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ginapeterb
13th September 2004, 15:08
Welcome to Our Advice on Courting a Filipina ! remember one thing when you are courting a filipina. her name is not a filipina ? what do i mean by this ?

Whilst you might have entered into a courtship with a lady of the Philippines...her name certainly isnt filipina...she is actually Filipino by nationality, but the distinction stops there.

But she certainly is not called "Filipina" remember she is an individual lady with lovely qualities, can be very romantic and shy..gentle..so you are not courting, or engaged to a Filipina...you are engaged to..Mary Joy...or her christian name...whatever she is called..that is who you are talking about at home with your family, freinds, work colleagues, this is how to describe it..

"Actually I am engaged to Mary Joy...she comes from the Philippines"


At some stage you will need to take your relationship into the public domain, that is introducing your lady to freinds, family work colleagues, that is even if she is still in the Philippines, how does that work.

Are you really safe right now taking your relationship public with a Filipina....remembering what I said earlier ?

Have you told all your freinds...have you told your Mother you British Guys..what did she say ? hmmmm was it "Oh one of those foreign women" ??? I bet she did

Or have you kept that Filipina beauty you have been pursuing secret from your family...hmmm if you have watch out...you are in for some trouble.

The main reason Western Men keep their relationship secret is because the are in fear of the reaction of those closest to them in their everyday lives, this could be because of bigotry or zenophobia that exists everywhere in the United Kingdom Western Europe and the United States of America.

You tend to hear very often "Wh cant you get a woman of our own race" this is common and seeks to put forward the notion that all races attract each other.

This is simply an out dated principle, with ever increasing Globalization, trans migrational populations and the Power of modern communication, this principle has been shattered to its very core.

It is well known now that many Filipina's are attracted to Western Men and vice versa, Western Men are highly attracted to South East Asian women, not just Filipina's but women of the South Eeast Asian Region.

You may also be afraid of neighbours reactions "Oh its one of those filipino women!" this is common as most of them have seen some daytime talk show that shows Western men turning up in town with a strange looking girl on his arm that has jet black hair and doesnt quite look like that girl next door you used to know"

You might have convinced yourself that it would be better to keep your relationship secret until xxxx arrives in the UK and is living in your house....trust me if you thought that you thought wrong !!!!

So how should you take your relationship public ?

ginapeterb
13th September 2004, 15:28
So let me tell you how it should be !!!

You are not engaged to a filipina !!!!

This lady has a name...her name might be Josi Villero Hernandez, if it is and by the way this name is a made up name...so dont think it's a living person..hahahah but if it is... then her name is Josi Hernandez...she isn't a object..a rag doll you saw at the toy store.

There are certainly not millions of Josi Hernandez's out there in the Philippines, she is a unique individual, just like Sharon Smith the girl next door...you used to go out with..or Stacy Thompson that girl you sat next to in Arts and Crafts when you were getting bored...and thinking about ways to wag school.

So you are engaged to a lovely unique individual who is going to love you for the rest of your life and be your wife...and do everything that is required of a wife...so let me be a little hard on you and state "That if you are too ashamed to take your relationship public and shout about it from the roof tops then quite frankly you don't deserve her"

She is worth much more than that....and rightly so...so remembering that none of your freinds,work colleagues or family know the slightest thing about Josi...do they..they don't know how hard she worked to get herself a Batchelors degree...they don't know how her Father worked hard to put her through University of the Philippines, they don't know anything about your fiancee'...so how can they judge. her.

No one can make judgement about anyone they have never met...so can you make a defence in public, about your lovely Filipina bride that is to be...if you can't then maybe you are ashamed of your relationship...and if you are..then perhaps its better not for you to take it any further....because when you finally end up together in the United Kingdom living together as Man and Wife..she is going to need all the support you can give her...because this time..she is the foreigner and
People think that you are basically a guy who cannot get a woman in this country..people will assume that all Filipina's are the same...and just marry for economic migration.

You have 2 options here

Educate people about your love for her, and be prepared to defend her in public in any given situation.

Or Hide away from them.

If you choose the easy option, that is to hide away...you are basically admitting that you cannot defend your wife..in front of our own people...if that is the case...you are in for some trouble...if you take option 1...your relationship can go from great to Fantastic, and anyone including your close family, your work colleagues and freinds, will be in no doubt as to the serious of your relatioship so best of luck.