So we had the sex talk..

[Northerner]

Hi Guy's,

I've been meaning to make this post for the last day or so but kind of thought it too personal, but then after reading through some of the older posts.. I thought, what the heck!!

My new girl "Rizza" and I have been meeting up online every day since we met, whether it be for a five hour conversation marothon or a half hour chat. And only in the last couple of days did we approach the subject of sex! Mainly because of some things one of her cousins had told her about what some western men go to Cebu for and of course those obvious fears..

So anyway, Rizza is a virgin. And she wants to remain one until she marries. Something I know is not uncommon in the phils from the many accounts of courtships I have read on this forum. And I am happy to respect that and I told her that I will not be expecting any sexual relations or make her think that she needs to perform whatever to keep me interested (trust me, I'm interested no matter how long I wait).. Trying to be a gentleman!

However.. Rizza has said she would be happy to share a hotel room with me. Although I have not yet gotten round to discussing the type of room (large bed or two singles) that we wll be staying in and from what point after we meet in person.

We also discussed staying at her uncles (where she currently lives - thanks Florge), mainly as I did not want her to think she had to stay with me from the first day we meet in person! And although nothing is final, it remains an option for the first few days..

But her uncle lives in Barili, not Cebu city! From what I see on the internet, not much besides a really nice waterfall and a beach there. No cafes, places to go on dates, plus it is a good trek to Cebu city so not really worth travelling to and from every day!

So I would like to pick the brains of some of you guy's, especially the ladies who have been in the position of Rizza. Did you sleep with your husband (then boyfriend) in the same bed (no sex) from early on.. Or would that be rushing things?? The reason I ask is my previous experience has been with english girls and virginity was never an issue (well, not since school).

[pacificelectric]

in the same bed (no sex)

Same bed, no sex? In a monastery perhaps, and not even sure..... I have had the same type of discussion with my gf recently, with the notable difference that she is a widow with three children, so her virginity is an old souvenir....

I do not mean to spoil the whole thing but I found on the Internet the story of a Frenchman who married a Pinay from Ormoc long ago and he says that very often a virgin about to get married with a western man surrenders her virginity to a local boy because it will hurt less (the old size story...). And this was confirmed to me by several sources!

By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..

[KeithD]

Same bed, no sex? ..

Happens to married couples every night

[tiN]

Happens to married couples every night

ur funny boss

[Pepe n Pilar]

Happens to married couples every night

Can't cope with that!

[Sophie]

Happens to married couples every night

LOL

[trader dave]

Happens to married couples every night

surely its time for mark 3 then

[Pepe n Pilar]

surely its time for mark 3 then

[Northerner]

By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..

Not yet gone into that much! Although, when we travel to see her parents, her Tita is also coming along

So... But I have no reason not to believe her! Not that it would have made much difference for me And she is 25, and living away from her parents...

[pacificelectric]

Not yet gone into that much! Although, when we travel to see her parents, her Tita is also coming along

So... But I have no reason not to believe her! Not that it would have made much difference for me And she is 25, and living away from her parents...

You can believe her for sure, I encountered virgins aged more than 40 on FH.... but that's perhaps too much!

[Arturo]

You can believe her for sure, I encountered virgins aged more than 40 on FH.... but that's perhaps too much!

So.. thats why there are "fewer " virgins........ hats off to yer mate

[Sophie]

So.. thats why there are "fewer " virgins........ hats off to yer mate

[vbkelly]

Not yet gone into that much! Although, when we travel to see her parents, her Tita is also coming along

So... But I have no reason not to believe her! Not that it would have made much difference for me And she is 25, and living away from her parents...

goodluck to both of you!!!

[Tawi2]

goodluck to both of you!!!

They dont need luck VB,what they need are implements of prevention,nope,not the morning after pill,thats so yesterday,get the local blacksmith to knock you up a pair if His'N'Her chastity belts,yeah,they come in male and female models(and get the uncle some sort of "Butt Bung")One tip,they need oiling regular otherwise they get rusty from "Body-fluids"

[LEAHnew]

In our case pheromones attack easily and we became one

They dont need luck VB,what they need are implements of prevention,nope,not the morning after pill,thats so yesterday,get the local blacksmith to knock you up a pair if His'N'Her chastity belts,yeah,they come in male and female models(and get the uncle some sort of "Butt Bung")One tip,they need oiling regular otherwise they get rusty from "Body-fluids"

ouch!..

[vbkelly]

They dont need luck VB,what they need are implements of prevention,nope,not the morning after pill,thats so yesterday,get the local blacksmith to knock you up a pair if His'N'Her chastity belts,yeah,they come in male and female models(and get the uncle some sort of "Butt Bung")One tip,they need oiling regular otherwise they get rusty from "Body-fluids"

hehe nice one tawi

[Sophie]

My hubby's first 3 visits before, he stayed in a hotel and i would just pick him up in the morning to go around
and drop him off to the hotel again at night, while i drive back home....
On his 4th and 5th visit, we were engaged already so he stayed at our house, with my family's approval of course.....
And when he came back again for our wedding, with his parents, they all stayed in our house as well....

It's best to respect her views and values.....she will appreciate and love you more for that

[Jay&Zobel]

My hubby's first few visits before, he stayed in a hotel and i would just pick him up in the morning to go around and drop him off to the hotel again at night, while i go back home....

It's best to respect her views and values.....she will appreciate and love you more for that

Ditto!

I remembered, my brother said to him:
"I love my sister very much so please respect her. It's my way or the highway!" hahaha... -

[kenny]

Same bed, no sex? In a monastery perhaps, and not even sure..... I have had the same type of discussion with my gf recently, with the notable difference that she is a widow with three children, so her virginity is an old souvenir....

I do not mean to spoil the whole thing but I found on the Internet the story of a Frenchman who married a Pinay from Ormoc long ago and he says that very often a virgin about to get married with a western man surrenders her virginity to a local boy because it will hurt less (the old size story...). And this was confirmed to me by several sources!

By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..

that made me laugh on two accounts..

[Jay&Zobel]

I do not mean to spoil the whole thing but I found on the Internet the story of a Frenchman who married a Pinay from Ormoc long ago and he says that very often a virgin about to get married with a western man surrenders her virginity to a local boy because it will hurt less (the old size story...). And this was confirmed to me by several sources!

Test mike, one two, one two...

[Arturo]

By the way, if your gf is a real virgin, I would be surprised if there was no chaperone around..

ppppphhhhhwwwwwww sharp intake of breath ..


Ding..

Round 2

[vbkelly]

will never been kiss never been touch but totally damaged

[Northerner]

will never been kiss never been touch but totally damaged

She has had boyfriends... Just chose to keep one thing till she got married.

[bornatbirth]

its best to respect her and her views,why not have a room with 2 single beds or 2 single rooms.

the more she gets to know you and trust you,you will soon be sharing a bed but let her make the desicion!

[KeithD]

Remember, anal means she is still a virgin

[vbkelly]

Remember, anal means she is still a virgin

[trader dave]

what about bj training thats the route i would take

[vbkelly]

what about bj training thats the route i would take

lol!

[Tawi2]

what about bj training thats the route i would take

Dave,your incorrigible(the worrying thing Is I think I am the same)

[Sophie]

Dave,your incorrigible(the worrying thing Is I think I am the same)

And i thought you're better than that, lol