for PINAY wives!

[maria_and_matt]

ok i have been reading all the happy endings in this forum. met online fell in love got married, applied for a visa, visa granted, flying to the UK, eventually having kids.
being married of course is so exciting at first. but as time past, when the spark is gone, do you feel resentment of having to give up life in the philippines for our lives here? are you just as in love with your husband as the day you married him? do you have any regrets?
sometimes i do.. i look at my husband and think, dear what a miserable git he is:icon_lol:. if i had a choice i would go back home and stay there! but unfortunately i have a son whose life is here, and there is no way i would leave him.
i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know:icon_lol: unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
hayzzz sorry for going on and on i guess i am just missing home so much especially now xmas is here.
i hope all you pinays have a good xmas and not missing home too much.

[Florge]

aahhhwwww... hugs to you girl...

[maria_and_matt]

aahhhwwww... hugs to you girl...

thank you sis, deym xmas! it gets me down..

[pocahontas]

ok i have been reading all the happy endings in this forum. met online fell in love got married, applied for a visa, visa granted, flying to the UK, eventually having kids.
being married of course is so exciting at first. but as time past, when the spark is gone, do you feel resentment of having to give up life in the philippines for our lives here? are you just as in love with your husband as the day you married him? do you have any regrets?
sometimes i do.. i look at my husband and think, dear what a miserable git he is:icon_lol:. if i had a choice i would go back home and stay there! but unfortunately i have a son whose life is here, and there is no way i would leave him.
i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know:icon_lol: unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
hayzzz sorry for going on and on i guess i am just missing home so much especially now xmas is here.
i hope all you pinays have a good xmas and not missing home too much.


:philippines: i know exactly what you mean.......HI..btw. im now in that situation..been here for 8months and it really breaks my heart the fact that the culture is so different and till now trying to get to used it. MERRY CHRISTMAS.. YOU CAN EAT MY FOOD HERE ANYTIMES:D just feel that im your good filipina neighbour here..:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[maria_and_matt]

:philippines: i know exactly what you mean.......HI..btw. im now in that situation..been here for 8months and it really breaks my heart the fact that the culture is so different and till now trying to get to used it. MERRY CHRISTMAS.. YOU CAN EAT MY FOOD HERE ANYTIMES:D just feel that im your good filipina neighbour here..:xxgrinning--00xx3:

hahaha, you can also eat my food here at home pocahontas anytime, so darn lonely, i am looking at our neighbourhood all is indoors can blame them i think it is about to snow!

[Tish]

i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know:icon_lol: unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
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Sorry to hear you finding life here boring and wishing you're back in PI Maria especially in this time of year. :NoNo:

I on the other hand feels so much at home and don't wish to be in PI in this time of year at all:NoNo:

I've got such wonderful family, friends, satisfying career and most of all, I can just ring my friends and ask them if I could just nip in to eat but mostly turns up unanounced! :icon_lol:

I hope life gets better for you in more years to come-more so during the festive season.

Tish

[Tonet]

I can understand how you feel, after i been on holiday back home and being reminded how is it to be home, i find it very very hard to be back here. I felt really lonely, bored and sad.

Its very quiet, nobody is outside and i dont even know our neighbour. I also find it hard that i cant just see my filipino friends, they are working so we need to schedule when can we see each other.
The season as well is not helping as its dark most time of the days, i miss the spirit of x'mas back in Philippines. (yun bang halos malanghap mo na ang amoy ng pasko pagsapit ng desyembre. and x'mas carolings)

With your question about being a wife, i have only been a Mrs. for more than 2 years but yeah i am still inlove with husband. I actually love him more now, because i know more about him. He is the reason why i cant just go back to Philippines because this is my home now, here with him. i know i i'm not going to be happy without him even i'm in Philippines.

[Tawi2]

Regrets?Never regret something you did,only regret things you didnt do,things you have already done are water under the bridge,they are past you cant change them so dont waste time mulling over them,but we have all been miserable gits at one time or another,its the Victor Meldrew stage in life:icon_lol:

[Tish]

Regrets?Never regret something you did,only regret things you didnt do,things you have already done are water under the bridge,they are past you cant change them so dont waste time mulling over them,but we have all been miserable gits at one time or another,its the Victor Meldrew stage in life:icon_lol:

Live life without regrets, that's my motto :xxgrinning--00xx3:

BTW Tawi, I love watching 'one foot in the grave' :xxgrinning--00xx3:

And I like him saying 'I don't believe it!' :icon_lol:

Tish

[Tawi2]

The ordinary things in life Tish never regret them,but we develop a conscience when we get older and reflect,at least some of us do,I have never had a confessional but some things nibble away at our conscience,we cant alter them,whats done is done,just concentrate on the future,yesterdays history,tommorrows a mystery,live for today,I like one foot in the grave because I have had a foot in that dark hole once or twice,funny old life innit :icon_lol:

[JimOttley]

Regrets?Never regret something you did,only regret things you didnt do,things you have already done are water under the bridge,they are past you cant change them so dont waste time mulling over them,but we have all been miserable gits at one time or another,its the Victor Meldrew stage in life:icon_lol:

Wise words Tawi!

Jim

[JimOttley]

ok i have been reading all the happy endings in this forum. met online fell in love got married, applied for a visa, visa granted, flying to the UK, eventually having kids.
being married of course is so exciting at first. but as time past, when the spark is gone, do you feel resentment of having to give up life in the philippines for our lives here? are you just as in love with your husband as the day you married him? do you have any regrets?
sometimes i do.. i look at my husband and think, dear what a miserable git he is:icon_lol:. if i had a choice i would go back home and stay there! but unfortunately i have a son whose life is here, and there is no way i would leave him.
i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know:icon_lol: unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
hayzzz sorry for going on and on i guess i am just missing home so much especially now xmas is here.
i hope all you pinays have a good xmas and not missing home too much.

