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    End of Mick Cants marriage

    Hi all,
    Some might remember that I married my Filipina wife Jennifer in 2008 in the Philippines.

    She disappeared straight after our honeymoon with the money I left with her for visa and flight that she said she wanted to book herself.

    She had misused the money I transferred to her bank for her honeymoon before but I hoped we had got over that!

    Some 18 months after the wedding my wife finally arrived at Heathrow Airport in the UK on in September 2009.
    I had paid the visa cost again and bought her air ticket online and emailed her the ticket this time.

    We were together here 12 days and she returned to the Philippines.

    I loved her very much and was very sad she had gone, and did not know what to do next,
    In November 2009 I asked her if she would sign a divorce form if I sent it to her, so we could have a quick end to things, but she said she did not want to divorce, but to come back and make the marriage work.

    I was overjoyed at this and sent her an e-ticket for the flight from the Philippines and some money into her account to pay for travel items, and picked her up at Heathrow airport, in December 2009.

    She stayed six weeks this time, but there was no love on her part, she would not come with me to any form of marriage guidance or sexual counselling, saying it is private between us, I did make an appointment with relate and begged her to come with me, to save our marriage but she said no, I went on my own.

    In February 2010 she left and went to live with other Filipino’s that she knew and started working at a supermarket.

    I then found out she had a Filipino partner in Manila all along and that they had an 8 month old son!
    They had been together long before our marriage, this was a complete shock to me.

    The marriage and vows were a sham as far as she was concerned, I married her for love; she married me only for money and the visa.

    When she first came to the UK in September 2009; the baby would have been around 11 weeks old.
    In over two years of marriage we were together less than eight weeks.

    I realise I was warned, all I can say is I was in love, and love and trust go together, but even I realised there cannot be trust with so many lies.
    A divorce is in progress.

    Perhaps her family knew of the other man all along.
    Mick.


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    I'm so sorry to hear about your terrible experience Mick, but hopefully you will be able to find someone new, if that's what you want.

    You certainly couldn't be blamed for being cynical now.

    I think after 5 years you can divorce the other person without any involvement from them.

    Try to put it behind you and concentrate on what is good and positive in your life, then you can open a new and hopefully happier chapter.

    I think you're a brave man for putting this in front of us all, and for that you have my admiration and respect.

    Best of luck mate


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    All the best Mick. When the time is right for you, I sincerely hope that you find the love and happiness that you deserve. Try to stay positive and look to your future.


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    Mick,

    I echo Graham's words.
    I really feel saddened that you endured so much.
    I respect and admire that you loved and cared enough to try all you could do to save the marriage.

    I hope and pray that you will find the strength to move forward and that you will retain your power of enthusiasm.

    Thank you for sharing.
    God Bless


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    Goodnews Mick!!! Congrats!!
    Move on (don't be afraid to trust and fall in love again)
    ''A good man only deserves a good woman''
    ''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''


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    Hi Mick, you mentioned a divorce is in progress, does that mean the she signed the divorce papers already ?


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    Quote Originally Posted by sars_notd_virus View Post
    ''A good man only deserves a good woman''
    i agree sars...
    and for sure mick someday u will meet a girl and will be ur wife who will LOVE and TREASURE you...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Terpe View Post
    Hi Mick, you mentioned a divorce is in progress, does that mean the she signed the divorce papers already ?
    Hi Terp, I tried to send you a private message explaing , but it says you cannot recive them, Mick.


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    Quote Originally Posted by mickcant View Post
    Hi Terp, I tried to send you a private message explaing , but it says you cannot recive them, Mick.
    No worries Mick. If you need some help with divorce just let me know I will give you my email details


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    Hi mickcant,

    It is truly amazing what some people do for money

    Stay strong moving on with this divorce.

    Many people go through divorces to find real happiness and true love later


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    Just a side point regarding this.
    When divorce has gone through with a Filipna wife, and no domestic problems were documented in the UK/Phils during the marriage, it is OK to remarry a Filipina again I presume?


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    Phew Mick that's a sad one,best luck in the future mate


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    Doesnt surprise me one iota,loads of similar stories here,sorry for you that you were the pawn in her twisted game mick,and the odds are her family certainly knew,move on mate,cut all contact,this time for good,you deserve better to be honest.



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    Quote Originally Posted by aposhark View Post
    Just a side point regarding this.
    When divorce has gone through with a Filipna wife, and no domestic problems were documented in the UK/Phils during the marriage, it is OK to remarry a Filipina again I presume?
    Not quite sure what you meant... but :-

    The divorce decree absolute will show only:-
    Name of Petitioner
    Name of Respondent
    Co-Respondent (if applicable, either named or not named)

    The wording that follows is generally in the form of:-

    that the marriage solemnized on (date) at (location of marriage)
    between AB (petitioner) and CD (respondent) be dissolved unless sufficient
    cause be shown to the court within six weeks from the making thereof why the
    said decree should not be made absolute, and that no such cause having been shown,
    it is hereby certified that the said decree was on the (date), made final and
    absolute and that the said marriage was therby dissolved
    Dated (date)

    The decree absolute says nothing more.

