After almost 22 years of marriage, I returned home from the Philippines to find my key would not open the door at home, my car was in the drive, and divorce proceedings were in motion. Also, my savings had been moved into another a/c - all on the strength of a rumour - and never did see my home again. And out of my half of our savings, I was left with a £5000 shortfall.

Never fought for anything - just calmly let everything go to my ex. Without going into detail, I have some regrets but decided to move forward with my life. My ex wife and I had a perfect life (or so I thought) no mortgage no debt. We had savings and a very beautiful home in a nice rural area that we purchased in 2007. Cornwall and Philippines every year - sometimes twice a year - also, the last twelve years of our time together we had a new car every year (no finance) and during all the years together never argued - just an occasional difference of opinion (Perfect life).

Forgot to mention no the last thirteen years of our life together!