In a lot of ways Maria I really feel for you, personally I would go for the close family culture in the Phils not the isolated existence here in the UK. I know you have been here a long long time and I know it is very hard for you.

For me home is the Phils and I was born in Scotland, I cant get back this Christmas, too late to book, too expensive now and also my partner is not there just now anyway, she is back in Korea, but I still miss my kids and wish I could get back for them and the rest of the family.

Sadly a lot of us are miserable gits :) a lot of British men are very lacking in personality, something I am guilty of for my partner right now :( we have a lot of problems right now :(

My partner wants to be here in the UK but we have many technical problems on her side regarding that. My big worry has always been that I know how strong her family ties are and I know how much it will hurt her if she comes here for a long time but from a realistic viewpoint I want her here, such hard choices :( and even worse because much of it is outside our control.

I think you need a good long holiday Maria, get back home and reconnect with your family!


Jim

[Northerner]

I guess it will always be difficult to not just move country, but to move to the other side of the planet and into such a different culture!

whilst in the Philippines I asked Rizza if she was sure she wanted to do this, marry a western man and move far from all that she has ever known. I understand that kind of change will not be easy, there will be difficult times ahead.

I am also sure Maria that most Filipino wives will have had similar feelings to you, but you are brave enough to admit it. But like all those other Filipino women you put your marriage and family first:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I just hope that people like me will learn from people like you, so that when I am supporting Rizza in her adjustment to life in the UK it is a little easier for us.. :Erm:

:rolleyes:

[pennybarry]

Day by day, I’m knowing about my husband, his moods, his likes and dislikes, how he’s deeply in-love with me, how he trusts me and vice versa. I love his bad and goods now. I feel love is really a magical thing and I treasure now our relationships. I feel that I can be with him as long as he loves me. But then, we both known our limitations. This made me no regrets and I’m thankful he understands and support me when it comes to having a holiday in our lupang sinilangan yearly.

Yes life here is sometimes boring, no doubt about it. Especially winter that we prefer to stay home because it’s freezing outside. Our sense of humour is now loosing as snow is approaching. I remember my last holiday and it was great and I had a good recovery beside my Nanay. I feel I was young again telling me not to go roaming around SM yet, Don’t go to your friends home, let them visit you here. Don’t climb in the mangoes and coconut trees. Don’t do that etc.:D

Sisters beside me after their work, nieces and nephews and I feel like a princess. Everyday at farm knicking my sister’s ampalaya, sitaw, talong, okra, papaya.That’s why when the day came to fly back, I feel the heartache. Hugged my Nanay so tenderly and iyakan na! :bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:

When I arrived back, I feel how happy is my husband having me again. In-laws the same. I love my In-laws and treat them as my second parents. Mom-in-law said, she believes grandma is part of the family and not to send at carehomes. It just happened that the house is hers and we have no kids. That’s why I don’t feel the boredom as I have 2 old folks to talk to. But they suggests me to study if I want to so I grabbed it and that’s help a lot as I love learning something new. That’s how I can escape from boredom. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Merry Christmas Maria and please enjoy your pasko. As I told you before, you've been here for ages. I understand it but sooner or later, we will retire in Pinas and live like a king and queen.:BouncyHappy::cwm12::philippines::philippines::philippines:

[KeithD]

Makes you wonder why these illegal immigrants try to get in this country that is supposed to be like Heaven with streets paved of gold! :doh Same as those sneaking into the US, all that happens is they end up working in sweat shops for £5 a day. :NoNo:

Maria why not do what I do when you see a 'vacancy' somewhere?

You won't be the only one within say a 10 mile radius feeling that you do, so start a kind of 'support' group. You run it, you're the boss, and just use word of mouth and the internet. All you need do is arrange 'food parties' (and we know you'll like that :D) twice a week in different people's houses, and then move onto nights out, day trips, etc. It gives you plenty to do and look forward towards. :xxgrinning--00xx3: You can use this forum to start it if you wish.

Same goes for other 'lonely' Filipina's out there. You say you miss the family atmosphere, so make one here, it won't happen on it's own.

We could all be part of the countrywide 'FilipinoUK Friends Group' :xxgrinning--00xx3: Whadya think?

[maria_and_matt]

Makes you wonder why these illegal immigrants try to get in this country that is supposed to be like Heaven with streets paved of gold! :doh Same as those sneaking into the US, all that happens is they end up working in sweat shops for £5 a day. :NoNo:

Maria why not do what I do when you see a 'vacancy' somewhere?

You won't be the only one within say a 10 mile radius feeling that you do, so start a kind of 'support' group. You run it, you're the boss, and just use word of mouth and the internet. All you need do is arrange 'food parties' (and we know you'll like that :D) twice a week in different people's houses, and then move onto nights out, day trips, etc. It gives you plenty to do and look forward towards. :xxgrinning--00xx3: You can use this forum to start it if you wish.

Same goes for other 'lonely' Filipina's out there. You say you miss the family atmosphere, so make one here, it won't happen on it's own.

We could all be part of the countrywide 'FilipinoUK Friends Group' :xxgrinning--00xx3: Whadya think?

sounds like a good idea :) but i have learnt that not everybody is as nice and as pleasant as the majority... you sometimes get characters that seem ok on the outside but not so good on the inside...
i also find that most pinays here especially where i live are so jealous of others.. they seem to always be in competition with what others have.. and i do not get that.. lets say if this pinay got a 3 bedroom house the others would say well i got a 4 bedroom house! this pinay gota new car, others would start a gossip that well she owes a lot of money! i mean for crying out loud what cant we just mind our own business and be happy for what our fellow pinay have.
just an example i was walking my dog and bumped into 'old pinay friends' they asked me where i worked and i said i dont, the reply was 'so ano gawa mo nagpapalaki ka na lng ng puke mo?' (please let ur wives translate this i cannot even find the right words to use!) and i went on to say that last year when i was actively looking for a part time job they circulated rumours that we are having financial difficulties...

all in all i think that i am still lucky with my hubby and son.. that maybe i think my husband is boring and he is a miserable git no doubt about that, but he loves me, he gives me everything and for that i am truly thankful for. most of this is just culture differences. i stay here coz i love them, i just hope he knows what i have given up to be here with them.

for all you brits love your pinay wives, we have given up so much to be here with you. merry xmas to all, i hope that we all have a blessed one!

