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2nd September 2009 #31
Thanks for the continued responses.
There's been a few points made which I'll try to address;
miss.piggy "I would like to believe that if NewShoes' girlfriend has got enough money to spend for her own annulment, then she won't hesitate to handle that herself as well" > I believe this to be the truth.
trader dave "i think i would actualy meet before i was even thinking of sending /helping your chatmate
believe me before you even start on this adventure i would do some serious thinking because believe me its not easy,there are many pitfalls on the way and thats before you even consider the cost financial and to your sanity"
>I actually met her in person and then only started chatting web cam in YM once I had returned to the UK.
>I have been in a long-term, living together relationship (6 years) with a Filipina who was already here in the UK so I'm aware of the highs and lows and frustrations of living together with a Filipina.
IainBusby "If I were in your situation, I would go and visit her again before you commit yourself......" > This is the point I'm most interested in and is the one which caused me the initial doubt as to whether I was proceeding too fast.
General points;
Yes she has a 6 years old child, i don't consider this a problem. I feel more comfortable with a person near to my own age whp has a child already, rather than a girl half my age who does not have a child.
Regarding the lawyer and his fees. I hear waht you're saying David House. There may be a way to get the fees paid direct to the Lawyer although I'm very wary of getting "too close" as I'm fully aware that if the lawyer knows there's a foreigner involved, the cost of the fees may go up accordingly.
Thank again to one and all who posted. I very much appreciate all of the comments received. plenty of food for thought.
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2nd September 2009 #32
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3rd September 2009 #33
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3rd September 2009 #34
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3rd September 2009 #35
Oh boy! You're asking something there!
I appreciate and understand why you asked that question. I don't think your question could be answered properly here.
I think you'd be beter off starting a new thread where all the guys who have experienced living long-term with a Filipina can make a contribution.
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3rd September 2009 #36
>I have been in a long-term, living together relationship (6 years) with a Filipina who was already here in the UK so I'm aware of the highs and lows and frustrations of living together with a Filipina.
fair comments on your part .....the point i was trying to make was the LDR IT IS HARD many highs many lows many tampos arguments .......
i lived with a pilipina for 10years but nothing COULD HAVE PREPARED ME FOR THE TURBULANCE OF AN LDR
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3rd September 2009 #37
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4th September 2009 #38
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You can get the converse as well, a lawyer who promises to do something cheaply even though there is a foreigner involved, takes the money then does nothing, I lost 40,000 peso that way :( and wasted nearly 2 years of our lives
Never pay up front, they know you are not there often so they will get little hassle from you.
In one year or so I hope to be recommending a couple of Filipino lawyer friends on here but I wont do that till I see much more from them, they have been really good to us already though, we would be nowhere without them.
Jim
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4th September 2009 #39
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OMG oh dear me, yes how I understand
When we started out we didn't actually expect a solution we thought we just had to be in the Phils together somehow, but as time went by expectations changed because solutions to some problems created new openings and life develops, new babies come along, plans change.
Coping with the constantly changing plans in an LDR is really really hard
Jim
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10th September 2009 #40
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10th September 2009 #41
Hi New Shoes,
My suggestion is for your gf to negotiate with the lawyer, it is better to just stay on the background.. She can either choose between the package deal or 2 installments, or depends on the agreement they will have. There are some members here who had gone through with this annulment thing and they can share their experiences with you or to your gf.
Goodluck on your quest!...
Take care...
Cheers!" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
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4th October 2009 #42
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5th October 2009 #43
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The real problem with, so called annulment in the Philippines, is that for all practical purposes it amounts to what is divorce anywhere else. It is relatively expensive, with lawyers charging large fees, and unnecessarily complicated. The result is that those without capital are discriminated against whilst for the wealthy there is no problem, and in effect divorce on demand.
I would suggest what is needed is a reform of the law to ensure, what happens now eventually, can be obtained cheaply and quickly. That will take a change in the law. As people elect the politicians it they who need to start campaigning for the change.
I hope no one is going to be deceived by the argument that divorce is not allowed in Philippines. It is only the ‘word’ which is not allowed. A couple who have been legally married having that marriage dissolved, is divorce. Calling it annulment, thus to make it appear a catholic country does not permit divorce, is semantics.
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7th October 2009 #44
exactly..me as well,i have sorted my annulment which is still ongoing on my own money...Even he is willing to help me with it,it's just me, *PRIDE* i guess ,hehe,,I don't wanna burden him as well coz he also has an ongoing divorce.Divorce in UK makes the husband broke,,In the philippines,the other way around,,IM really hopin and prayin i get ma annulment papers this year since we are plannin to get married next year...
Trust your instincts mate...
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7th October 2009 #45
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The annulment is quite a big expense and we have gone for the 50% up front and 50% on completion option. 200,000 PHP total, which I think is more then some people have paid. We started the process in February, and its still ongoing mostly because the husband has never responded to anything, and therefor each trial he has to be given the opportunity to respond and then had to be investigated for not responding and then time has to be given for this and that, and then waiting for court dates. Eventually Marvie had the trial on Monday, and half way through they ran out of time, and said come back in 2 months to finish the trial! oh well....
What i'm saying, is be aware of what your getting into, do some research on the annulment, and it could be a good idea to spend time with your girlfriend again before you really commit, because it will be a big commitment!
It's a bit of gamble, but chances are you'll be a winner.
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7th October 2009 #46
totally agree!!!It depends on the judge's busy schedule and all...Thankfully with the help and support from ma parents we just spend about 100k plus since our lawyer is a close friend of my mom's,her classmate in law before..Im a bit blessed and think someone is really watchin me from above..My ex wasnt really cooperating as well but it will make it more faster and easier in my case...
It is indeed a big commitment and takes alot of patience...
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8th October 2009 #47
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8th October 2009 #48
Hi Ian,
I agree with final payment being made upon FINAL completion. My question is, how do I / we know exactly that ALL the documents have been completed properly?
Obviously I'm not involved and my good lady may be told by the laywer that all is finished, but how will she know for sure?
Is there a final document or certificate that is issued to show that the marriage is annulled 100%?
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