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    Must read..." marriage"...please share

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and
    said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly.
    Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
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    Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know
    what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

    She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly,
    why?I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

    With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

    She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

    The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

    When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

    In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

    This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

    She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

    I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

    My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
    the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

    On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

    On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

    On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

    She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

    Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

    Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

    But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

    I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

    She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

    Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

    At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

    That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
    My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

    The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!


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    Very nice, and thought provoking.
    Thanks for posting


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    i read this about a month ago and it is heartbreaking.. thanks for posting this, everytime i read things like this it reminds me of how good my husband is to me... and i should cherish him everyday. i am often mean to him :-( huhuhu
    God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.


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    Again this made me cry...

    Don't give up someone you love most for someone you love at the moment....



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    i have read this story a year ago and this story really made me weep. i felt the unconditional love the wife has for her husband. even though it hurts to let go of someone you treasure so much you'll do anything as long as you that special someone would be happy even if it means sacrificing your own happiness.

    if that is going to happen to me ill be doing the same thing. I know its stupidity but at least my husband would realize soon that no one in this world would do such an act. That nobody in this world would love him like I do. He may have fallen in love for someone but I know deep within his heart I still have a place that no one else can touch except him. That no matter what happens Im just around waiting for him to come back even though I know it would hard for him to do.

    This is just base on my opinion guys. I believe that Marriage is a life long commitment. It is a life long responsibility that no matter what happens you should be with each others side.

    As I end this comment I would just say...A wife / husband is always and will always be the missing rib of each one.

    God bless to all!! I hope i can be with my fiance soon.


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    wow, thankyou for telling us its what we have now that counts


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    a very moving & heartbreaking story


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    i've read this story last year and i've read it again (twice) today, the other one is in facebook..

    a very moving and heartbreaking story indeed steve !!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by stevewool View Post
    wow, thankyou for telling us its what we have now that counts
    yes it is steve be thankful with what you have now because God believes that is what you needed the most now... im happy seeing couples that are together now...i envy everyone,,


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    is it a true story?


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    Quote Originally Posted by triple5 View Post
    is it a true story?
    yes i think so


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    I wonder if he carried on with the new woman


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    Quote Originally Posted by triple5 View Post
    I wonder if he carried on with the new woman
    no he didnt...he realized that all that time his heart still belongs to his wife.


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    Quote Originally Posted by dennie View Post
    no he didnt...he realized that all that time his heart still belongs to his wife.
    Took his time realising that after she died alone with cancer


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    sad but true


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    I have read about this before but i didnt finish reading as i was already in tears. Didnt know the wife died from cancer. If its ever a true story i admire the wife for being such a good wife and a mother.

    But im sure a lot of couple is going through this similar story..some have ended up good some didnt.

    Thats why we hear about regretting of getting married or experiences what had been through and it has made them a lot stronger with their relationship.
    I'm a cruel and heartless bitch but I’m damn good at it!



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    Quote Originally Posted by -sillybilly- View Post
    I have read about this before but i didnt finish reading as i was already in tears. Didnt know the wife died from cancer. If its ever a true story i admire the wife for being such a good wife and a mother.

    But im sure a lot of couple is going through this similar story..some have ended up good some didnt.

    Thats why we hear about regretting of getting married or experiences what had been through and it has made them a lot stronger with their relationship.
    hmmmm i will comment to your statement silly billy just my view...i think we must never regret anything in our lives for it is us who decided on it no one else did gave the final decision. we might get advices from other people but at the end of the end it is us who decide for ourselves.

    we all do commit mistakes but what is important is to learn from it and do something good and better next time. we were not given the chance to live here in this planet without hardship. all of us do because thats the time we realize that we need each and everyone to live and progress in life and to ask guidance and help from our creator. every mistake and unfortunate events in our lives must be save on our experience bank.


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    Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.


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    Quote Originally Posted by triple5 View Post
    is it a true story?
    Doesn't matter, its the moral of the story which is more important.


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    lets face it...some good things never last ( its either they dont know how to make it last or they stop working to make it last)


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    For 3/4 of the story, I thought this was a genuine relationship experience by love8888. As mentioned previously, certainly provokes thought as well as emotions

    Was this story a real-life experience does anyone know?


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