what would you do?

[bornatbirth]

or maybe she can stay with u

anytime

we only live 5 mins from you,so she can come and chat with you while im at work

what if she did come and stay with you for a few days and her hubby didnt look for her and stuck with you for months??

[maria_and_matt]

666

thought its 69

[Sophie]

thats why when hes at work she should pack up and go stay with a friend maybe maria

then he might realise what he will lose,if he doesnt come looking then she needs to leave him?

LOL, now you want her to move with maria for good, she will be stucked with her forever, lol
Maria might go insane, she might still carry on crying, bad suggestion BAB, lol

[maria_and_matt]

anytime

we only live 5 mins from you,so she can come and chat with you while im at work

what if she did come and stay with you for a few days and her hubby didnt look for her and stuck with you for months??

she stayed with me for a month last year while hubby was away on a 'business' trip... never again... and i mean never, all she talked about was STD's her hubby gave her... and she cried a lot... i do not do crying very well unless someones died

[maria_and_matt]

LOL, now you want her to move with maria for good, she will be stucked with her forever, lol
Maria might go insane, she might still carry on crying, bad suggestion BAB, lol

i agree with u there soph, bad bad bad idea

[Mrs.JMajor]

Oiii friend, nice to see you sharing this sort of things ha, havent read members reply, I just read the first post of you, my opinion is.......Why should I insist myself he doesnt love me anymore

[Tawi2]

she stayed with me for a month last year while hubby was away on a 'business' trip... never again... and i mean never, all she talked about was STD's her hubby gave her... and she cried a lot... i do not do crying very well unless someones died

STD's Seriously that is sad,she needs some form of self esteem affirmation and counselling,her husband sounds like a slug How old is he?

[maria_and_matt]

Oiii friend, nice to see you sharing this sort of things ha, havent read members reply, I just read the first post of you, my opinion is.......Why should I insist myself he doesnt love me anymore

desperation drove me to share this hahaha

[bornatbirth]

tell her you have swine flu??

[Tawi2]

tell her you have swine flu??

Something as commonplace as that wouldnt scare her off,for goodness sakes she is a veteran of Chlamydia Vaginal warts and other unmentionables

[maria_and_matt]

STD's Seriously that is sad,she needs some form of self esteem affirmation and counselling,her husband sounds like a slug How old is he?

he is in his 40's... she miscarried 2 years ago, the cause..... be ready for this, its some sort of STD he picked up in Thailand. chlamydia (had to google that for the spelling)... so sad but if she lets him get away with all this the abuse will never stop. its a loonnnggggggggg story, im just so fed up i am past caring already

[maria_and_matt]

tell her you have swine flu??

swine flu wont put her off seeing me im afraid..

[Northerner]

he is in his 40's... she miscarried 2 years ago, the cause..... be ready for this, its some sort of STD he picked up in Thailand. chlamydia (had to google that for the spelling)... so sad but if she lets him get away with all this the abuse will never stop. its a loonnnggggggggg story, im just so fed up i am past caring already

I know what I'd do if I was her.. But if I said it, it might get me banned from this forum, so..

The fact that he returns from Thailand with STDs makes me think he is having unprotected sex with prostitutes Tell her to get a full test, HIV, the works.. But she really needs to get rid of this guy.

Tell her to sleep with his boss, that'll mess his head up

[Tawi2]

No way,his bosses todger might develop those gungy pustular eruptions and leak snot coloured puss after sleeping with her,she really needs to leave that guy but you know what?She wont

[Sophie]

he is in his 40's... she miscarried 2 years ago, the cause..... be ready for this, its some sort of STD he picked up in Thailand. chlamydia (had to google that for the spelling)... so sad but if she lets him get away with all this the abuse will never stop. its a loonnnggggggggg story, im just so fed up i am past caring already

I had a friend exactly like yours back home, she is like the queen of all martyr's and all she does is cry and seek my comfort and sympathy.....
but in the end, i got fed up of hearing thesame thing and giving my advise over and over but she never listens, like i'm talking to a wall.....
Like you, i also got to a point where i've gone past caring already and i wanted so much to just hit her head on the wall so she wakes up and gets to her senses.....

