.
So means trying to put the blame on something or someone else.
Yep. There I go again.
But..... seems hard for Carina to say sorry also. Then.... if I mention that maybe it's the time for her to say sorry ... well i could be 'tampo' time.

I probably say sorry to all kind of things more than she does.

It's just a human thing ... right.
Sorry

[bher]

I needed to think a little bit before I gave my own view.
On balance I probably agree.
Why?
Don't know.
But... I know that if my wife says I did something wrong, I initially try to use all kind of 'weasel words' to give reasons why I did something. What I mean is that some other reason caused me to get it wrong rather than me so ... no 'Sorry I made a mistake'.
So means trying to put the blame on something or someone else.
Yep. There I go again.
But..... seems hard for Carina to say sorry also. Then.... if I mention that maybe it's the time for her to say sorry ... well i could be 'tampo' time.

I probably say sorry to all kind of things more than she does.

It's just a human thing ... right.
Sorry

.. u will try to blame others or to something else so that carina won't you ha? lol... sometimes i do that, make tampo to hubby but when he talk to me that will be gone.. even if he's not yet forgiven... but for me i stil want to hear him saying sorry but thats very rare to happend hay....

[stevewool]

talk and more talking is needed before , what happens bher when you are wrong

[bher]

talk and more talking is needed before , what happens bher when you are wrong

yesss more talking is needed aftr a fight and before...lol!

when im wrong i think about everything first, like wat i've done, wats wrong wit me etc.etc.. then when i realize i am wrong i often say sorry, all the time.. i say it and mean it.. even if sometimes i guess its not my fault i stil say sorry... is that right?..

[stevewool]

anyone can say sorry but its saying it and meaning it that counts sorry and a kiss helps and i wont tell emme if you dont

[bher]

yess u are right.. it should be from the heart when u say that word... hahaha, don't worry i won't

[rani]

its better for me to say sorry than to sleep with a heavy heart

is the question for men only??

[bher]

nope ...its for everyone...

[bher]

its better for me to say sorry than to sleep with a heavy heart

is the question for men only??

i know that.. but sometimes its hard to do that esp when u know that you are right and your partner is wrong..jst go to bed and sleep without talking..

[KeithD]

I always say sorry.... even though I'm always right

[bher]

I always say sorry.... even though I'm always right

aaawww, can i marry you sir? lol...