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Thread: How to handle RACIST IN-LAWS
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29th July 2009 #31
honestly until now my sister and i cant stop laughing about her. She maybe thinking she is better than everyone
I dont get angry but instead i pity her as she is a lonely person.
and insane...imagine calling me a monkey
no time to get upset over it as i have more things to do. anyway whatever names she calls me, its not important.There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
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29th July 2009 #32" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
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29th July 2009 #33
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3rd August 2009 #34
i have two ideas.....
1.when they call put the phone down and let them talk to the table...they will spend money and eventually get bored and not call again
2. answer the phone and laugh at everything they say,,,,,,every word they say...laugh laugh and laugh again...that will really annoy them and they will stop calling
power to the peaceful....
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3rd August 2009 #35There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
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6th August 2009 #36
Ignore them. If they start making incorect statements to the press or anything like that, then address it IMMEDIATELY, but there is no point in loweing yourself to their level and getting antagonistic. If you don't need them, ignore them - the whole thing will become easier.
Sometimes, there IS no understanding, only acceptance.
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6th August 2009 #37
Well nothing beats the Phills calling me a yank or French Swedish i didn't mind but the other two
Still could be worse they might think im from the north or welsh
If its your inlaws is this a one off outburst or the norm. Although the actual words are extremely harsh could it be they due to the stress and worry blame you and the phillipines for your Husbands current situation.
Very tough on you but maybe like others say ignoring and devote your time as you are to much more important issues.Oh lord why did you make so many clothes and shoe shops
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6th August 2009 #38
thanks for all your advises...today i got an email from her apologising
Its because since she phoned me i block all the details of Kevin and the case so they wont call me anymore.atleast now they realised that if they keep doing nasty things to me they cant get anything about Kevin and his situation. They must be lucky coz i love Kevin alot and inspite of all this happening to us I never asked them for anything. Maybe they realised that what ever happens Kevin will still know who am iThere once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
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6th August 2009 #39
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6th August 2009 #40
I have been away from the site and with so many posts on the forum its impossible to catch up with everything. So may have missed posts which explain more of the story, so please forgive me if i dive in the wrong end
But doing the old looking at it from the other point of view.
Their son who although they may be estranged from your hubby, he is still their flesh and blood. I know of many Brits who have what to phills sound very strange relationships with the children not speaking to the parents or brothers and sisters who rarely do not for any particular reason.
I can off the top of my head count in double figures.
I can think of life long friends who have bloted out their parents from their lifes and having known both sides very closely since we were very young can see no reason for it. I seriously have yet to come across of any phills who do it.
I can think of other brits who hardly speak to siblings and again no reason. Maybe the shrinks on here know the reasons for.
When i do hear the reasons given its for what sound very trivial and often its appears to be a lack of communication. A lot of Brits are very reserved and feelings and talking about sensitive issues are avoided even with those very close to them and brushed under the carpet.
Also many familys in the uk are either so distant and/or small that if there is an argument there is often no one there to mediate of course in a typical phill family...
Your Hubbys family
All they know is this voice on the phone address in an email contact list, photo in an album.
It seems there has been no dialogue between you and his family which in five years seems odd and I could see (rightly or wrongly) how they could feel you have led there little baby son astray.
Have you spoken to any other members of the family or friends of his from the UK? To get their view point?
Im just wondering what the average pinay mum might say if an estranged child (who they still love or have feelings for) ended up in the UK married a guy they had never met and not had much if any dialogue with then suddenly they hear there beloved child who has seemed to cut them out of their life is in trouble and they are powerless to help.
When a person in the UK joins a cult or a family member marries or starts an affair with a person then the loved one ends up in trouble of course they blame the non family member or the cult. Same in phill i bet
Im not excusing someone ranting on the phone to you and what was said but its of course always a good step i find to understand an argument from all angles.
Maybe this could be the perfect time to show you are a decent human being saying look in the past five years we have not got to know one another but lets start afresh and pull together for the man we both love? Let them know the words offended you but your prepared to forget what happened its a stressful time and at the moment we need to pull together to help my husband /your son.Oh lord why did you make so many clothes and shoe shops
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6th August 2009 #41There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
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6th August 2009 #42
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6th August 2009 #43
Actually kevs parents are ok, i speak with his dad often now...only his sister is the nasty one . but i hope as she emailed me she will be fair with her comments to me and she would take things properly without being racist or anything. I told her what ever misunderstanding she have with kev should be set aside for a while as what is important now is both families would help for kevins release or even for a fair trial
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
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6th August 2009 #44
Maybe I am just a little bit bitchy at times, but if I find myself in this situation. I will tell my family how I will be having as many mixed race children as nature will allow Just to freak them out
Nothing upsets racists more than knowing that people of the other race are multiplying
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Bit of a sad story here, it looks like you are having to bear the burden of your husbands misfortunes, and deal with his inlaws attitude...
Generally speaking UK families are not as close as family groups in the Philippines, so no issue there.
Concerning the abusive phone calls, keep in mind that they are paying for the call, so just string them along... maximise their expense... they will soon get tired of it...
AJ
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At least we do not need fake tan or go the salon for a sun bed just to get out brown skin hehehe. Kidding aside its best to keep quiet and do all you can to support your hubby it isn't easy but its worth rather than retaliating and be like those people you see in Jeremy Kyle show who most of the time are bunch ignorant and proud of their misdeeds.
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