So we had the sex talk..

[Sophie]

Well,

I may rock the boat a little, but I think that any woman who sleeps in the same bed as a man should be willing to have sex.

If she does not want to lose her virginity, both people should avoid sleeping in the same room.

Separate rooms are better as there are no awkward moments.

Men should be gentlemen; a lady will make her decision when she feels comfortable.

Totally agree, now that's a true gentleman

[Tawi2]

what about bj training thats the route i would take

Dave,your incorrigible(the worrying thing Is I think I am the same)

[bornatbirth]

isnt that rocking the bed??

[LEAHnew]

In our case pheromones attack easily and we became one

They dont need luck VB,what they need are implements of prevention,nope,not the morning after pill,thats so yesterday,get the local blacksmith to knock you up a pair if His'N'Her chastity belts,yeah,they come in male and female models(and get the uncle some sort of "Butt Bung")One tip,they need oiling regular otherwise they get rusty from "Body-fluids"

ouch!..

[Jay&Zobel]

Well,

I may rock the boat a little, but I think that any woman who sleeps in the same bed as a man should be willing to have sex.

If she does not want to lose her virginity, both people should avoid sleeping in the same room.

Separate rooms are better as there are no awkward moments.

Men should be gentlemen; a lady will make her decision when she feels comfortable.

That's what I thought too! Through this, temptations will be avoided
Very good advice Mr Aposhark!

[LEAHnew]

Well,

I may rock the boat a little, but I think that any woman who sleeps in the same bed as a man should be willing to have sex.

If she does not want to lose her virginity, both people should avoid sleeping in the same room.

Separate rooms are better as there are no awkward moments.

Men should be gentlemen; a lady will make her decision when she feels comfortable.

Very Maginoo (gentleman)

[Sophie]

Dave,your incorrigible(the worrying thing Is I think I am the same)

And i thought you're better than that, lol

[Northerner]

Well,

I may rock the boat a little, but I think that any woman who sleeps in the same bed as a man should be willing to have sex.

If she does not want to lose her virginity, both people should avoid sleeping in the same room.

Separate rooms are better as there are no awkward moments.

Men should be gentlemen; a lady will make her decision when she feels comfortable.

I disagree, yet see where your coming from!

A few years ago, an old colleague of mine lived with his devout christian girlfriend. She was a virgin yet they lived together in a one bedroom flat..

But I can see your point about the awkward moment

[Tawi2]

Only on the surface,if I was out on the town with Dave I might be a little worse actually,if I drink too much coke I get quite loud

[Sophie]

Only on the surface,if I was out on the town with Dave I might be a little worse actually,if I drink too much coke I get quite loud

beyond redemption indeed, lol just kidding tawiwi

[kenny]

Same bed, no sex? In a monastery perhaps, and not even sure..... I have had the same type of discussion with my gf recently, with the notable difference that she is a widow with three children, so her virginity is an old souvenir....

I do not mean to spoil the whole thing but I found on the Internet the story of a Frenchman who married a Pinay from Ormoc long ago and he says that very often a virgin about to get married with a western man surrenders her virginity to a local boy because it will hurt less (the old size story...). And this was confirmed to me by several sources!

By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..

that made me laugh on two accounts..

[kenny]

Totally agree, now that's a true gentleman

Yeah im with you on that one Sophie, totally agree.

[Jay&Zobel]

I do not mean to spoil the whole thing but I found on the Internet the story of a Frenchman who married a Pinay from Ormoc long ago and he says that very often a virgin about to get married with a western man surrenders her virginity to a local boy because it will hurt less (the old size story...). And this was confirmed to me by several sources!

Test mike, one two, one two...

[Sophie]

Yeah im with you on that one Sophie, totally agree.

[Arthur Little]

But I can see your point about the awkward moment

Hmmm, I reckon if you opted for two single beds in the same room, she'd maybe see your 'point'... but wouldn't quite be able to grasp it!

[Northerner]

Hmmm, I reckon if you opted for two single beds in the same room, she'd maybe see your 'point'... but wouldn't quite be able to grasp it!

