Devastated - Need advice

[bornatbirth]

theres alot of good advice in here and every possible senario!

whatever you decide all the best,the only real way of finding out is going there?

my wife was 31 when i first meet her,as her father sadly already died and when they got told of me her older brother was talking to her like a kid telling what to do and not to do,it wasnt until the 3rd time that i saw her she was no longer checked upon?

while your single and until your married i guess the family still have say in your life?

[reginacarlson]

Fingers, toes and other body parts crossed and good vibes being sent your way. Hope you can sort everything out.

[PeterB]

Such draconian family laws. This really did come out of the blue, considering I'd been to the family home twice & was fed & made very welcome.

One possible scenario is that the parents aren't convinced that you will come back and marry her. On the other hand, there's a local guy, over whom they have some control, and he appears to be more than willing.

Another point is that western guys have a reputation (unfair?) for taking asian women and (mis)treating them as slaves.

Before Ruby came to the UK with me, her father asked her what would she do if I started mistreating her once she was away from home.

[KeithD]

Before Ruby came to the UK with me, her father asked her what would she do if I started to mistreating her once she was away from home.

Probably slit your throat while you sleep......or is it just my wife that says that?

[jencha8569]

whats the latest sim ?
you two talked again or not ?
good luck anyway

[joebloggs]

so there is some hope then sim, looks like it wasn't the obvious reason of a b/f but family pressure, when my mother in law found out her daughter was getting serious with a whitey a got a letter from her mom politely warning me to leave her alone....

it's easy for others to say walk away, unless you've been in that situation yourself, then it's not so easy, and if you can walk away, then she probably didn't mean as much to you as you thought.

that's why i always say keep asking until she breaks if you have to, find the real reason, might not be the reason what you and others think it was or the reason she originally told you..

good luck, and if she does mean so much to you, don't give up, no matter what problems get in your way, I didn't , and after been married more than 5yrs, or 6yrs , we've got little joe, a grand daughter and married life is better than ever

[KeithD]

Why not go out there now and marry her? That'll bugger up the family plans.....you can then have a churh blessing when you're here.

[joebloggs]

Why not go out there now and marry her? That'll bugger up the family plans.....you can then have a churh blessing when you're here.

a shotgun wedding , just get a shotgun in case her family turn up


that would mess their plans up

[LEAHnew]

so there is some hope then sim, looks like it wasn't the obvious reason of a b/f but family pressure, when my mother in law found out her daughter was getting serious with a whitey a got a letter from her mom politely warning me to leave her alone....

it's easy for others to say walk away, unless you've been in that situation yourself, then it's not so easy, and if you can walk away, then she probably didn't mean as much to you as you thought.

that's why i always say keep asking until she breaks if you have to, find the real reason, might not be the reason what you and others think it was or the reason she originally told you..

good luck, and if she does mean so much to you, don't give up, no matter what problems get in your way, I didn't , and after been married more than 5yrs, or 6yrs , we've got little joe, a grand daughter and married life is better than ever

sounds familiar

I agree to Joe goodluck Sim I hope it will sorted out soon

[joebloggs]

sounds familiar

I agree to Joe goodluck Sim I hope it will sorted out soon

i still have the letter somewhere , basically it said that she didn't want her daughter to get hurt in anyway. i wrote her a letter back saying i wasn't a scouser

[LEAHnew]

i still have the letter somewhere , basically it said that she didn't want her daughter to get hurt in anyway. i wrote her a letter back saying i wasn't a scouser

He's a brummie yummy

cheers Joe

[Sim11UK]

Hi everyone out there in e-land

We've just spent the last 4 hours online together.
I'm afraid it's not a happy ending, but it's an amicable split.
Her family won out in the end.

There is no other b/f, she has just bowed to family pressure. I'm very sad at this, but she seems reasonably upbeat.

I've no reason to dis-believe her. She says she loves me, but the family is just too strong.

We talked about all the great places, we'd been to...Feeding the fish, whilst snorkelling off Boracay, Camiguin Island, her worrying about Mt. Hibok Hibok erupting, candlelit meals on the beach on Panglao Island etc. etc.
In otherwords, there was a lot of happy memories & laughs.
I have to say, I've been to some fantastic places, with a beautiful woman...Was just hoping it would carry on, oh well, such is life.

I'm just glad, we managed to get to do all this online, because it has certainly put my mind at rest. There is nothing worse, than being left in the dark & having no real closure.

...So it's time to move on.

I'd just like to thank everyone on this forum, for all the help given sorry to those I haven't replied to personally & a big thank you to those who sent PM's. Very much appreciated.

Joe I'm glad you managed to win your mother in law over. Manc. power I guess.

I shall carry on looking in on the forum, as there are some good people here.

Thanks

Simon



P.S. The guy she will be marrying, wont be getting any tsup tsup.

