More on Jennifer and Michaels marrage problems

[angel1231]

just dropping by and what a sad story .....but all the best to you mick. Hope everything will sort out in the future.GOODLUCK MATE

[lizaphil]

Just send nothing and get rid of her. She's claimed enough from you. You're supposed to be enjoying your retirement mate.

yes i dont give her nothing let her learn,what she lost,
we see what she ganna do...

[aphrodite78]

Thank you all for your replies, my main worry is if she can claim maintance from me, as I have of course supported her since our marriabe in April 2008 so am thinking she will still expect it now?
Mick.

how low could she go. shame on her. i don't think she is entitled to be supported anyway. it's very sad, it's leaves a bad taste to us filipinas and the sad thing is this is not the first i've heard. i hope you are all right mick. i have been reading all your post and how you have tried overcoming your differences etc etc. it's her lost not yours. chin up and god bless.

[Queenbee]

how low could she go. shame on her. i don't think she is entitled to be supported anyway. it's very sad, it's leaves a bad taste to us filipinas and the sad thing is this is not the first i've heard. i hope you are all right mick. i have been reading all your post and how you have tried overcoming your differences etc etc. it's her lost not yours. chin up and god bless.

right on that!!!!oh ma ******* god Thats so horrible,,,Ho can she mangage to sleep at night,,,,arrrrr gives me goosebumps...Mick let her go....Enough is enough,,,,this is abuse,,,,Believe in karma mick,dnt be fooled again,,,

[Jonnywina]

Stay strong Mick..you deserve someone way way better!!! karma's a bitch!! hopefully when it strikes her it'll strike her bad..more than what she deserves! As for you Mick, go on with your life dare not to think of her anymore..not worth your time. keep safe

Jonny and Wina

[Margarita]

I can say that i agree to what most of the posters have said about Jennifer....She is just making a lot of excuses to justify her lies...I believe she is just taking advantage on you and never appreciate what you have done for her...Im sorry for whatever happened but i guess, you have to move on and find someone who is more worthy of your love and affection....Good luck and God bless you too....

[socool007]

I read all your msg and thay are helping me get over my wife who i think is the twin of Michaels wife lol.

[Arthur Little]

I read all your msg and thay are helping me get over my wife

Attaboy! That's good to know ... just give it time ... !

[LastViking]

Hi Mick, I am really sorry to hear what has happened to you. You must be feeling dreadful as well.

I am recently divorced and found a really good support web site at wikivorce.co.uk not only is there lots of free practical and legal advice on there but lots of support from others in similar situations.

I found the site a life saver and I managed to do my divorce on a DIY basis for less than £ 1,000 with their help. I know your situation is different but I am sure that there will be someone on there who could help and advise. Anyway just a suggestion.

If you do join just PM me if you need any help.

[mickcant]

Hi Mick, I am really sorry to hear what has happened to you. You must be feeling dreadful as well.

I am recently divorced and found a really good support web site at wikivorce.co.uk not only is there lots of free practical and legal advice on there but lots of support from others in similar situations.

I found the site a life saver and I managed to do my divorce on a DIY basis for less than £ 1,000 with their help. I know your situation is different but I am sure that there will be someone on there who could help and advise. Anyway just a suggestion.

If you do join just PM me if you need any help.

Hi LastViking,
Thank you for the link, I have joined and started reading through the post, I will post some questions soon.
Mick.

[blackcat22]

Really a shame when this sort of things happened, only if Mick could have smelt the coffee early on the relationship and be assertive enough to take action, then it wouldnt have lead to this heartache.