[Northerner]

No way,his bosses todger might develop those gungy pustular eruptions and leak snot coloured puss after sleeping with her,she really needs to leave that guy but you know what?She wont

Yeah.. Instant career kill

*Sigh*.. Tawi is right, she will never leave him and we all know it So, just tell her to either leave him or shut up about it

Perhaps that will push her to seriously consider it.

[maria_and_matt]

I know what I'd do if I was her.. But if I said it, it might get me banned from this forum, so..

The fact that he returns from Thailand with STDs makes me think he is having unprotected sex with prostitutes Tell her to get a full test, HIV, the works.. But she really needs to get rid of this guy.

Tell her to sleep with his boss, that'll mess his head up

i told her to poison him

but i have told her to go to the hospital and have a HIV test done regularly.

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

i told her to transfer the moeny they have to an account he does not know of and leave. told her she is better off without him, but she keeps on telling me she loves him and she is praying that he will change. i told her the chances of that happening is so slim. at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

[Tawi2]

Covers her face with a pillow you know there are shops in Pinas that sell cyanide for fishermen under the counter?Or she can get castor beans or make abrin,a poisonous lectin from the seeds of.............

[Northerner]

i told her to poison him

but i have told her to go to the hospital and have a HIV test done regularly.

First of all, why the is she still having sex with this

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

Just when I thought I couldn't dislike this guy any more, you lay a belter on me I'd have him playing wifey in the Bangkok Hilton if I was your friend The evil things I'd do to him just can't be mentioned

i told her to transfer the moeny they have to an account he does not know of and leave. told her she is better off without him, but she keeps on telling me she loves him and she is praying that he will change. i told her the chances of that happening is so slim. at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

[Sophie]

at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

That's sort of what i did to my martyr friend back home maria, i got so fed up about her crying and not doing anything about it.....
so i shut down on her, i told her i don't wanna hear about her husband and her crying and moaning about that jerk again....
i told her i've had enough listening to thesame nonsense over and over again, and that i'm so sick of seeing how pathetic she is already.....

I also told her i'm so disappointed with her coz she used to be something before this jerk came along,
she used to be smart and beautiful and confident about herself and she let this jerk took it all away
and made her feel she's not good enough and she doesn't deserve better, and that's what made me really mad.....
she let him take away the best side of her and her self worth and self respect and that's what disappointed me so much
because i've known her to be better than that.....and it's sad she let him strip her off of her dignity and did not refuse to be a victim....

I love my friend but sometimes you have to exercise tough love as i want the best for her, sadly she doesn't realize what's best for her.....
Maybe your friend needs some tough love too maria, she needs to get back to her senses before its too late......

[Sophie]

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

why does he cover her face with pillow when they have sex? Is it because he is so disgusted to see her face and turns him off
or he enjoys brutal sex and derives sexual pleasure from inflicting pain and suffering during sex?
Either way, he is a monster, if i were on her place and he did that, the husband will be in the hospital ICU by now or probably on his funeral already ....

[pumpkins]

i heard from my sister yaya's story that their neighbor husband cheated on her so what she did she soaked her husband underwear on a juicy chile so after that day this husband wore his underwear and his birdie felt absolutely hot then it became swollen big time.. that what your friend should do to her cheat husband,his birdie should not be happy to others nest..give him a lesson, dont tolerate what he is doing.. let her punish his birdie hihihihi

[britishdetained]

Nope,I like mentally strong women(they need to be,I do strange things sometimes)

strange things?


anyway maria i think advise her to report her husband to the authority then leave him or he will do that again and again. She may soon realised she had buried herself in a relationship that full of pains and insecurities.


or if she want she can do what Muslim women does if their husband cheat on them... cut his *****

[trader dave]

as usual i am going to say something different it is all very well us telling her to use our sometimes stupid divorce laws

if they was both living in the philippines and she went to see her priest and said father my husband is a to me and he is unfaithfull

what would the preist say ............... forgive him ????