[maria_and_matt]

I guess it will always be difficult to not just move country, but to move to the other side of the planet and into such a different culture!

whilst in the Philippines I asked Rizza if she was sure she wanted to do this, marry a western man and move far from all that she has ever known. I understand that kind of change will not be easy, there will be difficult times ahead.

I am also sure Maria that most Filipino wives will have had similar feelings to you, but you are brave enough to admit it. But like all those other Filipino women you put your marriage and family first:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I just hope that people like me will learn from people like you, so that when I am supporting Rizza in her adjustment to life in the UK it is a little easier for us.. :Erm:

:rolleyes:

i am sure rizza will be ok having a supportive husband like you, its just that with us my hubby thinks that i am now ok after having been here for 17 yrs. i am a filipina at heart and my heart, and home will always be the philippines:bigcry:

[maria_and_matt]

In a lot of ways Maria I really feel for you, personally I would go for the close family culture in the Phils not the isolated existence here in the UK. I know you have been here a long long time and I know it is very hard for you.

For me home is the Phils and I was born in Scotland, I cant get back this Christmas, too late to book, too expensive now and also my partner is not there just now anyway, she is back in Korea, but I still miss my kids and wish I could get back for them and the rest of the family.

Sadly a lot of us are miserable gits :) a lot of British men are very lacking in personality, something I am guilty of for my partner right now :( we have a lot of problems right now :(

My partner wants to be here in the UK but we have many technical problems on her side regarding that. My big worry has always been that I know how strong her family ties are and I know how much it will hurt her if she comes here for a long time but from a realistic viewpoint I want her here, such hard choices :( and even worse because much of it is outside our control.

I think you need a good long holiday Maria, get back home and reconnect with your family!


Jim

hi jim,
i hope that you will be with your partner soon. i know that i get lonely here but my husband and son is worth it. it will be too for your partner. this thread was just me thinking out loud. i hope things get better for you soon ~hugz~

i will go back home in july so that is one thing to look forward to :)

have a good xmas jim!

[KeithD]

sounds like a good idea :) but i have learnt that not everybody is as nice and as pleasant as the majority... you sometimes get characters that seem ok on the outside but not so good on the inside...
Now you're making excuses! It'd be your group, your rules, as I run this forum, if they don't fit they are out. I never care what others think of me, I'm happy running this forum and if I upset a few folk along the way, hard luck. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Must be 100's of decent Filipina's in your area out of the 1000's, just looking for someone else decent to hang around with. Start with those you don't know.

[maria_and_matt]

Now you're making excuses! It'd be your group, your rules, as I run this forum, if they don't fit they are out. I never care what others think of me, I'm happy running this forum and if I upset a few folk along the way, hard luck. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Must be 100's of decent Filipina's in your area out of the 1000's, just looking for someone else decent to hang around with. Start with those you don't know.
k, i will start with you and ate ping:icon_lol:

[KeithD]

k, i will start with you and ate ping:icon_lol:
We're only into groups that use leather and whips :xxaction-smiley-047

[maria_and_matt]

We're only into groups that use leather and whips :xxaction-smiley-047

:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[pennybarry]

sounds like a good idea :) but i have learnt that not everybody is as nice and as pleasant as the majority... you sometimes get characters that seem ok on the outside but not so good on the inside...
i also find that most pinays here especially where i live are so jealous of others.. they seem to always be in competition with what others have.. and i do not get that.. lets say if this pinay got a 3 bedroom house the others would say well i got a 4 bedroom house! this pinay gota new car, others would start a gossip that well she owes a lot of money! i mean for crying out loud what cant we just mind our own business and be happy for what our fellow pinay have.
just an example i was walking my dog and bumped into 'old pinay friends' they asked me where i worked and i said i dont, the reply was 'so ano gawa mo nagpapalaki ka na lng ng puke mo?' (please let ur wives translate this i cannot even find the right words to use!) and i went on to say that last year when i was actively looking for a part time job they circulated rumours that we are having financial difficulties...

all in all i think that i am still lucky with my hubby and son.. that maybe i think my husband is boring and he is a miserable git no doubt about that, but he loves me, he gives me everything and for that i am truly thankful for. most of this is just culture differences. i stay here coz i love them, i just hope he knows what i have given up to be here with them.

for all you brits love your pinay wives, we have given up so much to be here with you. merry xmas to all, i hope that we all have a blessed one!

I understand what you mean Maria. Please don’t be offended as I can feel you are affected by dangerous and disgusting Filipinas around. I also feel what you feel when they giving bad comments about what we doing. I did receive bad comments too! I was just helping a friend to look after her other kid, and was told I am just a baby sitter. And when I started to go to college last year, I was told it’s impossible because we live in a village that far from college. What the h*ll is wrong with them?, I’m old and still studying they said. Gosh! I have 65 year old classmates. When I booked my flight, they started to be more jealous. Hay buhay!!! Since then I feel my enemies cannot hurt me but my friends will kill me so I started to dump them and move on without them. Since then I am aware with Filipinas but I always stay friendly with them. Say hi! Hello if I meet them anywhere as still they are my kababayans. But never will I’ll be affected with those kind of Filipina as I consider my Mom-in-law as my best friend and some lovely pinays close here. I just don’t know why young generations acts and feel they are rich when they step down UK soil. How many times they mentioned that I have no home. Nakikitira lang! But they don’t realized their house is council house and renting and my husband also pays my Mom weekly. They just even told me to get all my husband earnings like what they’re doing. But why they cannot afford to fly and go for a holidays if they have all their husband’s earnings?:omg::omg::action-smiley-081::action-smiley-081:

Oh boy oh dear! Really hard to find a genuine friend in UK.
Just be brave Maria, having a loving son and a loving husband is great.
Just hello to them and give them smile. Tell them straight what you think is right.