Now she has seen how successful she has been with this type of scam, she will try again with other men and oh her friends back in phils will see how well she has done for herself with this scam and will be queuing up on dating sites to try and copy her scam methods. As if dating site is not already full of people like her.

we that are still looking for our filipino princess need to be on our guard more than ever

it seems every filipinos have or know a friend or distant relative being supported by a foreign boyfriend/lover so they all queuing up for slice of the cake with false pretenses with exception of a few honest ones.

well I have my own story to tell later but nothing as bad as mick tho thank God

[blackcat22]

As a rule of thumb I generally stay away from filipinos looking for partners who are 30 or 40+ yrs older than their own age i.e filipino is 20 and looking for partner 50 or 60+ yrs old . This normally raise a red flag with me as higher proportion of them in this category have bad intentions and wanting to scam.

some will even say 20yrs max above their own age is the safest bet.

Mick, will be interesting to know if this girl falls into the category I mentioned above

[Fitzy]

I was searching for something else and came across your thread Mick, and am completely outraged by this!!
I had one like her in CDO a while back, as alot of members know, and I dumped her.
I could not take a costly, loveless relationship anymore.
Just be more careful next time mate.
There are many fine, honest, truthful, loving girls out there.

Chin up mate.

Never say never.

The very moment someone asks you for money in the early stages of a relationship, DUMP THEM.

Just out of interest mate, did you meet here on FH??



All the best mick, and happy new year to you.

[English Rose]

Sorry to hear about your problems. It sounds like a horrible experience.
As I understand it, the marriage visa is initially for 2 years only, so after April, there's no way back.
I guess she had sex with you once so you couldn't apply for an annulment.
You could divorce her on the grounds of mental cruelty but serving the papers is going to be a problem. After 5 years' separation, you can apply for a divorce without her consent.
I don't see how she will be able to successfully apply for maintenance from the Philippines.
I hope these thoughts are helpful.
Wishing you a better 2010.

[bornatbirth]

i guess she was forced or pressured into a relationship,which she never wanted and mick was the unlucky one.

sad for everyone

[mickcant]

Sorry to hear about your problems. It sounds like a horrible experience.
As I understand it, the marriage visa is initially for 2 years only, so after April, there's no way back.
I guess she had sex with you once so you couldn't apply for an annulment.
You could divorce her on the grounds of mental cruelty but serving the papers is going to be a problem. After 5 years' separation, you can apply for a divorce without her consent.
I don't see how she will be able to successfully apply for maintenance from the Philippines.
I hope these thoughts are helpful.
Wishing you a better 2010.

Hi all, thank you for your thoughts and concern.
I have wanted to write but was a little worried at the same time as I seem to be going against much of the advice given me.

When I asked Jennifer if she would sign the divorce papers, for a divorce without using a solicitor, she said she did not want to divorce but wanted to return and make our marriage work!

So I decided to follow my heart and try, at least we would then know for sure, I would always have wondered “what if”.

Jennifer returned here December the 19th and all has been ok so far, we do have things to work through, we were apart 19 months since the marriage apart from the 12 days she was first here.

We are more or less starting again, things are much better so far and hopefully we will get through our problems.

I realise we may have problems with her not being here the full two years required for the visa, but hopefully we can work somthing out by then.

Jennifer has enjoyed our snow over the last two days, and taken pictures to send home.
Mick.

[jam07]

I'm glad she finally come to her senses. I hope everything will be okay now. All the best with you and your wife mick!

[September]

Can we see her pictures

[estherboaz]

wishing you a happy 2010 mick.

[triple5]

I'm sure you know what you're doing, Mick, but if you were a mate of mine I'd tell you ya need your head examining. I hope she realises the stress she's put you under and now appreciates all you've done for her.

Hope it works out well.

[English Rose]

I'm glad things are better and don't like to burst the balloon - but with the two years nearly up, are you sure she's not just after permanent residency? Once she has this, it will be much easier to apply for maintenance if your marriage breaks up.

[Leo]

Hi Mick happy new year to you please be careful and dont get hurt again and dont give any more money away look after yourself

[aromulus]

[Arthur Little]

... *with the two years nearly up, are you sure she's not just after permanent residency? Once she has this, it will be much easier to apply for maintenance if your marriage breaks up.

