Searching for a genuine filipina girl

[aprilmaejon]

Yes that's what many men do - no intention of meeting

Everytime men do that, I ignore them straight away and tell them to back off! It is so degrading in my part when men assume that I want money for sex...disgusting! However, there are also few desperate Filipinas who are willing to do it for the sake of money. Men will send them money to buy their very own personal computer so that they can do cyber sex in their own house...how pathetic isn't it?

[London_Manila]

Everytime men do that, I ignore them straight away and tell them to back off! It is so degrading in my part when men assume that I want money for sex...disgusting! However, there are also few desperate Filipinas who are willing to do it for the sake of money. Men will send them money to buy their very own personal computer so that they can do cyber sex in their own house...how pathetic isn't it?

Many do work in cams as their only job and I have no problem with that

As long as they are adults, who are we to condemn them!

I had a 6 month relationship with a top model from a webcam site and it was not all bad

[London_Manila]

Yes that's what many men do-no intention of meeting

I meet as many as I can - on the condition they only stay one night

[raynaputi]

Keith and I met in Facebook.. I thought he just invited me to play some games in FB..

[les_taxi]

I thought he just invited me to play some games in

He meant Games in North Wales

[raynaputi]

He meant Games in North Wales

You mean helping him chase the sheep?!?!?!?!

[Michael Parnham]

Gosh, I'm learning a few new sayings on here today, pipz, red flag, cyber what?

[Longweekend]

Gosh, I'm learning a few new sayings on here today, pipz, red flag, cyber what?

Pure entertainment Michael....

[Michael Parnham]

Pure entertainment Michael....

I thought this was entertainment

[grahamw48]

One day my girl will find my birth certificate.

[grahamw48]

No comment.

[SimonH]

Ttiuwp

[les_taxi]

Poor Nick-he is hoping to find a new love and everyone's on a bout bonking their ladies,talk about rubbing it in

[marksroomspain]

Poor Nick-he is hoping to find a new love and everyone's on about bonking their ladies, talk about rubbing it in

Yes hope he finds the lady who mesmerises him with those come to bed eyes and long silky hair with the body of a temple...

Hold on back in 20 mins....

[dontpushme]

When people in my town found out that I am engaged to a 28-year old foreign man, they asked me why a young man....? According to them, a young man doesn't have any money, no house, no savings and changes shirt so quick. I told them that I love my fiancé and I can't afford to be in a relationship with a man just for the sake of his money in the first place. They said that I am foolish for using my heart and not my head. They said that if I'm marrying a foreigner, it should be an old one so my future is brighter. Such a shame but that is how people back home judged my relationship. We haven't buy any land nor a house in the Philippines yet, and my mum still cooks and sells her food in the market to make some extra money----people said that this is because I married a young man and life for my family could have been a lot better if I married an older one.

I just ignore everything that they say and carry on living the life I chose to have, besides at the end of the day, this is my life, not theirs.

Matt and I had a similar problem when we were dating. My paternal relatives would have disapproved had he been older than me, but they were okay that he was the same age as my younger brother. On the other hand, my maternal relatives, being from the working class, insisted that I needed to look for someone older who had money and would be able to provide financial security. The thing is, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand. Matt wasn't looking for a girlfriend either. He and I just happened to meet on Facebook, and after arguing about football, we eventually hit it off.

So please explain, why is it different when they are in the Philippines. How is it Filipinas find much older men more attractive

It's not all Filipinas. I'd say it's more of a working class thing to want an older foreigner. A woman I know who married a Belgian twice her age said she was just so tired of working her fingers to the bone and not having any money to show for it after having paid for her younger siblings' school fees. Another reason I've seen is that the men in our working class really have that much less respect for the women. When Matt and I attended a family planning seminar that was required for the marriage license, we were one of only two couples out of 30 that didn't already have kids or who weren't getting a shotgun wedding because the woman was pregnant. As the nurse talked about contraception and the importance of spacing out pregnancies, the men in the room started bragging that they'd just cheat on their wives. I was dumbstruck that not a single woman defended herself from the public humiliation. In fact, the women all just meekly sat there staring down at their baby bumps and looking like trapped rabbits. Matt had no idea what was going on (it was all in Tagalog), but he said he could feel the fury practically emanating from me. How could I not be furious? The men proudly announced that they WOULD cheat because it was their nature as men, and their wives couldn't do a thing about it. The consensus among the men was that if the women confronted the men about the cheating, or cheated in retaliation, then they'd better not come home at all. And that was only one of the many times I met working class Filipinos who truly believed that cheating was a man's right. If you were a woman who felt that powerless financially or emotionally, would you not prefer an older foreigner too?