Ring Ate Ping if you need to talk to mature, straight to the point pinay. Mature in sense of principles not mature in age. :icon_lol:

[KeithD]

Ring Ate Ping if you need to talk to mature, straight to the point pinay.
....or ring me if you want the complete opposite :Cuckoo:

[vbkelly]

ok i have been reading all the happy endings in this forum. met online fell in love got married, applied for a visa, visa granted, flying to the UK, eventually having kids.
being married of course is so exciting at first. but as time past, when the spark is gone, do you feel resentment of having to give up life in the philippines for our lives here? are you just as in love with your husband as the day you married him? do you have any regrets?
sometimes i do.. i look at my husband and think, dear what a miserable git he is:icon_lol:. if i had a choice i would go back home and stay there! but unfortunately i have a son whose life is here, and there is no way i would leave him.
i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know:icon_lol: unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
hayzzz sorry for going on and on i guess i am just missing home so much especially now xmas is here.
i hope all you pinays have a good xmas and not missing home too much.

missing home yes but never regrets to married my hubby

[maria_and_matt]

I understand what you mean Maria. Please don’t be offended as I can feel you are affected by dangerous and disgusting Filipinas around. I also feel what you feel when they giving bad comments about what we doing. I did receive bad comments too! I was just helping a friend to look after her other kid, and was told I am just a baby sitter. And when I started to go to college last year, I was told it’s impossible because we live in a village that far from college. What the h*ll is wrong with them?, I’m old and still studying they said. Gosh! I have 65 year old classmates. When I booked my flight, they started to be more jealous. Hay buhay!!! Since then I feel my enemies cannot hurt me but my friends will kill me so I started to dump them and move on without them. Since then I am aware with Filipinas but I always stay friendly with them. Say hi! Hello if I meet them anywhere as still they are my kababayans. But never will I’ll be affected with those kind of Filipina as I consider my Mom-in-law as my best friend and some lovely pinays close here. I just don’t know why young generations acts and feel they are rich when they step down UK soil. How many times they mentioned that I have no home. Nakikitira lang! But they don’t realized their house is council house and renting and my husband also pays my Mom weekly. They just even told me to get all my husband earnings like what they’re doing. But why they cannot afford to fly and go for a holidays if they have all their husband’s earnings?:omg::omg::action-smiley-081::action-smiley-081:

Oh boy oh dear! Really hard to find a genuine friend in UK.
Just be brave Maria, having a loving son and a loving husband is great.
Just hello to them and give them smile. Tell them straight what you think is right.

Ring Ate Ping if you need to talk to mature, straight to the point pinay. Mature in sense of principles not mature in age. :icon_lol:


i just have 2 close pinay friends here where i live.. it just amazes me that even though i do not mingle with others they still find something to talk about :icon_lol:

in a foreign country we filipinas should help and support each other not start rumours and be mean to each other. we shpuld be happy if our fellow filipinas are doing well in life! to all the pinay that are inggetera (jealous) TSE!

[vbkelly]

i just have 2 close pinay friends here where i live.. it just amazes me that even though i do not mingle with others they still find something to talk about :icon_lol:

in a foreign country we filipinas should help and support each other not start rumours and be mean to each other. we shpuld be happy if our fellow filipinas are doing well in life! to all the pinay that are inggetera (jealous) TSE!

exactly!:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[pennybarry]

....or ring me if you want the complete opposite :Cuckoo:

Boss I really want to ring you and ask something about computer.
I can ring you too and ask you why there are more male webdesigners than women? That is something about opposite sex! :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

I don't know why I'm scared of you! :icon_lol::Rasp:
Although Ate Ping said, you are wonderful. Just sitting down with coffee beside you and you are alright.:icon_lol:

[pennybarry]

in a foreign country we filipinas should help and support each other not start rumours and be mean to each other. we shpuld be happy if our fellow filipinas are doing well in life! to all the pinay that are inggetera (jealous) TSE!

Yes, I don't feel they are happy, if their co-pinays is learning and studying and doing wel in life. Crab mentality yan!:crazy::crazy::crazy:

Kung naiinggit sila eh di gumaya sila. Tse! tse pwe! :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[KeithD]

I can ring you too and ask you why there are more male webdesigners than women? That is something about opposite sex! :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:
Simples! Because we have a higher brain capacity, biological fact women have smaller brains :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Plenty of freelance designers around and they are mostly male as women tend not to choose it as a career, simple as that. Probably because it can be a bit lonely, and women like a gab (jeez don't they just :rolleyes:)

[maria_and_matt]

Simples! Because we have a higher brain capacity, biological fact women have smaller brains :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Plenty of freelance designers around and they are mostly male as women tend not to choose it as a career, simple as that. Probably because it can be a bit lonely, and women like a gab (jeez don't they just :rolleyes:)

hmmm you really think that?:icon_lol::icon_lol: also a fact that women are smarter than men, we are better drivers all in all we just better than men:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[KeithD]

....we are better drivers all in all we just better than men:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:
You don't have the balls to be better than us :cwm24:

[Tawi2]

Home is where the heart is,I used to get homesick when I was a kid,sick of home that is:icon_lol:Listen to this song by a Fil-am,you've probably heard it before,great driving song to singalong to when your on your own,but its his memories of childhood back in Pinas :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rk3pzDkM5Q

[maria_and_matt]

You don't have the balls to be better than us :cwm24:
course we do! it is also a well known fact that women are never wrong:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[maria_and_matt]

Home is where the heart is,I used to get homesick when I was a kid,sick of home that is:icon_lol:Listen to this song by a Fil-am,you've probably heard it before,great driving song to singalong to when your on your own,but its his memories of childhood back in Pinas :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rk3pzDkM5Q
i love this song!