[britishdetained]

i told her to poison him

but i have told her to go to the hospital and have a HIV test done regularly.

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

i told her to transfer the moeny they have to an account he does not know of and leave. told her she is better off without him, but she keeps on telling me she loves him and she is praying that he will change. i told her the chances of that happening is so slim. at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

He should seek psychological help.

too much flirting with girls, and now he is covering her face with pillow...that is mentally sick bas***. Your friend must see a psychologist too as she allows those thing to her. Both are not normal. Good that they dont have any children as I would pity the children more than her. She needs to respect herself by leaving that w****r.

[britishdetained]

If my husband do that to me...well his parents would start collecting parts of his body from different parts of the Philippines

[pennybarry]

a very good friend of mine (she's filipina), has been married to her british husband for about 4 years now. the hubby has cheated on her before they got married and recently went to thailand and had a sexual encounter with a filipina ex there. i have told time my friend time and time again that she should leave him. she told me she can't coz shes catholic and her parents will disapprove. i have her here in my home often crying her eyes out, to be perfectly honest i am so sick of it. why put up with a man that don't treat you right. i really have no patience to sit here and listen to her, it gets me so down.

if you were me, what would you say and do?

Teach her to be more realistic and accept failures in life. Tell her, having a dishonest and unfaithful husband is living with hell.

I have also 2 friends with same situation. They have both son in their first marriage. Their hubby hurt physically their son. One is not bothered and I cried when I saw her son hurt physically and my other friend simply divorced her husband. I will not allow anybody to hurt anybody. I have seen many cases that most stepchildren of their hubby are not treating well.

I know some wives can't leave their husband because they have children and scared to live without support and hard to live if jobless. Too bad they are living in hell and hard to escape.

I will salute those women who left their evil husband with children or not.

Being brave, realistic and accepting your failures will actually help.

She is lucky anyway, she has friend like you and have shoulder to cry on.

[miss.piggy]

a very good friend of mine (she's filipina), has been married to her british husband for about 4 years now. the hubby has cheated on her before they got married and recently went to thailand and had a sexual encounter with a filipina ex there. i have told time my friend time and time again that she should leave him. she told me she can't coz shes catholic and her parents will disapprove. i have her here in my home often crying her eyes out, to be perfectly honest i am so sick of it. why put up with a man that don't treat you right. i really have no patience to sit here and listen to her, it gets me so down.

if you were me, what would you say and do?

Hi Maria,

It must be really tiring listening to the same issue nonestop. Your friend may be taking advatage of your friendship and does not realise that the drama is now putting you off.

Suggestion: tell her straight that it's starting to distub you listening to the same drama again and again. As a friend, tell her you appreciate her friendship ofcourse, but it's just becoming unhealthy for you and it's not fair.

"Thou shalt not commit adultery". Your catholic friend should not feel guilty leaving her husband as God will not banish her for deserting someone who is committing a mortal sin (to the catholics' belief).

Her husband is obviously disrespecting her to the highest form. Accepting it is disrespect to herself.

[vbkelly]

a very good friend of mine (she's filipina), has been married to her british husband for about 4 years now. the hubby has cheated on her before they got married and recently went to thailand and had a sexual encounter with a filipina ex there. i have told time my friend time and time again that she should leave him. she told me she can't coz shes catholic and her parents will disapprove. i have her here in my home often crying her eyes out, to be perfectly honest i am so sick of it. why put up with a man that don't treat you right. i really have no patience to sit here and listen to her, it gets me so down.

if you were me, what would you say and do?

tell her leave him and move on and kick her ass

[Tawi2]

Daves right in a way,if she is 100% strict catholic she should follow her teachings and forgive him turn the other(butt) cheek