Something many working class mothers "jokingly" teach their daughters is to look for a man who is matandang mayamang madaling mamatay (aka the three M's). Roughly translated, it means a man who is old, rich, and decrepit (read: ready to die and bequeath everything to you). As you can see in aprilmae's example, many people do seriously want their daughters to marry old foreigners. In my maternal grandmother's case, she was also quite enamoured with pale skin so she added that to the list "for the improvement of the species". I felt like a breeding dog whenever she told me that. I was in the 6th grade (year 7) when she first told me to stop my stupid fantasizing about buying back our farm and to look for an old white man who would provide for me. When she saw Matt while I was on Skype, she just told me to ask Matt if he had any older relatives who'd be interested in me. Fortunately, that was all said in Bisaya.

Having said all that, being open to marrying an older foreigner isn't the same as actually wanting to marry an older foreigner. You may be hard-pressed to find a middle-class Filipina who wants to marry an old foreigner, but I'm sure there are lots who are at least open to it if they're approached by the right man.

[marksroomspain]

Matt and I had a similar problem when we were dating. My paternal relatives would have disapproved had he been older than me, but they were okay that he was the same age as my younger brother. On the other hand, my maternal relatives, being from the working class, insisted that I needed to look for someone older who had money and would be able to provide financial security. The thing is, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand. Matt wasn't looking for a girlfriend either. He and I just happened to meet on Facebook, and after arguing about football, we eventually hit it off.



It's not all Filipinas. I'd say it's more of a working class thing to want an older foreigner. One of the women I know, who agreed to marry a Belgian man twice her age, said she was just so tired of working her fingers to the bone and not having any money to show for it after having paid for her younger siblings' school fees. Another reason I've seen is that the men in our working class really have that much less respect for the women. When Matt and I attended a family planning seminar that was required for the marriage certificate, we were one of only two couples out of 30 that didn't already have kids or who weren't getting a shotgun wedding because the woman was pregnant. As the nurse talked about contraception and the importance of spacing out pregnancies, the men in the room started bragging that they'd just cheat on their wives. I was dumbstruck that not a single woman defended herself from the public humiliation. In fact, the women all just meekly sat there staring down at their baby bumps and looking like trapped rabbits. Matt had no idea what was going on (it was all in Tagalog), but he said he could feel the fury practically emanating from me. How could I not be furious? The men proudly announced that they WOULD cheat because it was their nature as men, and their wives couldn't do a thing about it. If they confronted the men about the cheating, or cheated in retaliation, they'd better not come home at all. And that was only one of the many times I met working class Filipinos who truly believed that cheating was a man's right. If you were a woman who felt that powerless financially or emotionally, would you not prefer an older foreigner too?

Something many working class mothers "jokingly" teach their daughters is to look for a man who is matandang mayamang madaling mamatay. Roughly translated, it means a man who is old, rich, and decrepit (read: ready to die and bequeath everything to you). As you can see in aprilmae's example, many people do seriously want their daughters to marry old foreigners. In my maternal grandmother's case, she was also quite enamoured with pale skin so she added that to the list "for the improvement of the species". I felt like a breeding dog whenever she told me that. I was in the 6th grade (year 7) when she first told me to stop my stupid fantasizing about buying back our farm and to look for an old white man who would provide for me. When she saw Matt while I was on Skype, she just told me to ask Matt if he had any older relatives who'd be interested in me. Fortunately, that was all said in Bisaya.

Having said all that, being open to marrying an older foreigner isn't the same as actually wanting to marry an older foreigner. You may be hard-pressed to find a middle-class Filipina who wants to marry an old foreigner, but I'm sure there are lots who are at least open to it if they're approached by the right man.

You really do impress me with your thought out presentation of posts on here.

Stick around, a breath of fresh air really intriguing and well done...

[gWaPito]

Matt and I had a similar problem when we were dating. My paternal relatives would have disapproved had he been older than me, but they were okay that he was the same age as my younger brother. On the other hand, my maternal relatives, being from the working class, insisted that I needed to look for someone older who had money and would be able to provide financial security. The thing is, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand. Matt wasn't looking for a girlfriend either. He and I just happened to meet on Facebook, and after arguing about football, we eventually hit it off.