[Piamed]

Hmmm, I reckon if you opted for two single beds in the same room, she'd maybe see your 'point'... but wouldn't quite be able to grasp it!

Oh Arthur! Really!!!

[pennybarry]

Could be happened if lady is virgin. I agree as it happened to me. I tried it before how can I control my emotion and it works!

If you have principles, dream that you want to achieve first, I believe you can set aside sex first. But if you always carried by your emotions, then it will be hard to control doing sex and think come what may This mostly happens to students, they have fears of doing sex

Happened to others too as first night is really ouch Better luck someday

[Arturo]

By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..

ppppphhhhhwwwwwww sharp intake of breath ..


Ding..

Round 2

[Arturo]

You can believe her for sure, I encountered virgins aged more than 40 on FH.... but that's perhaps too much!

So.. thats why there are "fewer " virgins........ hats off to yer mate

[KeithD]

.....but I think that any woman who sleeps in the same bed as a man should be willing to have sex.......

That would include my sister then!

[Pepe n Pilar]

Hi Northerner,

I have read different views from different people of different backgrounds. I agree with some comments that they hold on to their virginity until the marriage. To some that were not able to wait, then so be it.

Based on your situation, you already had talked about sex with your gf. So more or less you both has known how one feels with each other.. We can't give the exact advices on here as you are the one concerned. But anyway, i agree with Aposhark comments, if you want to avoid having sex then get separate rooms. It is still tempting if you get 2 beds but still in the same room.

As long as strong love connects to both of you then sleeping in the same bed without sex is uncontrollable. Unless it is a platonic love..

BTW is this your first time to meet each other?. I have known a filipina who has been chatting with her bf for more than 6 months but they never talk about sex. She said it was only mentioned perhaps in one of their chats and one email so they got ideas on their own views about the subject. When they first met because her bf met her in her country, they easily got along well with each other and staying in one room was not a big deal for them. I suppose they are both matured enough to handle the given situation and so they just carry on what they feel with each one. Now they are already married and have a daughter. Love is so strong that no room for malice or whatsoever was given on that first meeting.

Just my views. No offence to anyone.

Best of luck.

Cheers!

[Florge]

This thread had taken me 2 years back. back at the time when fiancee and I are about to meet and had a discussion on sex..

What he told me was, he wouldn't force it if I don't want to.. and I would have to ask if I want to have sex... it was comforting for me at that time.. he kept reassuring me that he's not coming over for the sex.. but coming over to get to know me, meet my friends and my family.. and see if I am still the same person online and off... I appreciated him for that and I looked forward to meeting him in person.

Northerner, Rizza is in a difficult situation. She is trying to gauge if you are the one for her, and also trying not to pressure herself to give up her virginity just so you won't "leave" her for not having sex. Support her on that. Let her decide for herself and respect her decision. To be frank with you, she is actually considering it since she wanted to discuss it with you. Meaning, she may be thinking that you're the one. But don't put your hopes too high.

Stay at her uncle's for a few days.. just so she'll get comfortable with you around. Let her feel that you are after her as a person, and not the sex. And when you decide to go elsewhere, the sex may or may not happen. But as what the others have said, let her decide on it.

This shouldn't be a difficult issue for you coz I think you're not after the sex anyway. You're coming here to get to know Rizza on a deeper, more personal level so, whether you'll be staying in a hotel alone or with her, sex should not be an issue.

Right?

[aromulus]

There is always Pamela you can rely on......

[KeithD]

Nothing wrong with virgin free oral

[Florge]

There is always Pamela you can rely on......

yeah.. you can do that too...

Nothing wrong with virgin free oral

LOL.. ok... but she might bite it off...

[KeithD]

yeah.. you can do that too...



LOL.. ok... but she might bite it off...

I was talking about tooth care

[jam07]

I was talking about tooth care

yeah right... LOL!

[Florge]

I was talking about tooth care

yeah... i know... i meant, bite off the dentist's finger

[Tawi2]

Why does sex always enter into it?Truthfully,why not just get to know each other as friends,why cant you just hang out as mates and see where it leads?Its a little too soon to be declaring undying love to each other isnt it? How long have you known her?Hinay hinay lang