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6th April 2010 #1
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Encouragement needed!
I now have to decide whether to bring my Philipino over here and marry him, or accept that we will probably not meet again as he is 74 and I'm no spring chicken. After reading the thread about the cost of courting a Philipina, I feel quite depressed! Has anyone done it on less? The Government gives me a tiny £111 a week! Luckily I have some savings and a house I rent out which is giving me income at the moment but won't once interest rates rise.
Having always been looked after financially by the men in my life, it's quite terrifying to think I will be the sole provider.
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Nothing to lose, and everything to gain! :-)
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Well, if he's the one you love, and you'd rather be with him then alone, its worth taking a risk. But really, only you know the full situation.
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Only joking. Of course I'd rather have him than the money. But it's very difficult when you've reached an age when you don't work, so have no means of improving your financial situation. Also it's very odd to think of myself as the sole provider. It challenges everything I was brought up to believe!
Thanks for the encouragement, though.
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7th April 2010 #6
We only live once, why not just make ourself happy, as simple as that (IMO) come on lets enjoy life
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7th April 2010 #7
Is the only option for him to go to the UK? What you receive each month may seem like very little, but I'm sure it would go a lot further if you were to marry and live in the Phils.
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8th April 2010 #11
Hi Rose seeing Arthurs post reminded me of his inspirational story whilst not exactly the same I commend you to read part of his story here
http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=11873Absit invidia
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Thanks, I've read it and it is indeed inspirational. I hadn't even got to the point of wondering if the authorities would think I could support a husband or not, but now that I am thinking about it, they might well think I can't, although having checked the benefits situation, I wouldn't be entitled to pension credit or anything else if we were married (at least not for a few years). As Arthur pointed out in his own story, you have to pay a large sum to find out. I see they've just put the visa fee up to £644.
One thing I don't understand. On the fiance visa application, they ask for the applicant's financial circumstances, not mine. As he has virtually nothing, does that present another problem?
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8th April 2010 #14
Rose to me Arthur was expressing the same concerns but there must have come a moment where he though br it nothing ventured nothing gained and sure enough overcame any objections in his own mind and as you see is happily married
Now maybe thats not you (I may be reading Arthur wrong to) but if you want something enough you can have it get him here if its what you both want and get him half a dozen paper rounds potman jobs etc untill he can keep you in the manner youve become acustomed to lolAbsit invidia
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I can deal with the objections in my own mind (fear is an illusion after all), but I don't have control over Immigration who may well have their own objections.
I wouldn't dream of making him work, I want him to have a happy life free from worry.
My original question was whether it can be done for less than the costs listed on one of the threads, but nobody's answered that!
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8th April 2010 #16
Im not reading that thread rose so I cant be sure what your refering to clearly the visa costs if your in UK and depending the route you decide on cant be avoided if you already have met and established a relationship and hopefully can document it you either go there and marry and apply for the spouse visa or the fiance here route some of those costs a variable each will come up with a different final result by all means post any that your not sure of and you will get different opinions from folk who have been there or have some advice to offer
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Rose - just to note your query on your partners finances - my husband arrived last week (I smile all the way home from work knowing he's there.....!) on his application we took the advice from this forum of honesty - i was concerned that he earnt nothing legally and saved nothing so had no financial evidence - we wrote that he was a susbsitence farmer with occassional daily wage labour, we put n/a for the taxable income bit, and stated he gave half his money (unspecified) to his family and spent all the rest on food - so it was clear he had little resources of his own......the application was successful based on my finances, I support our daughter already and was concerned about this too - however he is here now......
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9th April 2010 #19
i think, the home office is more concerned that the relationship is staged/fake... which in your case isn't... just supply as many proof of relationship as you can and honesty on your financial circumstances... and take the plunge...
anyway, if you are already married there is a greater chance for the visa getting approved than applying for a fiancee visa... right folks?
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Hi English Rose.
If I'm not mistaken you did cite on another thread that you were put off by the the high temps in Phils? Whilst temps of 35 C can be too much, there are cooler places like the mountainous Baguio City where temps range generally between 15 C and 25 C.
You might also want to research settling in Europe somewhere. I've heard it said elsewhere that obtaining visas in Belgium is far easier provided you can obtain proof of living together for a certain period of time.
Just thoughts...good luck!
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