It's not all Filipinas. I'd say it's more of a working class thing to want an older foreigner. A woman I know who married a Belgian twice her age said she was just so tired of working her fingers to the bone and not having any money to show for it after having paid for her younger siblings' school fees. Another reason I've seen is that the men in our working class really have that much less respect for the women. When Matt and I attended a family planning seminar that was required for the marriage license, we were one of only two couples out of 30 that didn't already have kids or who weren't getting a shotgun wedding because the woman was pregnant. As the nurse talked about contraception and the importance of spacing out pregnancies, the men in the room started bragging that they'd just cheat on their wives. I was dumbstruck that not a single woman defended herself from the public humiliation. In fact, the women all just meekly sat there staring down at their baby bumps and looking like trapped rabbits. Matt had no idea what was going on (it was all in Tagalog), but he said he could feel the fury practically emanating from me. How could I not be furious? The men proudly announced that they WOULD cheat because it was their nature as men, and their wives couldn't do a thing about it. The consensus among the men was that if the women confronted the men about the cheating, or cheated in retaliation, then they'd better not come home at all. And that was only one of the many times I met working class Filipinos who truly believed that cheating was a man's right. If you were a woman who felt that powerless financially or emotionally, would you not prefer an older foreigner too?

Something many working class mothers "jokingly" teach their daughters is to look for a man who is matandang mayamang madaling mamatay (aka the three M's). Roughly translated, it means a man who is old, rich, and decrepit (read: ready to die and bequeath everything to you). As you can see in aprilmae's example, many people do seriously want their daughters to marry old foreigners. In my maternal grandmother's case, she was also quite enamoured with pale skin so she added that to the list "for the improvement of the species". I felt like a breeding dog whenever she told me that. I was in the 6th grade (year 7) when she first told me to stop my stupid fantasizing about buying back our farm and to look for an old white man who would provide for me. When she saw Matt while I was on Skype, she just told me to ask Matt if he had any older relatives who'd be interested in me. Fortunately, that was all said in Bisaya.

Having said all that, being open to marrying an older foreigner isn't the same as actually wanting to marry an older foreigner. You may be hard-pressed to find a middle-class Filipina who wants to marry an old foreigner, but I'm sure there are lots who are at least open to it if they're approached by the right man.

I could have done with reading this valuable info 8 years ago

A deserved rep on its way

[dontpushme]

Thanks! I do apologise to everyone for the longwindedness.

[marksroomspain]

Thanks! I do apologise to everyone for the longwindedness.

Really love your sense of humour and direction, I misjudged earlier posts but guess what you really have made me smile and thats an achievement by itself....

Wish you and your hubby all the best for the future...

[gWaPito]

Thanks! I do apologise to everyone for the longwindedness.

Maybe longwinded but, interesting! I'm addicted

[Nick30]

I enjoyed reading all the comments on my topic. So good stories. Is there a wife for me? I'm hoping and praying ��

[marksroomspain]

I enjoyed reading all the comments on my topic. So good stories. Is there a wife for me? I'm hoping and praying ��

Nick hope you do find the one.

I admit I was lucky and found a genuine one even after working 12 hours she still had the time to chat to me for up to 4 hours online and running out in the pouring rain to a internet cafe poor girl but eh but I felt that connection from almost the start.

My girl was a qualified nurse from a middle class family who grew up in Manila then moved to Rizal in the provinces.

A really respectful family who I felt genuine love from and spending time there was the happiest days of my life mmm wish I was back.

Anyway enough of me babbling on just stay wise be yourself and take your time, everything will come good.

Good luck buddy take care.....

[dontpushme]

Good luck with your search, Nick! I sincerely hope you find the woman of your dreams without wading through too much BS from scammers.

[fred]

All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand.

Sheep?
Dont you mean goats or pigs?

[marksroomspain]

Sheep?
Dont you mean goats or pigs?

[fred]

Hey.. You never know.. I am always looking for a source of good quality lamb and this could be it!!

I`ll keep my fingers crossed!

[dontpushme]

Nope, we've never had goats, and only had one sow and her piglets for family consumption. The sheep fared better in the cold, wet climate of Bicol than goats would have. We had Poll Dorset and Border Leicester sheep when I was young, and the meat went straight to restaurants and hotels in Manila. At our palengke stall in Naga, my dad used to sell beef instead.

[fred]

Nope, we've never had goats, and only had one sow and her piglets for family consumption. The sheep fared better in the cold, wet climate of Bicol than goats would have. We had Poll Dorset and Border Leicester sheep when I was young, and the meat went straight to restaurants and hotels in Manila. At our palengke stall in Naga, my dad used to sell beef instead.

Thats very interesting..As I said,I`d love to find a good source of lamb over here..I have 3 bottles of mince sauce in my ref waiting.
Any suggestions?
There are many breeds of animal that one would not expect to find here in the R.P.. One of my neighbours has Ostriches for instance!!

[Nick30]

lol.

Thanks for all the lovely messages of encouragement people

[grahamw48]

An Australian acquaintance of mine raised sheep in Bicol...also meat Rabbits.

I bought some Rabbit breeding stock from him.