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19th September 2013 #271
Just been catching up on this and read your post #229. This thread seemed so sad i almost couldn't bear to read it previously. However, have now just read your good news and seen the pictures of your two great looking boys and just thought i would add my congratulations on what must have been extremly difficult period for you. Glad things are now starting to work out.
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19th September 2013 #272
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Thank you lordna
I appreciate the time you spent writing this
I read back and cringe at a lot of the stuff I wrote. ..always shoot from the hip, me I can't change who I am.
I said earlier I'll be posting pictures of the 4 of us before all this happened. I will when I get home
You can't take away happy memories, which were plenty.
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19th September 2013 #273
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This still all so difficult for me. I love my boys with all my being ..I see so much of Jane in them both so I can't bring myself to dislike Jane like i did because the boys are Jane. .I hope this is making sense to somebody. .It isn't to me ...even after all the hurt inflicted on me I can't feel hatred.
When James sings his Twinkle twinkle little star I hear Jane's voice coming through as well.
How do some divorced separated people hate each other so much yet would give their lives for the children they brought into this world who are essentially the waring parents.
It's beyond me ....you would of thought if both loved their children as much as they do, they would make a way to make thinks right whatever either have done. ..We don't suffer the children! !.....Unfortunately this takes 2 to make this happen.
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19th September 2013 #274
Gorgeous looking boys Mark. I can almost feel your excitement at getting them home for the first time.
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19th September 2013 #275
its very hard to really hate someone, at first maybe because you are hurt and the only way is to hurt that person too,
In my story i hated my then partner for what she did to me and at the time it would have been so easy to over step that mark and kill her and myself, thats how it got to me, you have to move on through the hurt and anger and in time it gets better and in a funny way the children do bring you round to thinking what you first had was good at that time but you know now, it would never have lasted, time is the greatest healer for everyone concerned
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19th September 2013 #276
Fully understand what your saying Gwaps its that sort of thing when you look at the boys you see her in them but not that hatred of her but the joy of the two little miracles that were born from you both.
That link will always be there and to hate only destroys any happiness that these two little guys deserve.
They are a real credit to you and I only hope things can be amicable in the future for you both.
BTW those pics lol your little boys look like twins absolutely adorable.
All the best buddy for the future your friend Mark...
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20th September 2013 #277
I don't quite know whether to advise counselling or a good lawyer to be fare one has to ask what did you do to create such hostility from your wife. I feel such sympathy for the children as they are innocent victims of what is a dysfunctional relationship Sadly it seems your marriage has irretrievably broken down and so The wellbeing of the children must now be the priority of both yourself and your estranged wife
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20th September 2013 #278
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20th September 2013 #280
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Since having the boys, Mark..I can't find it within me to hate her...This may seen strange to some...Even on our day in court, while my solicitor and daughter were whooping it up after the judge's verdict, I couldn't ....I could sense Jane was hurt by the outcome, all i felt was sorrow..what the hell do you make of that????....Here was a woman who for the previous 3 months tried to bury me without trace yet, I felt compassion for her at the end....She could of been right, I may of needed my head felt
I'm not getting carried away with this...what happened this weekend doesn't mean it's going to be the same every weekend. What can't be reversed is the boys memory of me any more....no more near 90 day separations!
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20th September 2013 #283
That has to be the one of the rudest, most presumptuous responses I've ever read. Just a few points:-
1. Have you taken the time to read the thread before jumping to conclusions?
2. To be fare? Who's paying for what The spelling is fair
3. Dysfunctional relationship? Who the do you think you are stating facts about something you know nothing about.
When you take the time to look up the difference between fare and fair, maybe you should look up the term internet troll at the same time You may find the similarities rather reflecting.
On a different note, it's getting to that festive time of year again soon and I hope you're a lot kinder to the children that come to see you, by the look of your picture you'd make the perfect high street Santa I see you've already invested in the red jumper
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20th September 2013 #285
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Steve Wool, Simon and Graham...many thanks again!!
I came home last night intending to post past happy pics but I was reminded any one can put in their 4 penneth worth, whether right or wrong, so I decided against it ...not only that, It wouldn't of been right to post another adult's pic without permission
Instead, I told you a lot more about me!!...that wasn't the intention
Simon's got me double checking what I post now Thanks anyway
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Great looking kids! You're doing the right thing to keep looking after them like this and just 'being'' their Dad. I'm so pleased you managed to get to this stage.
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20th September 2013 #291
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Thank you Trefor
I never had this relationship with then before. ..They were always kept from me. .even my mum was and still is a stranger to them. ..not to mention their elder brother and sister. .yes, it's a tragedy the marriage has collapsed but at least now the boys will have a considerable more rounded life.
We got this stage sorted hopefully the rest of the stages will go the same way
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20th September 2013 #292
Glad things are on the up Gwaps..
Cheers Fred!!
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20th September 2013 #294
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I gave him rep for one of his posts.
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20th September 2013 #297
While it's good to have a new member who voices their opinion and speaks their mind, I think you've jumped the gun on this one.
Speaking from experience, one can do their utmost best for their partner and receive abuse and hostility in return. And myself and gwap aren't the only ones.
You could be the most perfect loving caring individual on the face of the earth but there will always be people out there who will hate you for it. That's the way life goes unfortunately.
Interesting avatar btw.
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20th September 2013 #298
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Cheers Jamie. ..your last sentence was a hole in one.
Some may find that hard to understand but, it's true.
Some might ask why didn't I pick up on this at the start well, it wasn't there at the start.
Mission accomplished.
Cheers
Gwaps xx
BTW. ...I got nothing against folks having differing opinions to myself. ..what does nark me is folks not willing to spend the time boning up on the information before them before making their Judgement
Just a thought
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21st September 2013 #300
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Oh wow....lovely picture !
You're much better looking than I thought Mark.
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