[Mrs.JMajor]

awww my sympathy for you Sim, promise you'll stick on the forum so what do you want a nurse or a teacher ? i have here ,move on meet nice people again

[Sim11UK]

awww my sympathy for you Sim, promise you'll stick on the forum so what do you want a nurse or a teacher ? i have here ,move on meet nice people again

Hi there friend

Yes I'll stay on the forum, it's addictive.
Just need to sort myself out a bit.

I have a love affair with the Philippines.

Thanks, you take care there.

[joebloggs]

when was you suppose to be going to the phils, next month ?

go and see her, and say good bye to her, face to face and not thru a call or text..

its not over til the fat lady sings

[Sim11UK]

when was you suppose to be going to the phils, next month ?

go and see her, and say good bye to her, face to face and not thru a call or text..

its not over til the fat lady sings

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow.

[KeithD]

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow.

You still going then?

You could visit a Phil internet cafe....pretend to be a woman.....and scam a white guy

[Sim11UK]

You still going then?

You could visit a Phil internet cafe....pretend to be a woman.....and scam a white guy

Not a bad idea, I fancy a career change. Quite lucrative too.

[kimmi]

sorry to hear it ended like that Sim..but at least she's been honest to u and had a heart to heart talk.

Goodluck and hope u find the right girl for u..

[Sim11UK]

sorry to hear it ended like that Sim..but at least she's been honest to u and had a heart to heart talk.

Goodluck and hope u find the right girl for u..

Thanks Kimmi, that's very kind of you.

[gracia143]

It's sad, it's like watching 'Phantom of the Opera' again whilst reading your story Sim, I feel very sad.

Looking back when I first started chatting online with my husband my younger brother got very upset with me. When the day came to collect Trev at the airport he was very, very anxious and fidgety. Parents and other members of the family were full of questions and worries as well. Am I gonna be happy? Am I gonna be alright? To say I have been married once and already a grown woman. Typical Filipinos.

But reading your posts I gathered that you are a strong person and the response were all very heartwarming. Like the rest of the members here I wish you the very best and hoping that one day you will get over the pain and be able to move on. God bless!

[joebloggs]

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow.

and why is she going to the province ? is this a rush wedding b4 you can get there ?

you are/was engaged to her ?, you should tell her at least she should wait til you can see her next month, she owes you this at least...

i don't understand how she can go thru with an arranged marriage not when she loves someone else

[Jay&Zobel]

and why is she going to the province ? is this a rush wedding b4 you can get there ?

you are/was engaged to her ?, you should tell her at least she should wait til you can see her next month, she owes you this at least...

i don't understand how she can go thru with an arranged marriage not when she loves someone else

yeah... confusing really...

[cheesewiz]

I feel sad now, first day in the forum reading this kind of story. Anyway, life is not fair all the time but I am sure you'll find the woman that you will spend the rest of your life and your offspring together. That's why I am still single now even though I have a few friends here in the UK and Phils trying to pair me with their friends, bros and cousins but I refused bec I am not in favour in LDR (I know it works for many but not for me). If I don't have a BF now I might introduce my self to you hahaha fortunately I have one already and seems were on the right track so far and getting to know each other everyday and he is so keen to see Phils and meet my family.

Again, sorry for your very sad love story but atleast there's some memories that both of you enjoyed together. Phils is compose of 7,100 islands it means the probalities of finding one is not a problem. All the best

[cheesewiz]

yeah... confusing really...

may be she is pregnant

[Jay&Zobel]

That's why I am still single now even though I have a few friends here in the UK and Phils trying to pair me with their friends, bros and cousins but I refused bec I am not in favour in LDR (I know it works for many but not for me). If I don't have a BF now I might introduce my self to you hahaha fortunately I have one already and seems were on the right track so far and getting to know each other everyday and he is so keen to see Phils and meet my family.

. All the best

aha! potential candidate here hehehe...

[KeithD]

yeah... confusing really...

JOE!!!

Flippin Mancs.....they'd stick it in a tree if it had hairs on it.....

[joebloggs]

JOE!!!

Flippin Mancs.....they'd stick it in a tree if it had hairs on it.....

you lazy shell suite wearing scouser scared of a bit of hard work....

this is the gal he was going to wed a few days ago, and your all telling him to forget her and move on, if i was him, i would go and see her asap, face to face and find out the truth, and then he can move on..

if the only problem is her family then to them..

[aromulus]

you lazy shell suite wearing scouser scared of a bit of hard work....
.

wohhhhhahhhhhh.....

A Jeremy Clarkson in the making...........

[KeithD]

A Jeremy Clarkson in the making...........

...but unlike a Manc, the only Police record Jeremy has is Dedoodooda Dadodadodadodadooooo