[Tawi2]

Me too,great song for driving when your alone at night,atmospheric,reminiscent of happier times :)

[jonathan47]

oh dear ! there was me thinking all would be rose for us when annabel arrives, guess i need to look out for this !
in all seriousness i do appreciate what she is giving up, she lives with 4 generations of her family and life here can appear souless. but we determined to make it work she tells me she wont get homesick but i cant see how she wont ...any advice !!


regards


jj

[Florge]

jonathan,

i also told my fiance i won't get homesick... but believe me, when i am alone in the house and i turn on the tv and can't find my fave shows... then can't call hte friends i usually hang out with... can't drive around... no malls in sight... the deafening silence... "fake" sunshine (since it is not getting any hotter even when the sun is up) arrrgggg.... homesickness sets in...

i suggest that you keep her busy... let her do the cleaning that she wants.. show her where the nearby shops are..the nearest church... let her cook.. and call her from time to time when you are away at work... it helps... better if your mom or sis or whoever, can take her around when you can't...

[Sophie]

hmmm you really think that?:icon_lol::icon_lol: also a fact that women are smarter than men, we are better drivers all in all we just better than men:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:


course we do! it is also a well known fact that women are never wrong:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

hear ye, hear ye :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: :D

[jonathan47]

florge,
thanks for the advice i am hoping she will make some filipina friends locally, we live in bury st edmunds i have noticed a few filipina walking around and a friend of mine is married to a filipina so will be introducing them ....i hoping to get The filipino channel to ... the biggest thing as i see it is i dont really have much of a family and those i do are a long way away so it will need to be friend based !



regards


jonathan

[maria_and_matt]

florge,
thanks for the advice i am hoping she will make some filipina friends locally, we live in bury st edmunds i have noticed a few filipina walking around and a friend of mine is married to a filipina so will be introducing them ....i hoping to get The filipino channel to ... the biggest thing as i see it is i dont really have much of a family and those i do are a long way away so it will need to be friend based !



regards


jonathan


dear god almighty i am only in ipswich :)... she wont be homesick with me around...

[maria_and_matt]

hear ye, hear ye :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: :D


sis mwah!

[KeithD]

You can get Filipino shows free online. Plenty of stuff on Youtube, etc, as well.

[September]

My general comment not pointed anyone here.....SOME filipinas dreaming or really eager to find british or foreign husband, especially when they have nothing (financially) in the philippines, doing all the effort to win and ask the foreign man to marry her.....


After the sun, here they are, they bored (like me) I dream to come over but now struggling to weather, struggling to meet filipinas, struggling to go to salon because its expensive, shy to ask to my bf as I am only visit visa ,dont want a burden on his shoulder as far as fiancially is concerned,

We can moan..its free:icon_lol:

[maria_and_matt]

My general comment not pointed anyone here.....SOME filipinas dreaming or really eager to find british or foreign husband, especially when they have nothing (financially) in the philippines, doing all the effort to win and ask the foreign man to marry her.....


After the sun, here they are, they bored (like me) I dream to come over but now struggling to weather, struggling to meet filipinas, struggling to go to salon because its expensive, shy to ask to my bf as I am only visit visa ,dont want a burden on his shoulder as far as fiancially is concerned,

We can moan..its free:icon_lol:

dunno about that most of the filipinas i know are well educated and doing well back home..

and most women here generally married for love and not to get away from life back home

[triple5]

I would make this thread a sticky. I'll certainly be showing it to my girl before applying for any visas. I think Septembers right, that a lot of girls think its a better life here, but the reality is a lot different once you arrive here. And yes, it's damn cold :36_1_26[1]:

[angel1231]

be happy on what you have and be content about it....enjoy the life you have now and dont be miserable... like the weather ...........enjoy u.k

[maria_and_matt]

I would make this thread a sticky. I'll certainly be showing it to my girl before applying for any visas. I think Septembers right, that a lot of girls think its a better life here, but the reality is a lot different once you arrive here. And yes, it's damn cold :36_1_26[1]:

it is indeed cold, heating is on full blasts, i am looking outside my window and it is snowing yeheyyyyyy :icon_lol:

[September]

My general comment not pointed anyone here.....SOME filipinas dreaming or really eager to find british or foreign husband, especially when they have nothing (financially) in the philippines, doing all the effort to win and ask the foreign man to marry her.....


After the sun, here they are, they bored (like me) I dream to come over but now struggling to weather, struggling to meet filipinas, struggling to go to salon because its expensive, shy to ask to my bf as I am only visit visa ,dont want a burden on his shoulder as far as fiancially is concerned,

We can moan..its free:icon_lol:


I would make this thread a sticky. I'll certainly be showing it to my girl before applying for any visas. I think Septembers right, that a lot of girls think its a better life here, but the reality is a lot different once you arrive here. And yes, it's damn cold :36_1_26[1]:

Thanks for the I new rep that i got from you, I wish I can give you back for pasasalamat, but i dont know how eh :)

But its true, show to her all our words to your g/f and tell her, now you know dont moan on the future :icon_lol:

[pennybarry]

Simples! Because we have a higher brain capacity, biological fact women have smaller brains :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Plenty of freelance designers around and they are mostly male as women tend not to choose it as a career, simple as that. Probably because it can be a bit lonely, and women like a gab (jeez don't they just :rolleyes:)


:omg::omg::omg: I thought we were born with equal skills.:Brick:
I thought men have more brains not big. :icon_lol:
I found it challenging at the moment and still interested to learn.

Without women, what will happen to men?:Rasp::Rasp::Rasp:

I love you 'Te Ping! :icon_lol: Wish to call you again.:xxcheeky-smiley-013:hugx::love2:

[KeithD]

:love2:
:omg: Where was I when this happened!!!!!

