Searching for a genuine filipina girl

[Terpe]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into an LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family. I don't regret meeting her, though.

Hi Jamie
Genuinely sorry to learn that.
That's a long time. Surely something unusual.
Take care mate.

Glad to see you posting

[Ako Si Jamie]

Hi Jamie
Genuinely sorry to learn that.
That's a long time. Surely something unusual.
Take care mate.

Glad to see you posting

Cheers Peter.

The best advice I would give someone if they're planning to meet a Pinay is to tell them early doors that under no circumstances will any money be sent/given at any time. If she is a scammer she's more likely to lose interest and move onto someone else.

[London_Manila]

Cheers Peter.

The best advice I would give someone if they're planning to meet a Pinay is to tell them early doors that under no circumstances will any money be sent/given at any time. If she is a scammer she's more likely to lose interest and move onto someone else.

Most would run away on those kinds of statements

[Ako Si Jamie]

Most would run away on those kinds of statements

If that's what it takes then so be it. Best to know early on than years down the line. I actually think it's vital to know 100% that she loves you before thinking about marriage. And it doesn't matter what she says as this has about as much value as a Yum Burger from Jollibee's. Talk is cheap.

Of course, there are Pinay's out there who want a man for all the right reasons. I know a few here in the U.K. They're the type who don't mind going out to work to support their family in the Phils and don't expect their husbands to shoulder the burden.

And let's be clear about scammers. They come from all corners of the globe including Britain. Any woman who marries a man for financial reasons is a scammer in my eyes, regardless of their nationality.

[London_Manila]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into an LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family. I don't regret meeting her, though.

One of the main reasons why my expat friends in Makati will not allow ANY of their girlfriends' relatives to visit their condos.

Sounds harsh, I know, but too many of them have been there and done it before when it comes to being a cash cow.

With so many available women in the Philippines, I have never really understood why some guys go over there and want to marry the first woman they meet..........

[Arthur Little]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into our LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family.

Oh, Jamie ... so , to learn that! Today's actually the first time I've been on this thread for ages, so I hadn't realised anything was amiss when reading your posts on other threads last night.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Oh, Jamie ... so , to learn that! Today's actually the first time I've been on this thread for ages, so I hadn't realised anything was amiss when reading your posts on other threads last night.

No problem, Arth!

[Arthur Little]

I don't regret meeting her, though.

's good! Glad you haven't any regrets ... life's too short!

[Dedworth]

I'm sorry to hear that Jamie, sounds like you made the right decision, I wondered where you'd gone.

Plenty more fish in the sea, onwards & upwards

[Ako Si Jamie]

I'm sorry to hear that Jamie, sounds like you made the right decision, I wondered where you'd gone.

Plenty more fish in the sea, onwards & upwards

I've been really busy, Ded. It's the first time I've posted on any internet forum for months. And yep, plenty more out there, although I very much doubt I'll use a dating site again as they're rife with scammers.

[Ako Si Jamie]

BTW, Peter, is it possible to change my username?

[Terpe]

BTW, Peter, is it possible to change my username?

I don't think so. You'd need to PM Rayna/Keith

[raynaputi]

BTW, Peter, is it possible to change my username?

Yep. What new username do you want so I can change it?

BTW, sorry about your news. Like what others have said, plenty of fish in the sea.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Yep. What new username do you want so I can change it?

BTW, sorry about your news. Like what others have said, plenty of fish in the sea.

Just delete the last eight letters to leave 'Jamie'. Cheers Rayna

[raynaputi]

Just delete the last eight letters to leave 'Jamie'. Cheers Rayna

That username already exists.

[grahamw48]

Ooops....there's a point. lol

Welcome back Jamie.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Cheers Graham

[stevewool]

Welcome back Jamie

[Ako Si Jamie]

Salamat, Steve

[fred]

Sorry to hear the news Jamie..
And welcome back!!

[Ako Si Jamie]

Thanks Fred, just made a few suggestions in your thread about the guest house

[Michael Parnham]

So sorry to hear the news Jamie, but it's great you're back on the forum and have missed you posting!

[jake]

Very sorry to hear about this Jamie.
Welcome back

[grahamw48]

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And let's be clear about scammers. They come from all corners of the globe including Britain. Any woman who marries a man for financial reasons is a scammer in my eyes, regardless of their nationality.

....Totally agree.

[grahamw48]

JAMIE.

[les_taxi]

I gave up on the dating sites, as tbh, so many are after money in the end.

Think it's been said before, but the best way is just to choose a nice resort, fly out there as a holiday and chat to some girls while you're there - I bet you can't easily go wrong.

I used to say I preferred Filipinos to Thai girls, as the Thais are more switched on when it comes to seeking money - but I'm of the belief Filipinos are just as bad now.

Of course, not everyone is like that, but sadly, many are.

Also, I can tell from some of the profile pics these girls were not all poor ... latest mobile etc. The really poor girls in the provinces, I can understand them asking for help just to buy food, but as I used to say, "You managed before we started chatting, so you can get by without extra money", and at least let a relationship develop.

[grahamw48]

The really poor girls in the provinces, I can understand them asking for help just to buy food, but as I used to say, "You managed before we started chatting, so you can get by without extra money", and at least let a relationship develop.

They might have died of starvation now Les.

[les_taxi]

Jamie, but not the one in the old 'Dr Who', is my suggestion

[Pete/London]

Jumped in on this late, but I think an important thing to look for, is someone who is at least working, and beware of anyone who seems to spend a lot of time online - be it dating sites or facebook and the like - without a good reason.

I won't go into reasons, just boredom I suppose, but I have been chatting to both Filipino and Thai girls over the last year and have found Thai girls more likely to be in work, maybe because there is so much money being sent to families in Philippines from overseas workers and they have been made lazy, or the economy is not as good.

Language is a problem in Thailand though, but I do like Thailand and prefer the food.

[London_Manila]

Jumped in on this late, but I think an important thing to look for, is someone who is at least working, and beware of anyone who seems to spend a lot of time online - be it dating sites or facebook and the like - without a good reason.

I won't go into reasons, just boredom I suppose, but I have been chatting to both Filipino and Thai girls over the last year and have found Thai girls more likely to be in work, maybe because there is so much money being sent to families in Philippines from overseas workers and they have been made lazy, or the economy is not as good.

Language is a problem in Thailand though, but I do like Thailand and prefer the food.

The Philippines is much more western and the culture is not so different to ours.

Thailand and its people are far removed from western culture.
Thai people don't even think along the same lines us.