I was never nonchalant mate,i am just a little more confident in certain situations and clued up than most guys who get into middle age and go to pinas after meeting a woman online,i was doing strange things in strange countries before most of them had even heard of the Philippines as for ladies,i don't need to meet any nowadays,but even if I did,and looking like I have been dragged through a hedge backwards normally its not difficult,whats taken the time was finding the right one,you have to sift a lot of gravel to find a diamond I have been to the west of Mindanao,maguindanao,ipil,zambo etc,there used to be a forum member on here,kermit,he lived in zambo,it is what it is,i would have no reservations nowadays about going back there,i was last there around 5 years back?But you always keep an eye on the threat level in different parts of the world,when I was in Peshawar for example,thats one area I would be very,very wary about going back to,even back then it was dangerous,nowadays for me to walk such streets would be verging on suicidal