[pennybarry]

:omg: Where was I when this happened!!!!!

many times :D and dunno where was you.:Erm:
We exchanged our "I love you's" already!
But I'm not sure who is lesbian.
I feel I am the one, but 'Te Ping looks more masculine than me.
I have long black hair.

[Tish]

be happy on what you have and be content about it....enjoy the life you have now and dont be miserable... like the weather ...........enjoy u.k

:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[KeithD]

.... and a cosy house to come home too, with a raging fire...
:Erm: You burn your house down for Xmas!!!!

[maria_and_matt]

Its all to do with what you are used too, i lived abroad for many years in a hot climate, ( spent 3 xmas in philippines 3 in singapore, and 2 in china) and i hated it... Xmas starts in september and all that plastic cheese and bolas, and traffic, and then new year, with all the polution, it was just not xmas.. I love xmas in the UK,,... meeting up with your friends and family, going for long walks in the countryside... The UK high street, carols, and then a pub meal, and a cosy house to come home too, with a raging fire... And then xmas day with kids, and family and turkey and all the trimmings, Boxing day a long walk in the park with your dog, and then a good lunch, with all the left overs from the day before, good wine, good company , and family unity... Thats what xmas is too most UK people. but it really comes from what you had as a child.... East or west Home is best x

the only thing i liked in your reply is walking my dog in the park:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[maria_and_matt]

:Erm: You burn your house down for Xmas!!!!


:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Arthur Little]

We could all be part of the countrywide 'FilipinoUK Friends Group'

:xxgrinning--00xx3: An excellent :idea: ... I - for one - am all FOR it!

[Arthur Little]

East or west Home is best x

:iagree: ... Amen to THAT! I guess we are ALL at our most comfortable in the surroundings we're accustomed to ... at ANY time of the year.

Btw, since you don't appear to have an introductory thread, Linda ... allow me to take this opportunity of saying :Hellooo: and :welcomex:

[Florge]

dunno about that most of the filipinas i know are well educated and doing well back home..

and most women here generally married for love and not to get away from life back home

hear hear! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[somebody]

Now you're making excuses! It'd be your group, your rules, as I run this forum, if they don't fit they are out. I never care what others think of me, I'm happy running this forum and if I upset a few folk along the way, hard luck. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Must be 100's of decent Filipina's in your area out of the 1000's, just looking for someone else decent to hang around with. Start with those you don't know.

Very true the Wife and her mates went to a New Phill UK group Christmas Party where just about every phill in the local area and a few who had travel from further a field came.

Did most of them chat to people on other tables or make contacts/friends. Nope they stayed in their own small groups on the whole.
Although the Wife and her friends did chat to two ladies who sat on our table and had a laugh.

Very easy for people from any background to mope and be depressed, sometimes it does mean taking a few risks. Maybe people will be rude or bore/show off or what have you but then again they maybe great company.

Strangly at the xmas party many of the Brit blokes of various ages and backgrounds chatted to one another more than the Phills:Erm:
Already bumped into a few of them out and about. Some were friendly still others were not, no skin off my nose.

Probably the reason we chatted was because there was no pressure for us to do, while many pinays in the UK feel the pressure to make friends:NoNo:

Said it before try to make friends with people from all backgrounds (many pinays came to the party with friends who were none phill) from what I noticed many of these seemed to know more pinays at the party, possibly as less pressure to befriend people:Erm:

[coxsure]

When in Rome, do what Romans do. I thought we Filipinos believe that love conquers all. If you're bored, do something about it. Go out and explore not only for your sake but for your son's as well. There are loads to do in the UK. Even more at Summertime (which only lasts for 2 weeks :) )

A lot of people would kill to be in your shoe, girl. One should count one's blessings... :D

Happy New Year!

[maria_and_matt]

When in Rome, do what Romans do. I thought we Filipinos believe that love conquers all. If you're bored, do something about it. Go out and explore not only for your sake but for your son's as well. There are loads to do in the UK. Even more at Summertime (which only lasts for 2 weeks :) )

A lot of people would kill to be in your shoe, girl. One should count one's blessings... :D

Happy New Year!

i think i have explored more than one can imagine.. and my son who is now almost 17 explores by himself:icon_lol:
im doing ok now, keeping myself busy buying presents for our july trip..

happy new year to you too :D

[KeithD]

i think i have explored more than one can imagine.. and my son who is now almost 17 explores by himself:icon_lol:
im doing ok now, keeping myself busy buying presents for our july trip..
Have you tried Oxfam? Great deals on sex toys :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[maria_and_matt]

Have you tried Oxfam? Great deals on sex toys :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:yikes::yikes: will try later:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[South-east boy]

It wouldn't surprise me if some Filipinos are suffering from a bit of SAD (seasonal affective disorder) -I mean if even affects quite a few of us Brits, so if you're used to a much warmer and sunnier climate with longer daylight hours, it must even harder for them here. :cwm34:

I find brighter sunnier weather make me much happier, everywhere looks nicer, more alive and the countryside prettier-it kind of makes you want to go out and come alive more! :BouncyHappy: I really hate dull, dark days which of course you get more in the winter -it makes you want to stay inside and as it's the winter, the countryside is not so pretty and colourful even if you do go out. I love summers and also spring, but I really don't like winters just because I'm happier in brighter, sunnier and warmer weather (not too hot though!) and of course the nearer to summer, the more daylight hours you get and the more time to do things outside. :)

You can buy lights for SAD which are meant to work as they give you bright light that you are missing in the winters (& even in summers her sometimes!) and you just put them on near where you are sitting for a certain amount of time a day. You can also buy alarm clocks with similar lights, that come on very dully about 20 minutes before the alarm wake-up time and gradually get brighter & brighter leading up until the alarm goes off. This is meant to be like waking up more naturally to the brightness of the day in the spring, summer & autumn and helps you feel better when you do wake as you wake-up gradually instead of being fast asleep in the darkness and waking up with a shock to the alarm-I hate that! :cwm23:

I think Amazon sells quite a few of the SAD lights and light alarm clocks.