... With respect, if I might correct you *here ... Mick's wife's visa was, I believe, approved towards the end of last August, and she came to the UK on September 29, 2009. Which means its 27 months' validity won't be due to expire until November 2011. Therefore, since she cannot apply for permanent residence [ILR] before August NEXT year, I don't think the motive that you suggest for her returning is likely to have any bearing on the situation as it stands.

[IainBusby]

Hi all, thank you for your thoughts and concern.
I have wanted to write but was a little worried at the same time as I seem to be going against much of the advice given me.

When I asked Jennifer if she would sign the divorce papers, for a divorce without using a solicitor, she said she did not want to divorce but wanted to return and make our marriage work!

So I decided to follow my heart and try, at least we would then know for sure, I would always have wondered “what if”.

Jennifer returned here December the 19th and all has been ok so far, we do have things to work through, we were apart 19 months since the marriage apart from the 12 days she was first here.

We are more or less starting again, things are much better so far and hopefully we will get through our problems.

I realise we may have problems with her not being here the full two years required for the visa, but hopefully we can work somthing out by then.

Jennifer has enjoyed our snow over the last two days, and taken pictures to send home.
Mick.

Hi Mick,
I'd like to be able to say I'm very happy for you that she has returned and if things do actually work out for the best for you I will be, but I really feel more worried for you than anything. She seemed to show so little concern for you when she walked out on you and returned to the Philippines and at the moment I can only think, rightly or wrongly, that she's only returned because once she got back to Phils, she found the gravy train had already left town.

I could believe that extreme homesickness could sometimes make a woman act in the way she did and everything else being equal I would be the first to give her the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately I can't get my head around the fact that she was so cold towards you physically and sexually and this has led me to conclude that she doesn't appear to have any genuine affection for you.

I really hope that there are things that I just don't quite understand about your relationship and I hope also that in the long run I'm completely wrong in everything I've said in this post.

Cheers,

Iain.

[Florge]

*sigh*... that's all i can do mick... but i truly wish you good luck and i am truly hoping for the best.

[Sophie]

I hope she's back for the right reasons mick and as much as i want to be happy for you for being reunited with her, given how much you love her,
please be very careful and be more smart this time, don't let your heart and feelings cloud your judgement, sometimes we have to use our head......
I sincerely wish you all the best mick

[alanmf1]

Best of Luck Mick, everyone deserves happiness!

[mickcant]

I'm glad things are better and don't like to burst the balloon - but with the two years nearly up, are you sure she's not just after permanent residency? Once she has this, it will be much easier to apply for maintenance if your marriage breaks up.

Hi all,
Thank you very much for your thoughts and help.
Arthur is right about my wife’s visa it was issued 17th August 2009.
It runs until 17th November 2011 that is the 2 years and three months.


She arrived here on the 29th September 6 weeks after the visa was issued.
But was here only here 12 days then returned to the Philippines on the 13th October 2009.
She returned here on the 19-12-2009, she been in the Philippines for 16 weeks from the start of the visa, so we are 4 weeks out.
As far as I know she has to be here with me in the UK for a full 2 years out of that time to be allowed to apply for the next “further leave to remain” visa that allows her to stay in the UK and then take the test for British citizenship, I will see what can be done about that nearer the time if we survive.

We are a lot closer now, and are doing things together, but as I said we have been apart some 19 months since the wedding I do feel we have a chance and will give her and myself the time necessary to adjust.

Someone asked to see a picture of Jennifer in the snow, I have them but have fogot how to add them, I tried draging them into the text box but that does not work, I also tried usinf the attchment link, if anyone can help I will post them.
Mick.

[maria_and_matt]

goodluckto you mick, i hope it works out this time. i am a little worried about you, i hope she has truly changed and want to work out whatever problems she had. i hate for you to get hurt again, for your sake i hope she stays for good this time.