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19th August 2009 #1
what would you do?
a very good friend of mine (she's filipina), has been married to her british husband for about 4 years now. the hubby has cheated on her before they got married and recently went to thailand and had a sexual encounter with a filipina ex there. i have told time my friend time and time again that she should leave him. she told me she can't coz shes catholic and her parents will disapprove. i have her here in my home often crying her eyes out, to be perfectly honest i am so sick of it. why put up with a man that don't treat you right. i really have no patience to sit here and listen to her, it gets me so down.
if you were me, what would you say and do?God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
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19th August 2009 #2
tell her to empty his bank account and go and meet another guy!,howcome hes going on holiday to meet this women?
but she should leave him,why would you put up with him because shes catholic he can do it over ans over again?i have learnt to do what my wife says!
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19th August 2009 #3
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We'll he's obviously treating her like a possession and as though she owes him something, why put yourself through that?
A personal rule is if a girl ever cheats on me the relationship ends, if she has any self respect she'd follow
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19th August 2009 #4
I'd just try and tell her to leave him otherwise he will keep doing it and make her miserable, yes she's catholic, but surely her family want her to be happy. She cant let herself be brought down by him, if she stays with him, he'll just keep doing it all the more because she lets him.
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19th August 2009 #5God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
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19th August 2009 #6
My brother had an old mangy tom-cat,always wandering around the neighbourhood making a noise and producing kittens,he took it to the vets,got it castrated,it put on weight,always stayed at home,and was a lot healthier once its sexual nocturnal perambulations were curtailed Theres a moral to that story but I cant actually remember what it is Tell her to buy 25kg sacks of Depo-Provera,add it to her cooking,its going to work 100%
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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19th August 2009 #7
i told her that already, i was in the same situation with my ex hubby, we are catholics too, and i found it so hard to tell my parents i was getting a divorce. but when my father heard about what was going with my marriage then he told me to go ahead with the divorce, i had his support 101%.
i told her her folks would understand. and to do what is best for her. i am so sick of this already ... grrrrGod grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
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19th August 2009 #8
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19th August 2009 #10
im not sure if you should tell her that your fed up listening to her about it,but if she stays with him he will keep doing it.
if she wont leave him,tell her to do the same cheat on him!
and make yourself to busy to see heri have learnt to do what my wife says!
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19th August 2009 #11God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
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19th August 2009 #12
Sad to hear your friend is experiencing that heartache over her husband, but if she has her ilr or citizenship already never mind the husband leave him, even if she's catholic (we are raised to uphold marriage) if so much pain and suffering is what she's experiencing now better to move on early. It would be difficult specially if children were also involved but have their dad support them financially. And the best remedy she must find some work so that she have means to support herself. And most of all Pray. Na sana kabagan yang asawa nya at ng matauhan.
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19th August 2009 #13
This is a sad fact of life but true,anyone who wants to say "No way,thats crap" please feel free to chip in,its just been my observation over the years,your experiences might be different...Buttttt some guys marry pinays,or Thais,and date only those submissive(or so its percieved in the west)oriental types because they know they can use,abuse,and cast them away and still they run back for more(or so it seems to Mr Ego)he probably doesnt look like Brad Pitt(maybe Brads Arm-Pitt)but is using her character weakness or dependancy or submissive demeanour and having his cake and eating it,loads of those types of guy around,he wont stop unless she gives him a wake-up call,if she doesnt she is setting herself up for a lifetime of mental anguish every time he goes away on a (monkey)business trip
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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19th August 2009 #15
tell her to leave him so when he comes home,shes gone!
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
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19th August 2009 #16
And miss maria, you must be the only person she can pour all her heartaches now, but sometimes too much lecturing will not get to nowhere kaya, how about asking her... so what steps are you going to do now? let her be the one to answer those so that she herself can sort out her problem. Sana po you will not turn her away or hide form her...We are in a far away land and your the only one she can count on sometimes telling others what we feel lightens our burden and guides us... Pero talaga po baka kayo lang ang kaibigan niya
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19th August 2009 #17
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But she knows where you live, so she can always pop up anytime without a warning if you cut your landline and celphone off, lol
But seriously, i think you should tell her straight that her crying all the time over her cheating husband is getting tiring already
because she's not really doing something about it and she's not taking your advise as well to move on
and stop feeling sorry for herself and wallow in self pity, she has a choice, and she should be smart about it....."10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
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19th August 2009 #18
Some people are what we used to call NBV's(natural born victims)they have a victim mentality,bad things in life always happen to them because they dont even try and help themselves out of situations and just wallow in self pity,Hard times beget hard measures,tell her to get herself a boyfriend,good for the goose good for the gander type thing,if she doesnt at least try wash your hands as her mindset is defeatist and this will drag on ad infinitum
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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19th August 2009 #20
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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19th August 2009 #22
Nope,I like mentally strong women(they need to be,I do strange things sometimes)
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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19th August 2009 #23
But she does need to jettison him,and alter her perception of herself,forget catholicism for a while,its like the heavy sack of rocks Buddhists carry through their present life if they were naughty(and who wasnt)in their last existance,tell her to learn to like herself,if she doesnt listen grab a handfull of hair and try banging her head against a wall,preferably brickwork and not stud partitioning
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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19th August 2009 #24
thats why when hes at work she should pack up and go stay with a friend maybe maria
then he might realise what he will lose,if he doesnt come looking then she needs to leave him?i have learnt to do what my wife says!
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19th August 2009 #25
Actually, tell her to take up a hobby like, say.. Mixed Martial Arts Apart from being surrounded by mostly men who like to get roughed up whilst half naked. A good few of them will be trying to get into her, and her husband will know it!
And he can't exactly march down there for a shouting match, can he
And with a little luck she will lose the victim mentality
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19th August 2009 #26
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"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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