Now I'm just awaiting Sir Keith's amusing response! :icon_lol:

[maria_and_matt]

It wouldn't surprise me if some Filipinos are suffering from a bit of SAD (seasonal affective disorder) -I mean if even affects quite a few of us Brits, so if you're used to a much warmer and sunnier climate with longer daylight hours, it must even harder for them here. :cwm34:

I find brighter sunnier weather make me much happier, everywhere looks nicer, more alive and the countryside prettier-it kind of makes you want to go out and come alive more! :BouncyHappy: I really hate dull, dark days which of course you get more in the winter -it makes you want to stay inside and as it's the winter, the countryside is not so pretty and colourful even if you do go out. I love summers and also spring, but I really don't like winters just because I'm happier in brighter, sunnier and warmer weather (not too hot though!) and of course the nearer to summer, the more daylight hours you get and the more time to do things outside. :)

You can buy lights for SAD which are meant to work as they give you bright light that you are missing in the winters (& even in summers her sometimes!) and you just put them on near where you are sitting for a certain amount of time a day. You can also buy alarm clocks with similar lights, that come on very dully about 20 minutes before the alarm wake-up time and gradually get brighter & brighter leading up until the alarm goes off. This is meant to be like waking up more naturally to the brightness of the day in the spring, summer & autumn and helps you feel better when you do wake as you wake-up gradually instead of being fast asleep in the darkness and waking up with a shock to the alarm-I hate that! :cwm23:

I think Amazon sells quite a few of the SAD lights and light alarm clocks.

Now I'm just awaiting for Keith's amusing response! :icon_lol:

totally agree with you, i am not too bad in the summer but winter time i go all blah! if not coz of my dog i would not even venture outside, like today for example i do not think it can get any grayer than this! i luckily have been out with the dog earlier, so all is well:icon_lol::icon_lol: off to toys r us now to buy lots and lots of toys:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[adam&chryss]

When in Rome, do what Romans do. I thought we Filipinos believe that love conquers all. If you're bored, do something about it. Go out and explore not only for your sake but for your son's as well. There are loads to do in the UK. Even more at Summertime (which only lasts for 2 weeks :) )

A lot of people would kill to be in your shoe, girl. One should count one's blessings... :D

Happy New Year!

A nice sensible attitude.
If you have a copy of todays Sun newspaper its worth reading the Myleene Klass column on page 11.
She`s half filipina and I like her attitude to being succesful here.
Like I say, worth a read for 30p!

[lizaphil]

Makes you wonder why these illegal immigrants try to get in this country that is supposed to be like Heaven with streets paved of gold! :doh Same as those sneaking into the US, all that happens is they end up working in sweat shops for £5 a day. :NoNo:

Maria why not do what I do when you see a 'vacancy' somewhere?

You won't be the only one within say a 10 mile radius feeling that you do, so start a kind of 'support' group. You run it, you're the boss, and just use word of mouth and the internet. All you need do is arrange 'food parties' (and we know you'll like that :D) twice a week in different people's houses, and then move onto nights out, day trips, etc. It gives you plenty to do and look forward towards. :xxgrinning--00xx3: You can use this forum to start it if you wish.

Same goes for other 'lonely' Filipina's out there. You say you miss the family atmosphere, so make one here, it won't happen on it's own.

We could all be part of the countrywide 'FilipinoUK Friends Group' :xxgrinning--00xx3: Whadya think?

that is good idea boss...thanks for the advice.someone want to come round my house?
i got magic sing :66::66::66::xxparty-smiley-050::xxparty-smiley-050:
im waiting who is interested :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy::Beer:

[lizaphil]

ok i have been reading all the happy endings in this forum. met online fell in love got married, applied for a visa, visa granted, flying to the UK, eventually having kids.
being married of course is so exciting at first. but as time past, when the spark is gone, do you feel resentment of having to give up life in the philippines for our lives here? are you just as in love with your husband as the day you married him? do you have any regrets?
sometimes i do.. i look at my husband and think, dear what a miserable git he is:icon_lol:. if i had a choice i would go back home and stay there! but unfortunately i have a son whose life is here, and there is no way i would leave him.
i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know:icon_lol: unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
hayzzz sorry for going on and on i guess i am just missing home so much especially now xmas is here.
i hope all you pinays have a good xmas and not missing home too much.
hi maria.
this is my 3year xmas here in uk...but this year i feel really missing home so much :bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:
like i said to my hubby im not staying here for next year i find really boring,
this year...so next year we both have xmas on PI...hope you have happy new year...even not really :bigcry:

[maria_and_matt]

hi maria.
this is my 3year xmas here in uk...but this year i feel really missing home so much :bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:
like i said to my hubby im not staying here for next year i find really boring,
this year...so next year we both have xmas on PI...hope you have happy new year...even not really :bigcry:

awww sis hugs to you! at least you have the balls to talk about it.. things will get better when the holidays are over, hang in there.. happy new to you and your hubby:)

[South-east boy]

that is good idea boss...thanks for the advice.someone want to come round my house?
i got magic sing :66::66::66::xxparty-smiley-050::xxparty-smiley-050:
im waiting who is interested :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy::Beer:

What's magic sing? :Erm: A type of Karaoke?

[maria_and_matt]

What's magic sing? :Erm: A type of Karaoke?

yes it is karaoke:icon_lol:

[Florge]

that is good idea boss...thanks for the advice.someone want to come round my house?
i got magic sing :66::66::66::xxparty-smiley-050::xxparty-smiley-050:
im waiting who is interested :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy::Beer:

where you at Liza?

