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20th July 2009 #1
So we had the sex talk..
Hi Guy's,
I've been meaning to make this post for the last day or so but kind of thought it too personal, but then after reading through some of the older posts.. I thought, what the heck!!
My new girl "Rizza" and I have been meeting up online every day since we met, whether it be for a five hour conversation marothon or a half hour chat. And only in the last couple of days did we approach the subject of sex! Mainly because of some things one of her cousins had told her about what some western men go to Cebu for and of course those obvious fears..
So anyway, Rizza is a virgin. And she wants to remain one until she marries. Something I know is not uncommon in the phils from the many accounts of courtships I have read on this forum. And I am happy to respect that and I told her that I will not be expecting any sexual relations or make her think that she needs to perform whatever to keep me interested (trust me, I'm interested no matter how long I wait).. Trying to be a gentleman!
However.. Rizza has said she would be happy to share a hotel room with me. Although I have not yet gotten round to discussing the type of room (large bed or two singles) that we wll be staying in and from what point after we meet in person.
We also discussed staying at her uncles (where she currently lives - thanks Florge), mainly as I did not want her to think she had to stay with me from the first day we meet in person! And although nothing is final, it remains an option for the first few days..
But her uncle lives in Barili, not Cebu city! From what I see on the internet, not much besides a really nice waterfall and a beach there. No cafes, places to go on dates, plus it is a good trek to Cebu city so not really worth travelling to and from every day!
So I would like to pick the brains of some of you guy's, especially the ladies who have been in the position of Rizza. Did you sleep with your husband (then boyfriend) in the same bed (no sex) from early on.. Or would that be rushing things?? The reason I ask is my previous experience has been with english girls and virginity was never an issue (well, not since school).
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20th July 2009 #2
Same bed, no sex? In a monastery perhaps, and not even sure..... I have had the same type of discussion with my gf recently, with the notable difference that she is a widow with three children, so her virginity is an old souvenir....
I do not mean to spoil the whole thing but I found on the Internet the story of a Frenchman who married a Pinay from Ormoc long ago and he says that very often a virgin about to get married with a western man surrenders her virginity to a local boy because it will hurt less (the old size story...). And this was confirmed to me by several sources!
By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..
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will never been kiss never been touch but totally damaged
all things are possible!
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My hubby's first 3 visits before, he stayed in a hotel and i would just pick him up in the morning to go around
and drop him off to the hotel again at night, while i drive back home....
On his 4th and 5th visit, we were engaged already so he stayed at our house, with my family's approval of course.....
And when he came back again for our wedding, with his parents, they all stayed in our house as well....
It's best to respect her views and values.....she will appreciate and love you more for that"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
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20th July 2009 #9
its best to respect her and her views,why not have a room with 2 single beds or 2 single rooms.
the more she gets to know you and trust you,you will soon be sharing a bed but let her make the desicion!i have learnt to do what my wife says!
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Remember, anal means she is still a virgin
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If she said that sex is sacred and wants to save it til marriage, then please respect her...
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20th July 2009 #22" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
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20th July 2009 #23
Thanks for the info..
I was edging to a budget hotel with 2 rooms?? At least for a few days in cebu city???
Oh, I do... I trust this girl 100%
Don't worry, I am in no hurry
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Get to know her more first and enjoy each other's company in a more wholesome way, lol
I'm sure she's worth the wait northerner"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
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20th July 2009 #25
yes Clinton said he never had sex with that monica whats her face
first night i met the misses, i slept in a bedroom on my own at the misses place, only 2 bedroom house, but the next night we slept in the same bed , because most of her family had come to visit, and most of them had to sleep in the other room and on the floor , they were squashed like sardines, but nothing went on btw us , as her 3yr old little gal was btw us both
then the next day her dad came to visit, told me about his gun collection
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20th July 2009 #26
Is the uncle a virgin
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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They dont need luck VB,what they need are implements of prevention,nope,not the morning after pill,thats so yesterday,get the local blacksmith to knock you up a pair if His'N'Her chastity belts,yeah,they come in male and female models(and get the uncle some sort of "Butt Bung")One tip,they need oiling regular otherwise they get rusty from "Body-fluids"
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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Well,
I may rock the boat a little, but I think that any woman who sleeps in the same bed as a man should be willing to have sex.
If she does not want to lose her virginity, both people should avoid sleeping in the same room.
Separate rooms are better as there are no awkward moments.
Men should be gentlemen; a lady will make her decision when she feels comfortable.
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