    When you reveive this certificate you are the completely free to marry


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    I am sorry to hear this kind of tragedy Mick. As far as I am concern I feel ashamed as what other filipinas would do just to obtain prosperity.

    I am thankful that this kind of forum is present to let the others be aware and be sure at what they are in before they get carried away by their feelings.

    It doesn't only involve with filipinas though. I think this kind of sham works whether its a 3rd world country or not.

    Hope you will find the right woman for you Mick.
    Life as we make it


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    another sad story caused by a fellow filipina... what a shame

    i hope and believe that you will find the perfect woman for you mick... just like sars said: a good man only deserves a good woman

    again, everyone deserves to be happy


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    lots of wishes mick from many many friends , another chapter closes and one opens, look forward to life now and who knows whats around th corner, just stay focused mick


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    Hi all,
    I do not class all Filipina's the same I know most are looking for a true loving marriage
    I have also herd of English woman who are out for they can get.
    Mick.


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    Sorry to hear your news Mick. Its always a great shame to hear when these things happen. As you've just mentioned its important to remember that this type of behavior isn't limited to filipinas, indeed its occuring all over the world. I've a mate who just had a similiar experience with a uk girl. Obviously didn't need visa's etc but she took him for a real rollercoaster ride and nearly cleaned him out and left him in a right ol mess. The important thing is that within a short time he was over her realising that it was not his fault, he was not the bad person in the relationship and soon he'll meet someone who is worthy of him and willing to make a relationship / partnership work. Of course it helped that he had his mates near him to support him as you will have, in real life and in this forum.

    So stay strong, remeber its not your fault, you never know when the next big thing is going to come along and surprise you. THe thing now is to move on and spend some quality me time, go out and enjoy yourself and in time you'll start thinking about a new relationship.

    Good luck.
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    It's all part of life mate! Don't let nothing get you down..

    Nothing gets me down!

    There are 7 Planes Of Existance:

    7 — Material Plane: The earth, where you are right now.
    6 — Plane of Forces
    5 — Astral Plane
    4 — Mental Plane
    3 — Too mysterious to describe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nigel View Post
    It's all part of life mate! Don't let nothing get you down..
    ... 'nothing' [in itself] doesn't [normally] get people down, Nigel ... it usually has to be 'something'! (By the very nature of things)

    Quote Originally Posted by nigel View Post
    Nothing gets me down!
    Good for you ... I'll bet there're quite a few of us would like to be able to say that!


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    Quote Originally Posted by sars_notd_virus View Post
    Goodnews Mick!!! Congrats!!
    Move on (don't be afraid to trust and fall in love again)
    ''A good man only deserves a good woman''


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    hope u find a decent, good and loving woman u truly deserve mick...


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    Hi Michcant,sorry you been so much I know from personal experience my self,so your wife got pregnant to a Filipino man while married to you.you said she arrived in the UK 18 months after married to you then the baby was 15 weeks old,is this correct.


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    sorry to hear about this sad story Mick. for every sad ending, there is surely a new happy chapter that will come your way. i myself have been heartbroken but has never lose hope on love.

    i wish you luck on your next relationship


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    Quote Originally Posted by nigel View Post
    It's all part of life mate! Don't let nothing get you down..

    Nothing gets me down!
    Come on Nigel, life is ups and downs - that is the same for everyone all over the world
    If you don't experience "downs", you can never fully appreciate the "ups".


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    Quote Originally Posted by aposhark View Post
    Come on Nigel, life is ups and downs - that is the same for everyone all over the world
    If you don't experience "downs", you can never fully appreciate the "ups".
    nigel your living a dream wait til you wake up and your living a nightmare

    will come your way one day
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    Quote Originally Posted by baby38 View Post
    Hi Michcant,sorry you been so much I know from personal experience my self,so your wife got pregnant to a Filipino man while married to you.you said she arrived in the UK 18 months after married to you then the baby was 15 weeks old,is this correct.
    Hi baby38,
    Yes that is about right, I thought the visa should have taken around 3 months, but becouse she disapeared then more delays that I never found the truth about, except I now know she was pregnant, she arrived her around 17 months after our wedding and the baby which I did not know about then was around 11 weeks old.
    Mick.


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    Ok guys...

    so it's like this:

    "I've had so many downs in my life...I couldn't possibly have a single one more, it just isn't scientifically possible!

    So the only way is up for me! Woooohhhhhhhhoooooooo!!

    There are 7 Planes Of Existance:

    7 — Material Plane: The earth, where you are right now.
    6 — Plane of Forces
    5 — Astral Plane
    4 — Mental Plane
    3 — Too mysterious to describe.
    2 — Too mysterious to describe.
    1 — Too mysterious to describe.




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    Mick, dont worry what goes around, comes around. She won't be able to renew her visa.


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