[South-east boy]

yes it is karaoke:icon_lol:

I might have known! :icon_lol: You Filipinas seem to love it as much as the Japanese! :icon_lol: But I have to say that those of you that I've heard have been pretty good! :xxgrinning--00xx3: I've even got roped into it once before. :Help1: :icon_lol:

[maria_and_matt]

I might have known! :icon_lol: You Filipinas seem to love it as much as the Japanese! :icon_lol: But I have to say that those of you that I've heard have been pretty good! :xxgrinning--00xx3: I've even got roped into it once before. :Help1: :icon_lol:

:icon_lol::icon_lol: we should have a karaoke parteyyyyyyyyy

[KeithD]

:icon_lol::icon_lol: we should have a karaoke parteyyyyyyyyy
From what I've heard, the last time you used one the local dog suicide rate went skyhigh and bats fell out the air dead :xxparty-smiley-004:

Is it safe to come out yet? :cwm24:

[maria_and_matt]

From what I've heard, the last time you used one the local dog suicide rate went skyhigh and bats fell out the air dead :xxparty-smiley-004:

Is it safe to come out yet? :cwm24:

heh it was chryss and dorres fault not mine, :icon_lol::icon_lol:

[South-east boy]

heh it was chryss and dorres fault not mine, :icon_lol::icon_lol:

:icon_lol: So who's the karaoke queen of the forum then?!

[somebody]

:icon_lol: So who's the karaoke queen of the forum then?!

Alan and Nigel are I belive quite Musical:D:Rasp::D

[maria_and_matt]

:icon_lol: So who's the karaoke queen of the forum then?!

chryss and dorress gosh those two can sing!

[Northerner]

Alan and Nigel are I belive quite Musical:D:Rasp::D

:lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2:

[South-east boy]

A nice sensible attitude.
If you have a copy of todays Sun newspaper its worth reading the Myleene Klass column on page 11.
She`s half filipina and I like her attitude to being succesful here.
Like I say, worth a read for 30p!

20p actually! :icon_lol: I went out and bought that after you mentioned that, as I do like her! She's talented, beautiful and a lovely person too! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[adam&chryss]

20p actually! :icon_lol: I went out and bought that after you mentioned that, as I do like her! She's talented, beautiful and a lovely person too! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

20p? how come you got a discount!
Good for you. So what did you think about the article?

[KeithD]

20p?
I once got 20p for sex...... 2p of each of them :Cuckoo:

[September]

When in Rome, do what Romans do. I thought we Filipinos believe that love conquers all. If you're bored, do something about it. Go out and explore not only for your sake but for your son's as well. There are loads to do in the UK. Even more at Summertime (which only lasts for 2 weeks :) )

A lot of people would kill to be in your shoe, girl. One should count one's blessings... :D

Happy New Year!
I like your comment too....

A nice sensible attitude.
If you have a copy of todays Sun newspaper its worth reading the Myleene Klass column on page 11.
She`s half filipina and I like her attitude to being succesful here.
Like I say, worth a read for 30p!

Being said that, in my surprise my fiancee bought one SUN NEWSPAPER when he come home, and she is proud to say her mother was filipino, but refused to speak tagalog on her co-filipino's :cwm24: and last night she host the countdown on BBC, another one to be proud of...

I ask fiancee who is famous/rich in the UK Myleen Klaas or Jordan :icon_lol:(katie )

Sorry maria i should start thread and ask brit guy ,whos famous to that 2 :D:icon_lol:

[South-east boy]

20p? how come you got a discount!
Good for you. So what did you think about the article?

It's been 20p around here for a long time! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Yes, I thought it was good. She seems to have her head screwed on right with sensible ideas. Saw her last night on the countdown in London - she obviously recovered well after her Christmas illness. :)


I like your comment too....


Being said that, in my surprise my fiancee bought one SUN NEWSPAPER when he come home and she is proud to say her mother was filipino, but refused to speak tagalog on her co-filipino's :cwm24: and last night she host the countdown on BBC, another one to be proud of...

I ask fiancee who is famous/rich in the UK Myleen Klaa or Jordan :icon_lol:(katie )

Sorry maria i shoyld start thread and ask brit guy ,whos famous to that 2 :D:icon_lol:

Well, I guess Jordan/Katie is more famous/rich, but then she's been in the media for longer/more often and for a lot of the wrong reasons really. Jordan/Katie is less talented (all Jordan/Katie did/does is glamour modelling, be seen drunk, wearing not much at parties & clubs and not much else really), is not such a nice person and is fake (plastic surgery etc & fake tan + a ton of make-up). Ask most people who they like better, who they would prefer as a friend and who is a better role model and I'm sure that most would say Mylene!

Jordan/Katie was voted for the 'I'm a celeb' bush challenges 7 times in a row and then quit! Mylene isn't in the media so much as well as she's a nice person and a good role model, but a nice person who is a good role model and isn't seen drunk &scantilly clad at clubs is not so interesting to newspapers! Hopefully, after being voted all those times in 'I'm a celeb' might have told the newspapers that people are fed up hearing about Jordan/Katie!

[lizaphil]

where you at Liza?

hi florge, i live dartford kent...happy new year:BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

[lizaphil]

:icon_lol::icon_lol: we should have a karaoke parteyyyyyyyyy

yes maria that is good idea...when you want?
my hubby he got 99 score lol:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[lizaphil]

:icon_lol: So who's the karaoke queen of the forum then?!

:rolleyes::rolleyes:i like dancing,but im not sure if i am good singer :Erm::Erm::Erm:lol:BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

[South-east boy]

:rolleyes::rolleyes:i like dancing,but im not sure if i am good singer :Erm::Erm::Erm:lol:BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

Maybe we'll give you the scores instead of the on-screen one! :icon_lol:

[lizaphil]

Maybe we'll give you the scores instead of the on-screen one! :icon_lol:

:icon_lol::icon_lol: